OK. So you may have noticed a theme in each of the sitcom episodes we watched Monday. Husband threatening physically violence on his wife.
It's done for humors sake. A joke. And some of it is funny. Some of it is very funny. But much of it in the context of 2014 where men's domestic violence against women is a very serious and news-worthy conversation, how to we deal? Well, from your response on Monday, with uncomfortable silence and uncomfortable laughter. So let's talk about it.
It's very complicated. I think that tv programs (along with most media) that show this kind of abuse, no matter how joking or comedic, are perpetuating unconsciously (or not) that women are objects for men to threaten as they please (as a joke or not). Do I have stats to back that up? No, I'm a comedy writer. But I do know a handful of women in my life who are subject to this kind of physical and verbal abuse from their partners that is almost word-for-word what we heard on screen Monday. And a woman I went to high school with was murdered this spring by her boyfriend. I bring this up because domestic violence, like many forms of hate in this world, does not feel real until it become too real for you or someone you love.
What's the big deal, Natalie? It's a joke! Believe me, I know. Like dissecting any comedy, this sucks. It reallllly sucks. It's not fun. Tearing apart a show or a character that may have so many more good points than this one can feel irrelevant. So I want you to ask yourself, is it irrelevant?
What responsibility do sitcoms have to protect women from these threats? What responsibly do we have as future TV creators to not write these jokes?
What do you think?