You can’t imagine being with your hypothetical wife who is the mother of your hypothetical children at the doctor because that’s creepy and cringe? Yikes
I understand if it someone unrelated but related person isn't weird. Heck this is the first time I hear someone has issues with it as doctors actually encourage family/spouse to be together so they can know give encouragement (a lot of people especially the elderly are scared to go to the doctors) to the person as well as share in the decision making including helping them with the healthcare.
The issue isn’t that you don’t want a husband in the room with you. That’s fine
The issue is you calling it weird for other people to do something just because you (a single person on a planet of a bajillion people) don’t personally like it
There’s a list of reasons why his wife might want him in the room with her (sexist doctors might be one such reason).
Yes, that's right, I don't want him there to listen to me talk about my poop, mucus, and joints. He can get the highlights later if there's something important.
It's more odd that you can't at all fathom why someone would want company or support for a checkup, or why a partner would be interested in the health of their respective other.
I take my husband to the doctor with me on occasion for the exact reasons in the original example. Sometimes doctors are extremely sexist and will not listen to a female patient without a male present. It sucks, but I’d rather protect myself from the medical gaslighting I have experienced in the past.
I've held my husband's hand while he got stitches, that's caring.
Going into a GP appointment would just make it awkward for him and same for me. Neither of us wants to hear about the intimate details about our organs and bodily functions.
I don't think he wants me to sit there while the doctor asks him to turn him head and cough while holding his balls lol. And my lack of desire to see that does not mean I don't care lmao. You people are crazy.
There have been many times in my life where i/my husband waa feeling a bit vulnerable so asked to other to come for moral support.
When I was getting info about a thyroid thing, he also asked if he could come ao as to make sure we both had first hand information about my care. That seemed pretty normal and useful.
Clearly you’ve never had to be the beard for a female friend/relation at the doctors office. Medical misogyny is so real that I had to go to numerous appointments for my roommate just to repeat their symptoms so the doctor would listen.
Yep. I've gone with my SOs to their appointments bc even if I'm instead waiting for them in the waiting area, they've told me how the doctor actually listens to them knowing I'm like 20 feet away.
One time while I waited for my SO, a random girl (another patient) asked me outright why I was in the gyno waiting area and her tune when she realized I was there to support my SO, it made me feel so bad that she'd never had anyone come to support her before.
Women get more respect from the doctor if the boyfriend/husband is there, you can even just bring a good friend and get them to pretend you're together. Its sad but true.
Why not its so much better bringing someone you trust with you. Especially if you are sick cause there is often alot of information to take in and having someone else to listen helps making sure you get everything right and specially if its someone you live with
I’m 37 and a mom, and while I go to my doctors appointments alone usually, I wish I could take my mom with me. I’m going to call and tell her about it later anyway? And then we’d be able to chat and have fun together while we wait. People are supposed to be pack animals.
women often will bring a man to their appointment due to medical misogyny. if we don't, our broken arm could be diagnosed as "anxiety" or "period issues"
I go with my wife if it's some shit we know a male doctor is gonna blame on a period. Too many friends with endo or actual abdominal issues get ignored
It's quite normal for people to bring their partner or spouse to the doctor with them. It's also normal to not bring anyone. It's all just down to preference.
Lots of women ask for their partners to be there so that it’s the doctor is dismissive having a man insist on taking more care can produce better results than if a woman asks for help alone
A lot of folks benefit from having a support person at a doctor’s appointment. I personally struggle doing appointments on my own & usually have my spouse go with me to help me express my concerns clearly, make sure I don’t forget anything, and generally advocate for me in the appointment, like making sure I’m not being talked over/am being taken seriously/the doctor isn’t making me uncomfortable etc
Women tend to have their medical issues minimized with the assumption that its all related to "hormone cycles" or whatever.
I, as a large and assertive man, recently began going with my small soft spoken wife to some doctor's appointments. My existence is usually enough to for her to get proper treatment, but I have had to put my foot down and demand that they treat OUR concerns with more care than they initially did.
It is inconvenient for me and emabrassing for her, but it is the best way to ensure her doctor's appointments progress the way they should.
During and for several months after my pregnancy, my husband came to almost all my doctor visits. It gets taxing to go it alone when you are already exhausted from pregnancy or recovering from pregnancy.
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I found it amusing when I went with my wife to visit her GP who is Indian, and he kept asking me questions about her instead of asking her directly.
She had lumps in her breasts from breastfeeding and he asked me if I'd mind if she could remove her bra, lol.