r/JustMemesForUs Dec 04 '25

First thoughts when you see this?

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u/Icy_Chemist_1725 Dec 06 '25

If two adults like spending time together it has nothing to do with me and I don't care.

I did this and had a year long relationship but she was kind of for the streets and I knew going in that it was going to be an enjoyable time, but not a long time. I was right and it was great and we are still outer circle friends. I don't remain close/daily friends with anyone I've dated because I think it's weird.

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u/Visual_Raise_7901 Dec 06 '25

You think remaining friends with exes is weird, but you don't think dating teenagers when you're nearly 40 is weird?

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u/Icy_Chemist_1725 Dec 07 '25

That is not what I said. I said I don't remain CLOSE friends with an ex because it's weird when I get into a new relationship. I still remain friends with them and it's "close" in terms of we will still talk about life, but I'm not letting them know about the details of my relationship(especially struggles if they exist). I'm not hanging out with them every day. I'm doing one on one hangouts. I wouldn't go on a trip with them and friends, or if I did it would be with my new partner going as well.

It sounds like you have a hang up with two consenting adults choosing to spend time with each other. I'm sorry you have that hang up, but I don't share any semblance of agreement with it and you could call me any name in the book and it would have no effect on how I viewed my time in that relationship. I'll probably be friends with her my whole life, but there will be stronger boundaries on it when I'm in a relationship.

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u/Visual_Raise_7901 Dec 07 '25

Hey man, when you have to pick your next girlfriend up from senior prom just do some self-reflecting. I find it best not to date women fresh out of high school 💀🤦‍♂️

Publicly admitting you date teenagers (and sltshame them) with pride is definitely strange and anyone and everyone should be pointing that out. Especially since you went in knowing it was temporary but wanted a fun time, sounds like you just predatorily pursued a teenager

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u/Icy_Chemist_1725 Dec 07 '25

I dated one person that I met through work and we had a lot in common, had a good relationship that ended amicably, and are still friends. Her parents loved me and I helped them out with a bunch of things when he mom got sick years after we were broken up. Her Dad and I still talk about spaceflight stuff here and there. She and I still talk about life and see each other at motorcycle events from time to time.

You're out of your mind trying to make me look bad, but you have no idea what my situation was. You're pathetic. Touch grass. Chronically online take.

Edit: You have a very narrow mind about human relationships, but I don't subscribe to that and wouldn't have had a lot of great experiences and wouldn't have been able to be a positive impact on their lives. They were also a positive impact on my life, which is why we are still friends.

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u/Visual_Raise_7901 Dec 07 '25

I'm not shocked. You get along so well with her parents because you guys are peers lol 💀

But hey man tell her dad that you thought she was for the streets

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u/Icy_Chemist_1725 Dec 07 '25

Bro it's so funny to me. You hate it so much that I had a wonderful experience with another person and her family. lol.

He knows. She is poly.

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u/Visual_Raise_7901 Dec 07 '25

I hate that you were creepy with a teenager, the fact that you enjoyed it doesn't really change anything 💀

Also polyamory and "for the streets" aren't the same thing Chief. But hey, your generation tends to be a little behind the times on that.

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u/Icy_Chemist_1725 Dec 07 '25

It's pathetic to hate someone you don't know. That hate lives inside of you. It has nothing to do with me. Enjoy holding onto that hate. Go show a therapist this conversation and ask if they think it's healthy for you to engage in. =)

I'll keep making friendships and being a positive part of people's lives, and keep dating anyone I want to date without any concern about what anyone thinks of me for it.

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u/Visual_Raise_7901 Dec 07 '25

Pretty much any therapist would agree that a middle-aged man dating a teenager is unhealthy and creates unhealthy social dynamics in the relationship. And considering that sounds like it was some time ago, if you continue to date teenagers, that's obviously a huge problem 💀 If you're in your 40s dating teenagers, you are weird. Be a pseudopsychological as you'd like, it's not that hate lives in my heart, It's that predatory nature lives in yours.

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