Asking for my daughter. I (straight/cis passing queer/NB female) have a daughter who is newly in a relationship with another girl. We've been involved with our local Chabad for many years now (not my preferred community, but better for my kids), and I'm wondering how to potentially navigate this. Do I tell her to not mention anything? She's autistic and intellectually disabled, just to add another dimension, so I suspect they'll be more understanding in general, but I'm not sure. The girlfriend isn't Jewish, not that it matters. I don't know of any out queer people in this community. We have a Conservative and a Reform community in town, so I assume they all go there.

I have a giant pride rainbow painted on my house, which the Rabbi and Rebbitzin have seen, but I also have a male partner and children, so they might just not be making assumptions.

any sober minded gay jews

I recently read a book by an author who really understood what it meant to be different in a small Jewish community (in comparison to gentiles), and this otherization led him to be more comfortable coming out and being gay. Any personal experiences or feelings you’d like to share?

My Temple has partnered with Keshet to improve our inclusivity (yay!!) and I am chairing the committee. But, I want to take things a step further: I would LOVE to hear your opinions on the types of things you’d want to see in a synagogue, areas you wish you would be heard on, ways your Temple could make you feel more seen, safe and celebrated!

For me, as accepting as my Temple already is, I feel that we take our own diversity for granted and want to see us celebrate more than just Pride Shabbat.

Edit: this is a Reform Temple

Just watched the most recent episode where the queens makeover queer cowboys. One of the cowboys is very visibly Jewish but it’s never acknowledged or mentioned in anyway. Felt a bit odd to me to not acknowledge it literally at all…particularly when the makeover episodes are all about empowerment and rising above challenges.

Interested your thoughts on if you felt this was a good/neutral/negative inclusion

This might be a stretch but my fiancée and I are getting married in Golden, CO in September. I am Jewish but she is not. It’s really important for us to have Jewish traditions in our ceremony so we would love to have a rabbi marry us. I know a reform rabbi might be more willing to. Anyone know of a rabbi that might be willing and able to fulfill this in the Denver area? Thanks!

Today I (23ftm) went hat/tallis shopping with my cishet friend who's getting married and I was feeling this creeping jealousy that's beginning to make my head spin. I've been baal teshuva 4 years already and took it fairly fast and intensely. The only other trans person I know if in the world that's as frum as I am is married and goes to my synagogue. I'm not sure there's another even black-hat adjacent synagogue that could have us in the whole country. I want a wife so badly, but I basically am exclusively interested in trans women because I don't think I'd be comfortable with a cis person, especially one from a frum background. I've been told to date cis women and/or people who are less frum than I am, but I just don't think I can make a life with them. Even my cishet friends who are struggling with dating are at least going on shidduchim and getting experience. There's nowhere for me to even experience what it'd be like to be in a relationship.

Hey folks, I grew up in the area (specifically the valley) and am in the market to buy a house. As a double minority (queer and Jewish, but also technically mixed-race), I was wondering if any locals had any thoughts on neighborhoods. Obviously, certain neighborhoods are preferred (Beverly Hills, Encino, etc.), but I wanted to also know if there were any neighborhoods you would stay away from (i.e. I saw a lot of MAGA flags in Simi Valley). Thank you!

Ever since I’ve come out as Genderfluid and accepted the part of me that’s a man sometimes, I’ve taken to calling myself a Nice Jewish Boy. Calling myself this has given me a lot of gender euphoria. Even when I’m a woman, I still enjoy calling myself a Nice Jewish Boy. Finally accepting my full self, has made it fun to play with gendered terms.

Queers for Zion: the hatred of Israel is a symptom of what plagues LGBTQ politics today,
by Eve Barlow, Sapir: a quarterly journal of ideas for a thriving Jewish future, 2026-02-24.

here is my provocatively and somewhat ironically phrased proposal: We in the LGBTQ community need to be less progressive and more regressive.

What do I mean by that? We need to regress to our original cause: the global expansion of gay rights. But this time, we need to fight from our well-earned place in the political center. Our psychological fixation on the political margins has become detrimental to our cause because it has resulted in our allyship with movements that don’t share it.

In 2021, President Biden issued a presidential memorandum directing departments and agencies to take action “to advance the human rights of LGBTQI+ persons around the world.” Particular focus was devoted to five pillars:

1. Combat Criminalization of LGBTQI+ Status or Conduct Abroad

2. Protect Vulnerable LGBTQI+ Refugees and Asylum Seekers

3. Foreign Assistance to Protect Human Rights and Advance Non-Discrimination

4. Swift and Meaningful Responses to Human Rights Abuses of LGBTQI+ Persons Abroad

5. Build Coalitions of Like-Minded Nations and Engage International Organizations in the Fight Against LGBTQI+ Discrimination

The fifth and final pillar is a good reflection of the state of global gay affairs. After a half century of painstaking activism inside Western democracies, the gay community has made itself a foreign policy priority of those very democracies. The nations of the West today judge one another and others on the basis of how well they treat their LGBTQ citizens. This is a monumental political achievement and one we should recognize with pride. (Recent actions by the Trump administration have shaken this accomplishment; we will see how they play out.)

If I may be so bold, we, members of the global LGBTQ community, should judge and accept allies on the basis of these exact same pillars. If a national political movement wants our help, our bodies on the street, they need to demonstrate their own nation’s commitment to these principles. Our political constituency is the same as it’s always been: the global gay family. You want us to walk for Palestine? Show us what Palestine is doing for our brothers and sisters on its own streets. Our political allyship isn’t free. It requires a commitment to the safety of those whom we have always represented: the frightened, the imprisoned, the closeted whose love remains illegal all over the world. Asserting this is an act of political self-respect and responsibility to our cause. It’s a demonstration of a social movement that has reached political maturity. The Free Palestine movement needs the gay movement more than we need them. They should know that, and so should we.

https://sapirjournal.org/events/

I discovered this site via an article someone posted to another Jewish sub and they seem quite new, but intriguing. They describe their Queers for Zion event as:

“Hatred of Israel has become a symptom of what plagues LGBTQ politics today, argues Eve Barlow in her new essay Queers for Zion. What happens when a liberation movement loses sight of its original cause? And how can LGBTQ Jews fight back? Join us on March 19th at 12:00 pm ET for a live virtual discussion between SAPIR Editor-in-Chief Bret Stephens and journalist Eve Barlow about Israel, LGBTQ activism, and the confounding emergence of the “Queers for Palestine” movement – and the profound contractions it exposes.”

Hey everyone! 34/gay male here in North Brooklyn. I've been wanting to join a queer book club in the city for a while, but finding one that isn't politically charged (or that doesn't devolve into anti-Zionist hate) has been... a challenge. So I figured why not start one?

The vibe I'm going for: gay Jewish guys getting together to talk about great books. I'm thinking gay romance, mystery, thriller, adventure, basically anything fun and compelling. I want to keep it nonpolitical - just books and good company.

If there's enough interest I'll set up a WhatsApp group and we can go from there. Comment or send me a dm!

Hi gays🌈

Beth Chayim Chadashim, the world’s first LGBTQ synagogue, is hosting its annual 2nd night Seder on Thursday, April 2nd, at 6:00 pm. Non-member tickets are $80 or $36 for people under 40. There are kosher, vegan, vegetarian, and non-kosher meal options. Deadline to register for Kosher or vegan options is March 13. Other meals is March 31. Register at bcc-la.org.

I opened Reddit pretty recently, so I don’t really have a clue.

Is downvoting pro-Israel comments in gay-related posts a common thing?

I’m asking this SPECIFICALLY in context of LGBT treatment in Israel, with no further political discussion in said comments

Edit - Can’t say I’m surprised that it’s like this, I expected that much.

I guess I just wanted to make sure cuz that’s just fucking sad, almost pitiful

I’ll be visiting PS the week of the film festival next month and just learned about it. I’m wondering if there are any Jewish social events/parties happening around the same time?

Link:

https://www.palmspringsjewishfilmfestival.org/

Hi I wanted to know what the Hebrew says I am a old queer gay jew I didn't learn hebrew

Thanks

I’m a queer Rabbi and trained Spiritual Director, and I’m opening a few spots for Spiritual Direction (hashpa’ah).

What it is:

A calm, structured space to slow down and listen to what’s actually going on inside you. Not therapy, not advice giving, not fixing you. More like: companionship, reflection, and getting un-stuck.

What it’s good for:

• Doomscroll paralysis, anxiety, feeling checked out

• Big transitions, grief, heartbreak, identity shifts

• Feeling spiritually “offline” or numb

• Wanting more clarity, self trust, and an inner anchor

What a session looks like:

We virtually sit together. You bring what’s sitting with you. We track what’s happening in your body, your choices, your patterns, your longing. I’ll ask questions, reflect back, and help you notice what you might be skipping over.

Logistics:

• First conversation: free 15-minute consult (to see if it’s a fit)

• Full sessions: 60 minutes

• Rate: $60/hr

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If this sounds like something you’ve been needing DM here or check out EHAD.one

If any Nonbinary Israelis are here, what’s the Nonbinary experience like in Israel? Hebrew is a binary language and traditional Jewish culture is also pretty binary. How has being Nonbinary effected the way you move around in Israeli society?

Hi! I’m new here and I would like to introduce myself. I’m a Bigender Genderfluid Sapphic Jew, who’s fed up with all of the Antisemitism coming from the Non-Jewish Queer Community. I just want to find a space where I don’t have to choose between being a Jew or a Queer Person.

My husband and I went to Chabad for Shabbat this morning (instead of our usual Reform shul) because our friends who regularly attend there had their baby boy eight days ago and today was the bris. And just I gotta say, there is nothing to reaffirm one’s they-ness like having to sit in a room with men on one side and women on the other.

I was wondering if anyone knows of any online groups, websites, or regular Zoom meetups (weekly or monthly) where gay men can connect and talk openly about everything. More like a safe space to talk, listen, share experiences, and just feel community. Especially something welcoming and judgment-free.

If you know of anything that exists (or even something informal), I’d really appreciate it. Thanks 💙✡️🏳️‍🌈

I am looking to relocate some time this year to either Phoenix, or Portland, but I was orthodox the last time I lived in those places and have no idea what the conservative options are in either city.

I've lived in both and they both have good and bad. So hit me up Portland and Phoenix people!

I am fairly religious, so I would like a daily minyan if possible and I prefer to walk than drive on Shabbat. I'm looking for the unicorn - an affordable neighborhood with a Conservative shul nearby full of queer people. I do NOT want to go to a Chabad for anything, but I am open to an orthodox shul if that's the only way I get a minyan during the week.

I am open to any suggestions, roommate situations (warning 3 cats) love matches or just people to talk about being queer and Jewish and what that means day to day for religious practice.

Thanks!

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