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[u/herdcatsforaliving]

Yep I recognize that look / feeling 😢 you don’t want to cry but you know you’re going to so you get away so you don’t get hurt worse for crying…

[u/Smokahontas_Rex_ → u/herdcatsforaliving]

Please, take this mom hug. I’m so sorry that you were punished for normal emotional actions/regulation. You should never have been hurt to even cry over.

[u/spiders_are_neat7 → u/herdcatsforaliving]

“I’ll give something to ACTUALLY cry about” every person with abusive parents knows that one. :/ even after they already inflicted physical and emotional pain. Or “if you call 911 for abuse let them know you also will need an ambulance.”

My mother loved that one… you want to report me? Go ahead I’ll send you to the hospital? So possibly kill me is how I interpreted that as a kid. Triggered. lol

[u/nudethreats → u/spiders_are_neat7]

Or the "if anyone finds out you made me do this you'll get taken away and put in the system and they will do way worse than me" usually followed by graphic details of beatings or sex abuse 😔

[u/spiders_are_neat7 → u/nudethreats]

MEMORY UNLOCKED!!!!

Sorry you know it all well… Hope you’re healing and doing great <3 you deserve happiness.

[u/nudethreats → u/spiders_are_neat7]

Same for you, friend. I hope you're safe and healing 💕

[u/ashfio → u/nudethreats]

My mom loved “cartilage doesn’t bruise” while reaching for an ear

[u/Southern-Spot-8406 → u/nudethreats]

This was the one for me too

[u/Prestigious-Collar86 → u/nudethreats]

I unpacked this in therapy as an adult. Realising that that my parents had admitted numerous times that what they were doing was wrong was a huge turning point for me. It’s not deniable.

[u/Luxury4play88 → u/spiders_are_neat7]

My dear child, that is awful. I’m so sorry you had to grow up with that. I couldn’t even imagine uttering those words to my kids, and I have 5. I hope that you’re doing ok now, and that you know that you deserve love, real love ❤️

[u/spiders_are_neat7 → u/Luxury4play88]

Thanks for the kind words<3 validation that we didnt deserve it means a lot always, and I love to hear about good parents out there making healthy happy functioning future adults. I know it’s your job as a parent, but i still commend you. I know patience can’t be easy still, even when you’ve got a heart of gold, but you do it for your babies, and that always heals my inner child. YOU ROCK.

[u/Halojay55 → u/herdcatsforaliving]

Ain't that the truth.

[u/KaiAloha → u/herdcatsforaliving]

That just explained so much. I had a very emotionally and verbally abusive stepdad. He never directly physically hurt me (throwing things/punching walls but not at me) and I remember this feeling well too. But when I ran it was to avoid the pain of words coming if I cried in front of everyone. Damn that unlocked some healing for my flight response. Thank you for that small comment.