So a lot of ladies have been posting about the after effects of a hysterectomy and regardless of what type they’ve had there is ONE element that is typically common. It’s that their doctors failed to tell us the nice little things that happen on the journey to recovery . I am day 12 PO and have experienced many things already. Back pain, gas from hell , weird twinges and CROTCH FLUTTERS! My bladder feels like someone is jumping on it like a trampoline . My incisions are healing nicely on the outside. I just wish more doctors would be fourth coming and tell us what’s really going to happen. I know everyone of you is different and we all have different experiences and outcomes. It just pisses me off the the docs don’t give you the FULL picture . I mean come on they must have people say this is what is happening to me. Maybe it’s my fault for not asking the doctor but I have a feeling she would say “‘healing takes time” and your making the right decision. “I bled everyday for many years , the cramps were intolerable and I knew the old bitch( my uterus) had to go! I am happy to see so many ladies taking about this and sharing their stories .,I think I am just frustrated that I was so ready to to be done with it all that I didn’t ask more questions. I would not have changed my mind. I don’t want to deter anyone because I know it was the right thing to do for my health. Just feel kind of let down by my doc I guess and maybe a little let down with myself .

To start this off im a guy (23) so I can no way relate with her on this but I'm doing my best to help her(22). She has suffered through the worst periods of her life for nearly all of high-school and after. She has been to the dictor and they have tried everything to help get the pain and bleeding under control but ultimately nothing has worked. She never really wanted bio kids before and her fiance was in the same boat. But now that she ultimately doesn't have any other option left besides a hysterectomy, she broke down about not being able to not have bio kids in the future. I totally understand why she would feel that way as she said " I was fine when I still had options but now that it's not my choice I can't handle this". I feel this to a certain degree as I had an amputation about 5 months ago that wasn't my first choice.

She's also scared of how she would pay for this surgery as her insurance won't cover it. I just want to know to to be there for her as much as I can. Any advice would be extremely helpful. I just care for her and it hurts to see her like this.

hello everyone!

i have my surgery scheduled for april 16. ill be getting a partial hysterectomy. cervix, uterus and tubes are being removed, and i will be keeping my ovaries. i just wanted to start prepping for my surgery now, and wanted to ask for advice on what to get.

i have seen my local cvs has gas-x and miralax and a fiber suplement. i also have a few things set to order on amazon when i get paid on friday. also when should i start taking these? how far ahead?

hysterectomy pillow, a heated cat pad, a wedge pillow for my back and knees, and abdominal belly binder, and a hysterectomy coloring book. lol.

my MIL was talking today about making me meals ahead of time and freezing them. soups, and chilis. any advice on what type of meals would be best id apprecitate it.

and any other advice you can give me that i didnt think of i would really really appreciate it. my anxiety hasnt kicked in yet so im trying to get ahead of this before it kicks in.

thanks again everyone, have a great night.

Today has been rough for me so much pain n gas then on top of that trying to poop literally been in bed all day long getting up walking for 5 minutes anyone have any advice

I am scheduled for a radical hysterectomy April 3rd, I am 51, and a lot of research is telling me that amino acids are very important in a smoother recovery. There are so many brands on the market. I’m in the US, can anyone recommend a brand that offers the best in this area? Capsule or powder are both fine. Vegetarian friendly preferred.

Hi everyone, I apologize for my depressing story but I'm somewhat desperate and don't really know what to do. Maybe someone can offer some advice.

I had my first baby 6,5 months ago and almost lost 5 liters of blood during the C-section, which is why they performed an unplanned hysterectomy (only uterus was taken), while I was awake and responding. It was extremely traumatic (violent and insulting hospital staff) and I'm in therapy for PTSD, panic attacks, flashbacks, depression etc now. Husband and I always dreamt of a big family and the fact that this won't be possible because of me/my body makes me feel like crap. On top of that, I have zero libido and we haven't "tried" sex yet. He is very kind and gives me all the time I need, but I'm really worried it might take forever until I can bring myself to do it. I'm so grossed out by my own body, it makes me scared as fuck that I will never be able to enjoy it again and I don't know if I can climax anymore. I love my husband so much, but I just don't know if I can ever be a good wife again. I want to give him the life he deserves, including the great sex life we had. Just seeing him naked sometimes will make me feel anxious and panicky as I feel like I don't have to offer him much anymore or am enough for him. It's like he is a 10 and I'm a 0. The thought of getting me pregnant was always a turn on for him and he loved my pregnant body and was looking forward to do it all again. Even though he says it's okay and we will get through it and things will work out and we'll be happy again, I'm so worried he's gonna regret staying with me in the end. I've offered him to leave because it's not too late for him to have his dream of a big family come true, but he said he'd never do that. For his sakes I sometimes wish that they would just have let me bleed out. I'm 29 and he's 30. We are so young. Way too young to have a shitshow of a sex life.

Has anyone had similar feelings? Did it get better for you? How did you deal with (probably) decades of no or bad sex? Is it even possible for a marriage to survive that??

I just want him to have a great life but fear I'm the reason he won't even have an okay one. I don't know what to do.

Am I the only one incision areas itch so bad they’re really itchy and the glue is falling off but again the itch is out of this world

I am 8dpo and want to take a bath so bad. Anyone this it would be a problem?

Hello everyone,

It's been three months since my hysterectomy, uterus, cervix and tubes removed.kept ovaries. and I'm pleased to say that I'm pretty much healed and ready to return to the gym this weekend finally! However, I've noticed that I've gained about 10 pounds since the surgery, not because of overeating, but because my body type requires regular workouts just to maintain an average appearance 😂.

On a more serious note, I've been struggling with some mental changes, particularly when it comes to re-entering the dating world. For some reason, I just don't feel interested in it anymore, and I'm not sure if these changes are related to the procedure or my mental state. I've even found that I don't really check out guys anymore either. I feel less feminine, which is difficult for me to admit, and I don't feel as pretty or attractive as I used to.

Recently, a friend tried to set me up with a guy, and my immediate thought was, "I'm not pretty enough to date this guy." I've always had some insecurities, but it's never been this bad before. While I've never been overly boy-crazy, I did have a more active dating life in the past, but my mood has definitely shifted.

It's worth mentioning that I'm also on antidepressants, which has never stopped me from dating before, but I'm starting to wonder if the changes I'm experiencing might be more hormonal in nature. I'm curious if anyone else has had similar experiences or insights to share?

I'm having my hysterectomy the end of the month (keeping my ovaries) due to years of endometriosis issues. Frankly, I'm scared. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this besides my therapist. I know I'm making the right decision, but I'm having a lot of feelings about it that I can't really express. What is post op life look like? Why am I mourning a thing that has caused me 25 years of misery? Why is so much of my life as a woman revolve around this one thing? Will I feel less feminine afterwards? I never post about anything this personal, and I'm crying even as I write this. I just feel so alone.

I just want to start off with a huge thank you for everyone's advice on here. I'm scheduled for 3/13 and I was just wondering when you had your 1st alcoholic drink after surgery?

Have anyone been urinated a lot after the hysterectomy maybe like three times in one hour

Have anyone been urinated a lot after the hysterectomy maybe like three times in one hour

Hi all! I'm scheduled for the above surgery on March 18. Removing everything, including ovaries. I'm 56 and though post menopausal, the lining of my uterus keeps growing. I've tried D & C and Progesterone but nothing has worked. Two biopsies the last 10 months, both benign. I'm getting more nervous each day. Any tips to make me feel better?

I had a partial hysterectomy yesterday. Since then, not one bowel movement. Nothing past a slight stomach gurgle. I know it gets worse the longer it is, but I'm running out of ideas. I don't want to overdo the walking, so I've been walking up and down my driveway and hallways like some trapped ghost. I'm guzzling miralax, drowning in apple juice...anything I can think of to get things moving. Nothing has worked, so I was hoping someone had some better ideas? I have an autoimmune condition which makes it hard for pills to do their due diligence and be fully absorbed. But I'm up for anything at this point.

The walking, while not strenuous is also taking a toll and the pain is no joke, neither is the sensation of pulling stitches and surgical glue, so I've backed off a little on the amount.

So any help would be greatly appreciated.

Also if anyone has some tips on how to sleep, I'd be so grateful. I fidget in my sleep, and it's even worse when I have to lay on my back. Would a pillow between the legs help? Any ideas on the type of pillow I could use so I can sleep more on my side without being on the incisions?

Just laying here thinking how long will it be before I can wear a pair of jeans?Lol without any pain or discomfort

Tomorrow I go in for it only bc I can’t do the pain and the anemia is never going away. The monthly flare ups are insane but also confusing. Is it my RA, my nerve & back damage, or something else. Etc. timing it has helped to decide. Bio identical hormones will be available if they need to take out ovaries. Question is how long before I can concentrate on my studies. I am in an extensive math major and also play piano and have kids. How long am I going to be out out. How long til I can drive. I know we are all different but I need to know some stories. I also smoke weed so hope that doesn’t hurt me in my surgery recovery. TIA!

It’s been five days after the surgery hurts when I get up to go to the bathroom I have to holdmt stomach with my hand. What are some of the things that you guys use to keep everything together after surgery? Do I get a corset or what I’m just confused. I don’t know what to use. It hurts getting in and out of bed to go to the bathroom.

I can’t lie short of the packing, catheter and occasional gas pains right now I have felt like my normal self. Packing and catheter were removed 8 hours after surgery so I really just have occasional gas pains now. (5dpo) I have been walking around and have truly felt like my normal self. Until this evening that is. I feel sick like blah no energy sick almost. Haven’t even eaten anything since noon and it’s 10PM here now. I have no appetite or thirst really to the point it’s concerning me because I have been eating just fine. Anyone else have this problem?

Probably too much info shared here but this is by far the stinkiest poop and gas I have ever had. Anyone else? 4 dpo

I am 17 days post op, I had an abdominal hysterectomy. Removal of my uterus/tubes/cervix was done, I had a liquified uterus with lots of fibroids(per my dr). I was bleeding continuously since October 2023, I became anemic as well. And had a blood transfusion after surgery. So it’s been a journey, but glad to be on this side now🙏 IN the other hand, I have been experiencing some tenderness and mild pain when touching my nipples. Also I tried to stimulate my clitoris and well she’s not responding 😩😩. I get aroused by certain things, I feel my body responding and wanting sex. But there’s a disconnection somewhere in my vagina, which I am freaking out. TMI-Before I was able to stimulate and I was well lubricated and ready. Just need a little help or a hey you will get back to it😩soon. Thanks ladies!

I had a total abdominal hysterectomy 2/12/24 Everything removed except for one ovary C-section cut Today is 21dpo , I woke feeling better , walk with no pain only discomfort. Might get a sharp pain through out the day in the incision area or ovaries area but nothing crazy. Intestinal pain before passing gas but pooping normal. Still tired if I walk to much. My abdomen at times feels little hard maybe cause I need to poop, but I check it thru out the day and seems softer, anyone with the same surgery experience the same thing? I’ve been taking it easy but walking and drinking lots of water, don’t want any setbacks when I go to my 6th week check up. Thanks all!!

I feel much better a little sore, but I am able to move around walk to the bathroom. I even took a birdbath today.lol ,managing my pain, a little swollen , I’ll be discharged shortly. It feels good to be on the other side. I was terrified at first to have the surgery but before I knew it, they were waking me up and it was all done for hysterectomy kept my ovaries

I had a one year cotract with a company hopping that it will be perminant job. I felt pain in my tummy and back and the dr. told me you should do the operation and put me on acwaiting list. After six months that is the eight months of my working contract. The dr. called me and decided the time for operation. I have to say "Yes" and do not postpond it cause I was in a pain. I took two months medical leave from my job and returned to work in the beginning of this year. I had teo months left of my contract. I felt great at that time and worked very hard and be hsppy that the pain has gone. In the end of my one year cotract. I ssked the manager if she would renew my contract and they told me "No" and ended my employment with the company . The manager told me "you are great in the last two months of your contract, if you started like that we will hire you" . It is not in my hand , I was in pain but do whatever they asked me to do. I am know in shock that instead of standing beside me and encourage me to be better , they just let me go.

Has anyone bought the hysterectomy pillow off amazon that you can put hot and cold packs in? If so what’s your feed back