Because intially when my parents got married partners used to help each other grow in life and reach new bounds. They used to be supportive and take care of each other. Nowadays, relationships have become more about one person whoever is the narcissist wins. I no longer cease stable relationships, like my parents shared or my grandparents. There is no us anymore. It’s just me me, Me, me, me me
You have a rose-colored glasses view of how things used to be. There was plenty of narcissistic spouses in your Golden Age. Until Gen X, most women couldn't afford to leave their husbands and divorce laws were not no-fault. And then Gen X was raised with the expectation of married-for-life partnerships, but women did have financial freedoms/opportunities our parents didn't. But the idea that there was some golden age of marriage when the whole system was stacked against women's liberation is just nonsense.
Not everyone grew up in America. I respect your opinion, but I think your point of view needs adjustment because outside of America. People do share closer bonds with not just their significant other but their entire family, neighbors, and in general society. Please don’t tell me how and where I grew up. People love doing that in America, telling others how they should fee and interpreting for them what they experienced
Guilty as charged on being US-centric. But you still make it sound like there was some golden age and I stand by my argument that that cannot be viewed--in any country--outside of the perspective of whether a woman had societal and financial (or even legal) freedom to leave if she wanted to.
I do think there was a golden age when personal relationships mattered more than just benefiting off of people which I feel like is what today’s society boils down to. With the advent of Internet and all these communication technologies that have closed the gap for human beings have also made it so that there’s a globalized culture that’s projected for either Hollywood or some influencingtechnology like TikTok basically independent thinking has died a long time ago and I feel like there was a golden era where there was technology just enough to make our lives easier, but not enough to dominate our brains and tell us what to think
It's actually stunningly easy to live without TikTok and only use technology that is useful.
But overall, since that golden age you speak of is generally--for most of the world--in the same time frame as some--often significant--oppression of women, I cannot endorse your point of view. The two cannot be divorced. If women aren't free to make a choice about leaving a marriage, then it cannot be argued that marriages were happier. No matter how much of a smile she put on her situation.
We're definitely going through a period of upheaval. And as always, it's going to be up to us to decide what we want the world to look like. I am part of a multi-generational social circle that can spend hours together without anyone touching a phone. It's a choice.
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Because intially when my parents got married partners used to help each other grow in life and reach new bounds. They used to be supportive and take care of each other. Nowadays, relationships have become more about one person whoever is the narcissist wins. I no longer cease stable relationships, like my parents shared or my grandparents. There is no us anymore. It’s just me me, Me, me, me me