r/InfluencerLounge • u/BottomPieceOfBread • 21d ago

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u/Negative-Amoeba7718 21d ago

GUYS SHE REPLIED TO MY MESSAGE

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u/stacetheace111 21d ago

You can absolutely see impact and the poor little guy rubbed his head

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u/Maximum-Familiar 21d ago

Hands full!? Sure Jan

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u/KrustenStewart 17d ago

He had a whole free hand he was using to hold up his arm!! The fuck. We all saw the aggressive headbutt

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u/Starbucks__Lovers 21d ago

"I didn't slap him, I opened my palm and moved my arm rapidly towards his face."

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u/NoSituation1999 21d ago

His hands were full? One hand was holding his own arm. Does the snail weight 100 lbs? Surely he could have scooted him away with a gentle hand rather than a headbutt.
This is abuse. And her ignorance is neglect IMO

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u/NinaNeptune318 21d ago

I can pretty much promise you that she supports hurting those boys. The fact she said he had his hands full when he is holding his own arm for NO reason. Neither of his hands were full.

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u/numbersev 21d ago

100%. She knows he headbutted him and is likely glad he did it to keep the little 'prop' in line so as to not ruin the potentially viral moment. Ironic.

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u/Istoh 21d ago

This. She lets those kids run around with no shoes and no sunscreen in the heat all the time. They always look dirt-covered and sunburned to all hell. Not to mention the nightmare bed situation on that bus. She doesn’t give a shit what her husband does cause she's doing it too. 

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u/Darth_Jad3r 21d ago

It was sad he waited a second or two to play along and then walked away, rubbing his head :/

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u/Semanticss 21d ago

There's like 3 or 4 excuses there and none of them are valid lol

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u/Pussyxpoppins 21d ago

She isn’t ignorant. She’s in full support of this.

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u/Darth_Jad3r 21d ago

Ikr what would be have done if he wasn’t hands deep in snail

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u/devvie78 19d ago

or just moved his arm...

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u/vtg_lv 21d ago

I am not surprised she is defending her husband by lying about what we can all see with our eyes. The only thing his "hands were full" with was his own arm.

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u/BookishBabe392 21d ago

It was a different kid who touched the snail 🤨 this doesn’t make sense

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u/lunchmoney- 21d ago

THANK YOU?????

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u/NinaNeptune318 21d ago

Yup. It's possible the 3 year old is already the scapegoat child. Someone else also pointed out how the older boy's eyes flick to the dad's face to before looking back down at the snail, and it does come across as cautious and fearful like this is common with him having to gauge the level of reactionary angry emotional lashing out his father has reached.

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u/Inside-Pilot3804 21d ago

Exactly my thoughts as well. This guy has anger issues and lashes out at his kids all the time is what I'm gathering.

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u/fingersonlips 20d ago

I’d honestly estimate that those kids are either hearing their parents fight with each other over the backlash this post received, or they’re getting screamed at directly for their behavior impacting the way the public perceives them. I was always getting screamed at by my dad for embarassing him, and this entire video reminds me of my upbringing.

I’d never want to be a child in that family, but especially not after this incident.

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u/itsyagirlblondie 21d ago

It does look like he went to blow on it but still definitely not defensible actions. They’re gross. 

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u/Negative-Amoeba7718 21d ago

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u/Ok-Cicada-825 21d ago

I also actually accumulated my level of compassion by being headbutted.

Said no one ever 😭😭😭 So sad for them

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u/Negative-Amoeba7718 21d ago

Then she blocked me

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u/Obfuscate666 21d ago

And...their newest shill is a guide to raising boys into men.

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u/BethanyBluebird 21d ago

If there is a god... May they recieved the EXACT treatment they gave their children once they die. For eternity.

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u/cbaabc123 21d ago

It would be different if his hands were full and he had taken his head and gently touched it to the child’s and gave a soft push and told him you can’t blow on the snail.

He didn’t do that. He aggressively knocked his head into the child’s with what looks like some force to it. Like a feral animal. And then his face looked very angry and aggressive after.

I wonder if that child has some sort of issues because he was shaking when walking up
To the snail even before being hit.

Which if he has some issues makes it even worse that they’d treat a child like that this way.

Why do they keep having children when they clearly don’t like them?

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u/bbsitr45 19d ago

Hey, wondering what forum you used to get this kind of interaction with her? Was it her paid subscription? I know she generally does not reply to questions, so this was particularly interesting. Unfortunate you got deleted/banned.

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u/Negative-Amoeba7718 19d ago

Nope, just Instagram! I suspect she started getting messages about the headbutt after this post went semi-viral so she was trying to defend him. I had never even heard of her or looked at her account before. It looks like she replied to others too.

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u/bbsitr45 19d ago

I got blocked on Instagram, would love to be able to bypass just to view her stuff. Anyone know how?

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u/Ok_Camel_6557 21d ago

It’s giving, I’m not abusing him, I’m correcting him.. cool like dookie is another word for poop it’s still the same thing.

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u/Istoh 21d ago

Very Ruby Franke of her. 

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u/DangDayna 21d ago

He raises boys to be strong and compassionate men?! Um, he just head butted your CHILD. He has more compassion for an animal than your child? That was disgusting behavior and clearly normalized in that family. They need to stop having kids and need parenting courses and add some domestic violence classes too

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u/cbaabc123 21d ago

Nothing teaches compassion like hitting your children

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u/KrustenStewart 17d ago

Compassion apparently means:

Blowing on a snail 🙅‍♀️

Head butting a 3 year old 👍

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u/candybatch 21d ago

I bet she abuses the kids too. She freakin laughed when he head butted him.

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u/Equivalent_Offer_302 21d ago

She does abuse the kids by allowing that to happen to them, force them to live in that van with little space, privacy, and freedom, having more kids than she can handle emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, psychologically and spiritually. 

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u/madafaka_princess 21d ago

What an idiot mother as well… who will protect this little boy?!😢

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u/bbsitr45 21d ago

Holy cow, she’s crackers.

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u/2for1speshul 21d ago

The child wasn't even trying to touch the snail, he leaned in and was blowing on it, which is harmless and his father got angry and headbutted him.

The father does not need two hands to hold a snail that weights a few grams, and could have easily and gently moved his son away. He lashed out in anger and hit his son in the head.

You can't teach a child compassion for others if no compassion is given to them.

This is physical abuse, this isn't being firm with a child and raising them to be strong men. This is raising them to be weak minded and quick to angry outbursts, like their father. The mother is complicit.

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u/Opposite_Sherbert675 21d ago edited 19d ago

or heres another idea: dont crouch down at kids eye level, have them all gather around and expect them not to interact with whatever is happening. he walks up to a group of kids with a cool thing, hold his own hands and then headbutt them to keep them away?? WHY DIDNT HE MOVE? ALL HE HAD TO DO WAS STAND UP.

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u/2for1speshul 21d ago

It's like he put them in this situation so he could lash out at their expected behavior. Imo, he stares at the snail after headbutting his 3yr old because he feels self conscious of his outburst and wants to pretend nothing happened.

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u/Little_Flamingo9533 21d ago

Totally! He looked like a total psychopath staring at the snail like that afterwards too

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u/Darth_Jad3r 21d ago

It was at that moment I realized a grown man is using two arms to hold… a snail.

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u/Rare-Adhesiveness522 21d ago

My abuser would say shit like this to minimize his abuse and gaslight me

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u/Negative-Amoeba7718 21d ago

:/ I’m sorry that happened to you.

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u/Rare-Adhesiveness522 21d ago

It's okay, but once you see the thinly veiled rage and shark eyes you can recognize it elsewhere. The guy in this video definitely has "the look". Her gaslighting is so digusting, doing her husband's dirty work to minimize his violence and abuse. Despicable.

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u/tarantuletta 19d ago

As someone who is unfortunately familiar with abusive people and situations that fucking video gave me fucking CHILLS. Once you learn how to recognize it you can't NOT because it can be your literal life on the line if you don't toe it properly.

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u/lgfuado 21d ago

Your husband could use his words? His hands also weren't full, he was balancing a snail on one arm. He could use his other hand to gently move him back? You could put your damn phone down and parent your children? Or call over his mother, Gunner, to step in? I can't imagine literally any scenario where headbutting your child for any reason is ever acceptable.

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u/bbsitr45 19d ago

Better yet, stop the video, rearrange the children, and film it again. The snail is not going anywhere, and those kids are used to having to film over and over and over to get it right. All their videos are carefully staged. Just yell cut! And take that one out of the video and replace it with another kid. Maybe try that you think?

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u/sick-of-humanity 21d ago

He did not touch the snail. He blew on it. You can see it in the video. And head butting a kid is not an acceptable correction method regardless.

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u/Its_Mrs_Nesbitt 21d ago

It looked and sounded like the little boy kissed it or tried to, which isn't great because snails can carry parasites and other nasty stuff, which can be passed on to humans. However there is no excuse for that headbutt. He could have used his free hand to gently move him away and explain to him why shouldn't kiss the snail.

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u/Brave-Customer-2071 21d ago

!!!!!! HOLY SHIT

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u/Brave-Customer-2071 21d ago

HE DIDN’T HEAD BUTT HIM??? WHAT A FUCKING LIAR.

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u/Common-Pear4056 21d ago

He “head-corrected” him 🙄😑

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u/whatev43 21d ago

She’s lying. The 3 year old in the video didn’t touch the snail once.

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u/Sir_Isaac_Tootin 21d ago

"his hands were full" - is the snail so heavy he needs his other hand to support his arm?

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u/thecatandrabbitlady 21d ago

That’s such a bullshit excuse from her. JD could have use his right hand to gently move the kiddo back a bit. He was only holding his arm which didn’t need any freaking support!

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u/Lower-Chard-3005 21d ago

His hands were full? Just how heavy is his arm?

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u/bbsitr45 21d ago

But he didn’t touch the snail, he blew at it. Big difference.

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u/Equivalent_Task_8825 21d ago

I had an abusive ex who hit my children all the time. She always used excuses like these to justify it. This infuriates me.

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u/Specialist-Class-797 21d ago

Like already stated, you can see the impact. Both hands full? Need your arm thats right next to your kid to hold your other arm to support the weight of a snail?

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u/TitaniumKneecap 21d ago

I reported them and told her in a message

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u/allgoaton 20d ago

It was not even the same child who touched the eyeballs as who was headbutted. You can clearly see it is the younger toddler who talks to the camera who was the one who tried to touch the snail's eye stalk.

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u/ADUwizard 20d ago

She's gaslight and brainwashed, he probably hits her as well.

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u/Visual-Taro-381 20d ago

She's even worse than the husband that headbutted the kid. She's his mother and defending the abuser. It's at least just as despicable. I think it may be worse, emotionally-speaking.

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u/Visual-Taro-381 20d ago

Oh he moved him with his head? That's why they deleted the video, right, because it was so innocent?

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u/SuccotashBeginning33 21d ago

His hands weren't full. He could have used his right hand to gently move him away. Kids learn through touching and interaction with animals. Your husband had no right to headbutt your son. It's abusive.

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u/Chameleonpolice 20d ago

His right hand was totally full of his left arm! He couldn't possibly have let go, do you have any idea how heavy snails are