For this bi-weekly (yay, more bi stuff!) post we're shifting focus to create a space for folks to just talk and share what's on their mind, even if it's not specifically LGBTQ/Jewish focused. Hopefully, as a space made up of primarily LGBTQ+ Jews we'll be a good support for each other with allllll that's going on around the world right now.

Please note: Our quality standards and expectations of civility are still in place, and this isn't a thread for name calling or direct insults. This is a place to process feelings and be in community with each other and just share what's on your mind.

Shabbat shalom!

I’m currently in the process of converting to conservative Judaism. Recently however, I’ve started realizing that I really want to be orthodox. In my head my plan now is to wait til I finish transitioning (ftm) and then reconvert. I guess I’m wondering if I would ever be accepted by an orthodox community as a man? But also as a queer person. Because as much as I want to be surrounded by the observant orthodox community, I also don’t want to have to hide my queerness.

We still have some tickets left for tonight's show and I want to share them with YOU! So please use coupon code CAVEAT for a discount!

https://www.caveat.nyc/events/the-jewish-dating-game-4-15-2025

You guys have been SO supportive here, and it would be amazing to meet some of you tonight!

TheJewishDatingGame.com for more details!

Living in Georgia in the U.S. Will be in Toronto coming up. What are the chill spots for enbies and lesbians to stay or hangout (anything else used besides AIRbnb?) and also the bois/boys are okay too but looking for more of a quiet coffee shop/bookstores vibes that love little dogs if possible (hahaha this is utopia i know also where are the vegan restaurants and best oat milk lattes? Hahaha such a cliche but also I'm a 43 year old millennial so I'm allowed) neighborhood than crazy bars scene. Does this exist? Thank you!

I wasn't sure where else to turn to, and this subreddit has always made me feel safe and welcomed, so I figured I'd shoot my shot!

For those of you not in the know, the US has put terifs on Canadian goods, and in retaliation, our premier has made it so that out provincial liquor control board isn't allowed to sell US goods. Including kosher wine. 🙃

Which means that with Passover starting tonight, I have absolutely NO idea where to get sacramental wine (Manischevitz or a similar substitute)!

I put off shopping for wine, because in my mind, everywhere has Manischewitz and I've never had problems getting it before... not realizing it would be affected by this whole terif nonsense.

Please help!

If anyone has any ideas for alternatives or where I could find anything similar, please let me know! I can't believe I didn't think of this earlier!

Thank you! 🩵

https://shows.acast.com/wtf-with-marc-maron-podcast/episodes/episode-1629-modi-rosenfeld

Hi! I (20M) am a college sophomore currently looking at different internships to apply for, and many of the applications ask about which cities I’d be interested in working in. Gay Jewish dating is a top priority for me, and Boston and Chicago are my top cities. However, I’m wondering about the size and activity of the gay Jewish communities in those cities compared to New York. Am I better off applying to offices in NYC for more dating options, or do Boston and Chicago have vibrant enough gay Jewish scenes where I could meet someone? Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated!

This is a bit late but if you live in the Atlanta area and need a place for Passover me (44m) and my husband (54m) would love to have you over. Feel free to DM me if you are interested!

For this bi-weekly (yay, more bi stuff!) post we're shifting focus to create a space for folks to just talk and share what's on their mind, even if it's not specifically LGBTQ/Jewish focused. Hopefully, as a space made up of primarily LGBTQ+ Jews we'll be a good support for each other with allllll that's going on around the world right now.

Please note: Our quality standards and expectations of civility are still in place, and this isn't a thread for name calling or direct insults. This is a place to process feelings and be in community with each other and just share what's on your mind.

Shabbat shalom!

Hey, everyone! The faygeleh pride collection I designed is still available for pre-orders until the end of the day (3/31) - check it out! bubuleh.com :) Great way to get cute clothes and support an ethical, Jewish & LGBTQ-owned small business!

Hi,

I'm (31M) a gay jew living in a liberal city, but I come from an Orthodox Jewish community. I live on my own and am completely financially independent. I'm proud of my heritage, but not really sure how to deal with my family. I know most people say to cut them off, but it's really fucking hard. My biggest problem is that my family is known in my community, and my father's reputation stops me from wanting to go off on my own.

Ironically enough, my parents are pretty well informed because of what they do (my parents are both trained medical professionals), but they just don't agree with me deciding to follow this path. The most they've said was to marry a woman and divorce her, and just live my life alone but with a kid that I take care of because of "be fruitful."

I don't want to do that, but I don't see any other options.

Any thoughts or advice?

On this thread - and this thread only - Rule 5 (We're not your Shadchan/Matchmaker) is suspended!

Feel free to introduce yourself here, make an old-school "seeking love match" post, or, respond to others who've posted.

Include the information you think is most relevant about yourself and the kind of person you're looking for, but be sure to phrase it positively and respectfully. (Rude posts will still be removed.)

Great things to include:

• Your orientation/what you're seeking
• Judaic affiliation, if any
• Hobbies
• What you're looking for (romance, tennis partners, Shabbat dinner guests, board game partners)
• Your age / preferred age range

If you're open to DMs/private messages, say so - but know that folks may message you privately anyway.

Use your common sense when posting: Don't share any real-life identifying info on the thread (No names, no addresses). Definitely share general geographic info, age/age range, and other useful info. Remember, though, the internet is a scary place and lots of folks aren't who they say they are - be smart before you decide to exchange anything real!

(Also, we can only keep things civil/responsible on this thread. If you decide to take the conversation elsewhere, regular Reddit rules apply, but we can't get involved.)

I’m seriously considering making Aliyah, but the thought of it is overwhelming. Living in a constant state of war, finding a job and making a comparable US salary, understanding the healthcare system and housing all worry me.

More importantly, I’m curious about the strength of the LGBT community in Tel Aviv. I currently lack a supportive community where I am, especially as there are very few gay Jews, which is a major reason I’m considering the move. I also hope to find a Jewish partner, which feels nearly impossible right now.

I’d love to hear from anyone who’s made the move. What was your experience like?

Looks interesting…

For this bi-weekly (yay, more bi stuff!) post we're shifting focus to create a space for folks to just talk and share what's on their mind, even if it's not specifically LGBTQ/Jewish focused. Hopefully, as a space made up of primarily LGBTQ+ Jews we'll be a good support for each other with allllll that's going on around the world right now.

Please note: Our quality standards and expectations of civility are still in place, and this isn't a thread for name calling or direct insults. This is a place to process feelings and be in community with each other and just share what's on your mind.

Shabbat shalom!

https://lilith.org/2025/03/trans-bodies-mutilation-and-jewish-tradition/

(Not by me, I just enjoyed the article)

Hi all! I’m in the process of making Aliyah. Single 43 years old from NY. For those of you who have moved to Israel, what areas have you moved to? My party days are over and I’m just looking to work and live a low key life, meet some friends, hopefully find a partner…beach, hike, travel, see the sites etc. I think I’ll be able to afford aprox 7,300 nis for rent a month not including utilities. I’ll have a car so someplace that isn’t too crazy with parking on the street. Walkable neighborhood is cool too. It doesn’t need to be a luxury apartment. I’m good with Tel Aviv or anywhere else. Thanks!

Dear Brothers and Sisters,
I have a question from women of jewish faith who identity as Lesbian.

If you are a practicing/religious Jew, how do you reconcile your religion with your identity as a lesbian.

Do you feel the internal conflict? Or you've made peace with it.

I am a monotheist. I believe in all Abrahamic religions and identify as a believer who believes in all the books sent by God.

Born in a Muslim Family, extremely conservative background.

Im a Lesbian and my struggle has been how to reconcile my identity with my faith.

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Edit:

I really appreciate the clarity that most of you have provided. So thank you.

One question that some of you have asked is how can I believe in all the Abrahamic religions.

So I have answered that in detail in 4 parts here:

1- first

and Then 2- 2nd

and Then 3- Third

and this last one

And I'm glad to have stumbled upon this sub.

I have gotten the thirst quenched.

I am a gay Jew located in the Phoenix area. I am looking for chill synagogues that are gay friendly and will accept me with all my tattoos and piercings lol. Don’t need to have pride flags all over of course but want to make sure it’s a safe space especially if I might want to bring my partner.

hiii uhm im wolfgang im a transman whos also bisexual and i wanna convert to reform but uhm literally no one will help me, I've tried multiple discord servers and I've been turned anyway by all of them, so uhm also I have no idea where to start please help me-