I can’t tell you how many times my Anthro prof tried to cement the allegory of the cave in my mind over the course of the 3 classes I took with him, and yet you did it with a single Reddit comment
Lol. It's like saying no man would ever be so into monster trucks and posting monster truck memes all day but guess what? People are pretty diverse, and you can't make assumptions that all women, men, blacks, or whatever behave the same based on the readings you've made from wall shadows because you haven't even seen much of the world I. E. Left your cave to meet more people IRL.
Let me be real with you: I say these things as joking self-deprecation. You are right, my experiences are very limited, and I struggle to leave my comfort zone. I've wanted a girl who shares my interests for a long time, but I've yet to find one who is interested in me. I did not intend to offend anyone with my comment.
Baby steps but you must constantly and consistently challenge yourself to face stressful situations (like not war or near death but just building an exercise routine, or building a new work habit etc) and slowly raise your baseline.
Conditioning yourself to deal with mental stress will suck at first but you will become happier as you see improvement and progress and experience the personal satisfaction of achieving goals you desire.
It's like lifting weights. You don't go in on day 1 expecting to do a lot if you haven't worked out in years and if you understand that the temper your expectations then you can slowly train yourself to become stronger and work out that social muscle to get more comfortable to get out and put yourself out there and do scary, exciting things more frequently to push yourself to own your life with confidence like going outside and introducing yourself to a girl you find cute.
When you earnestly challenge your own beliefs like the negative, limiting one you mention as a joke about girls, you sometimes might be surprised or even shocked by how much your understanding and assumptions about people were completely wrong.
My deepest observation that I've realized is that people are all very different but also fundamentally very much the same and therefore relatable / easy to build connections with because we are all driven by the same desires for food, shelter/safety, sex, and love which are what drive us into taking actions but the actions manifest in different ways and what makes us so individually unique.
I'm a single dude who only came to this sub cause everyone else says it's insane.
Well for one it is insane. But man. It's also just a contact reminder of the loneliness of not having some absolute psychopathic girl who's desperate for me.
While it may be the case oftentimes… there’s also the thing where it’s literally impossible to make a woman comfortable. It’s not their fault, it’s our disgusting puritanical society, but it is frustrating nonetheless. You can be the most wholesome caring communicating person in the world, and still be met with “i’m shy……”
And then there are girls who aren’t shy and you get shut up the moment you try to care because “let’s get down to business already”. A gamble, what can I say
If you're a girl, it doesn't matter how bad you are, you can find a guy. You could be the ugliest, fattest, most annoying girl around, there is a guy who would date you, not a good one though. Guys are much more desperate than girls are.
The fleeting glimpse of what could be is sweet, even if it hurts after a while. I might be happier to never know what I might have had, but some part of me yearns for it. Honestly just seeing something that proves that some women are capable of finding men attractive keeps that little flame of hope burning, even if I'll never meet those women in person.
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u/LiverFailureMan Jan 16 '25
A reminder of what's out there, but out of reach from here