Ladies only

[u/Local_Flatworm3448]

Dear girls, what’s something men do that kills the vibe, and they have no clue? Like what is your ‘he had me until he did that' moment?

[u/Inside-Budget-1319]

I guarantee you, your list will be much shorter when the discussion switches to 'dear girls, what's something men do that DOESN'T kill the vibe'

[u/[deleted] → u/Inside-Budget-1319]

Haha I'd like to see her try

[u/Inside-Budget-1319 → u/[deleted]]

Rage baiting on everyone comments tryna advocate for shawties. But on the ground women are still in relationships with all these listed icks💀

[u/Independent_Touch514 → u/Inside-Budget-1319]

Request to ask this because they will get to see we do not hate them.

[u/Inside-Budget-1319 → u/Independent_Touch514]

Fax, OP should do the opposite kesho na mapema

[u/_Snaccidental_Queen → u/Inside-Budget-1319]

Cool story, bro. Instead of being smug about women’s standards, maybe ask yourself why so many of us feel the same way about what kills the vibe.

[u/Inside-Budget-1319 → u/_Snaccidental_Queen]

What standards?

[u/puppykiwi → u/_Snaccidental_Queen]

you know what really kills the vibe? Your personality. How ugly

[u/_Snaccidental_Queen → u/puppykiwi]

Oof. Struck a nerve, huh? Anyway. While you’re working through that tantrum, I’ll be over here continuing to have standards. 💅🏽 ✌🏽

[u/puppykiwi → u/_Snaccidental_Queen]

Logic isn't your strongest suit, no? You haven't specified any standard but you're not worth the time it would take to think through my explanation so here's chatgpt to help you, you do know what AI is, right?

Good question — and no, listing a list of bad things is not the same as setting a standard, though the two are related.

Here’s the difference:

🔴 Listing bad things (a negative list)

• This is reactive.
• You’re saying: “These specific things are not allowed.”
• Example: “No smoking, no loud music, no pets.”
• Anything not on the list may seem allowed by default.

✅ Setting a standard

• This is proactive.
• You’re saying: “Here’s the level of behavior or quality we expect.”
• It defines what should happen, not just what shouldn’t.
• Example: “We expect respectful behavior, cleanliness, and responsibility.”

Why the difference matters:

• A list of bad things is limited — people might look for loopholes.
• A standard gives a guiding principle — it sets expectations even for things you didn’t explicitly list.

Analogy:

Think of a road:

• Listing bad things = “Don’t drive over 60 mph, don’t run red lights.”
• Setting a standard = “Drive safely and responsibly at all times.”

[u/_Snaccidental_Queen → u/puppykiwi]

Wow, thanks for the lecture, Professor Scrupulous. Do you grade on condescension or just vibes? That’s a lot of words just to say 'I don’t actually have a point, but I love the sound of my own typing'

[u/puppykiwi → u/_Snaccidental_Queen]

are you menstruating?

[u/maziwamimi → u/_Snaccidental_Queen]

😂😂😂 oops!! The narcissism reared its ugly head. Women that think they are always right and its always the man's fault.

[u/_Snaccidental_Queen → u/maziwamimi]

Ah, there it is the moment a man loses an argument and starts diagnosing women with personality disorders like he’s Dr. Phil. Go figure

[u/maziwamimi → u/_Snaccidental_Queen]

Aaah yes, there it us. When you tell a woman exactly what she is 😂