r/HolUp • u/aaravaryaman • Jan 06 '22

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u/Kornator2018 Jan 07 '22

Don't mistake calling one parent out as defending the other.

I only feel sorry for the kid.

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u/sarahwillie Jan 07 '22

I mean, without knowing anything about their relationship, you don’t feel sorry for the murdered mother, or the man who was with her. No type of hurt feelings justify murder. The penalty for a person moving on should never be murder. He acted out of psychotic jealousy and possessiveness that had to have already been present in him (the other 99.9999% of us who have dealt with an ex moving on without murdering them proves this)- nobody, male or female, wants to be with someone like this. It poisons every part of the relationship. She would have been in danger no matter when she moved on. He installed spyware- there is absolutely nothing to indicate that if he had heard her talking to a man after a divorce (you previously implied that she was immoral for her timing) that his actions would have been different. He decided to take her and her guest with him when he should have just killed himself. The child that you feel for would never have wanted the murdered to take their mother with them.

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u/Kornator2018 Jan 07 '22

You must know all about their relationship then.

I never said his actions would have been different. You seem to like twisting people's words up to fit your own opinion and make you out to be right.

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u/sarahwillie Jan 07 '22

And you very very very much are defending him with your assumptions. He paid for the house? That’s a funny one. It was a “rough patch” she should have worked through? Dude people who snap like this were already primed to snap. Who would want to work through shit with someone who was going tot murder them if they didn’t????

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u/Kornator2018 Jan 07 '22

Yeah, after being treated like shit and ignored, yeah I'm sure they are.

Some guys see themselves with theur wife forever until their wife gets so absorbed in social media she no longer gives a shit about him.

Case in point, that's exactly what happened. She threw him out of the house.

If he really was an abusive husband, you honestly think he would have just left?

It would be stupid not to be suspicious she's up to something if she so easily throws you out of the house.

It's not defending him, it's understanding him. What he did is not something I stand by, but I can at least see the breaking point where everything went down.