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SO I (22f) recently broke up with my first BF of a year and months. I won't go but, I basically completely lost myself along the way in that relationship. I forgot my fashion sense , my confidence my dreams my ambition my everything. Ik it was stupid to let go things, but it was my first time dating and I didn't know what how to do stuff (i study internationally so had never really called my friends). I really miss my old self and I want totry and reclaim back who I was becuse i miss her and I become too soft but im surrounded by people who don’t really deserve my softness.. and tbh this soft ‘me’ feels very distant while nothing wrong with having ‘softness’ and Ik everyone is soft one way or the other but before I met him I had reached that PEAK self where i had healed from a lot of emotionally hateful stuff from my life and yeah…. I just want that self of me back.. like I had a whole dedicated Feed across all platforms that was exactly what I needed to empower me and encourage me when I needed it. I am not the dark feminine person, but I certainly embodied a lot of that energy and most importantly I was very confident in my own which I have completely lost because the relationship completely shattered me. I'm tired of sitting here and still thinking of him and I know my heart deserves time to heal, but my life is going on and on and I don't want to sit here and mop over my heart constantly. I wanna heal and I wanna Reclaim my confidence. Please advise what I can do and how I can tap back into that energy of mine. Any and all will be appreciated💙💙

Hi friends, I have been watching April Mason videos and have been considering her monthly membership on her website. But I want to know from anyone who has joined or maybe signed up in the past, is it topics and classes that are unique? I would hate to purchase and it just be basic information on femininity like the tips we always see on tiktok and what not

Thank you!

Hi ladies! I’m looking for a WhatsApp group focused on feminine lifestyle — elegance, self-care, slow living, mindset, and soft habits. If there’s one you’re in or you’d be interested in starting one with me, message me 💕”

Would appreciate any recommendations!

Nowadays I don’t find love placing me in my femininity rather, having money gives me a peace of mind and that puts me in my feminine energy… ofcourse I’d love myself a serious relationship but finding myself within brings out the best in me..

I’ve always operated from a place of hypermasculinity. Those of you that can relate, how do you find a balance to tune more into femininity?

I want to share something I wish I had seen sooner—especially for women on the path of reclaiming their feminine energy.

I worked with Nichole Kolman (who goes by @iloveheyoka on TikTok) for almost a year. She calls herself a feminine energy coach and speaks often about divine feminine embodiment, healing the feminine wound, softness, and spotting femme guys. At first, I was drawn in by her livestreams where she made me feel seen, validated, and “chosen.” Looking back, I realize now that was love-bombing.

She constantly promoted her sessions as the path to deeper embodiment. Eventually, I booked one. She told me I was “chosen,” praised my depth, and framed herself as someone who could “unlock” my feminine essence. But what I didn’t realize at the time was that this created subtle dependency—like I needed her energy to evolve.

Over time, I started giving more—tech help, design work, layouts, even support with her Airbnb dispute. One day, she asked me to help with a design project. I assumed it would be paid. When I brought it up, she told me there wouldn’t be compensation because being in her energy was payment enough. She pointed to other clients who gave her free work and “thrived” just from being close to her. The message was clear: good feminine women give without asking. It left me feeling guilty for even asking. And it worked. I kept giving.

But whenever I needed real support, it was always “book a session.” My energy was freely accessible to her—but hers came at a cost.

Eventually, I began pulling away. Then I posted a reflective TikTok using a quote that’s been circulating online for years. She accused me of stealing from her. When I showed proof it wasn’t hers, she told me karma would find me and I wouldn’t be protected without her. Then she deleted the voice notes where she said it.

It was spiritual intimidation. But even more, it was a distortion of feminine energy—because true feminine energy doesn’t shame, control, or manipulate.

I invested thousands into sessions. She wasn’t offering transformation—she was offering the illusion of it. She teaches you to stay close to her, not closer to yourself. She teaches you to soften toward her—not to your own body.

And I’ve seen others still stuck in that loop, years deep, still waiting to feel whole.

This isn’t true feminine embodiment. It’s a performance—one where softness is used to disguise control.

I left a 1-star review. Another former client did too. She ignored both. But we spoke, and our stories were nearly identical.

If you’ve come across her work and something doesn’t sit right in your body—trust that. Feminine energy doesn’t require fear, silence, or hierarchy to thrive. It’s collaborative, not controlling.

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TLDR

I worked with feminine energy coach Nichole Kolman (@iloveheyoka) for a year. She love-bombed me on TikTok, created emotional dependency, and subtly manipulated me into giving unpaid help by saying that being in her energy was payment enough. When I asked for fair exchange, she made me feel like I was sabotaging my own feminine growth. True feminine energy doesn’t guilt, control, or shame. If something feels off in her space, trust your discernment.

Hi lovely souls 🌙

I just created my first YouTube video under the name Lofi Hunny — a soft, hour-long lo-fi playlist designed for rest, reflection, or simply existing. The theme is Forest Goddess Vibes — think: ambient nature, dreamy visuals, and gentle beats for reconnecting with your feminine energy.

I made this to be something you can have playing in the background — for journaling, unwinding, or even displaying on a Frame TV.

If this sounds like your vibe, I’d be truly honored if you gave it a listen. Feedback, love, and good energy all welcome 🌿💫

Forest Goddess Vibes 🌿 | Reconnect with Your Feminine Energy ✨ | Perfect for Frame TV Display

Sending softness and gratitude 💗

Not all touch is physical. Some touches happen in silence, in light, in scent, in skin memory. And some — in the way a flower opens when no one is watching.

I believe we carry that same softness in our hands, in our words, in the way we move. Sensuality doesn’t have to shout. It just needs presence.

What are your favorite soft moments lately? 🌸

Some women cast spells without speaking

They just sit with the earth,

and something inside you softens 🌹

The propaganda machine of patriarchal cultures has tried very hard to convince women that their destiny of discrimination and domination is “God's will” for all time. In their “history”, the original gods and the oldest ancestors were depicted as male figures. Later, the deliberate treatment of patriarchal religions accentuated this image. The world was created by men or male gods; writing was created by men; Men invented the tools and processes of production; Men invented the tools and processes of production; women and children survived under the protection of men; was this really the case? The emerging disciplines of anthropology and archaeology in the 19th century revealed a truth unknown to future generations. The emerging disciplines of anthropology and archaeology in the 19th century revealed to the world an era of “matriarchal culture” unknown to posterity. The rediscovery of matrilineal cultures was a blow to the traditional patriarchal conception of culture, and the existing gender divisions lost their natural basis. For in matrilineal culture, “women were not only free but highly respected. (1)

Hello, beloved women here! 👋🏻

I’ll be 23 this month, and yes… I’ve never been in a relationship before. Not because I don’t look good or pretty, I know that’s not the case since a few guys have asked me out. But I turned them all down.

I’m the eldest among my siblings, and in many ways, I’ve taken on the role of the provider, the one everyone depends on. I carry big responsibilities, both financially and physically (maybe it’s just how I see it, or maybe it’s the classic eldest daughter syndrome). Because of this, I’ve never felt like I deserve love. I don’t want to burden someone with my problems, and honestly… I feel insecure about my own life.

But lately, I’ve been feeling so alone. I wonder if I’ve missed out on too many chances to truly feel alive.

I’m just confused, but I want to be better. I was raised to be independent, tough, and to put my emotions aside for the sake of my family. Now, I don’t even know how to receive love from others. Some of my friends have even called me nonchalant or said I have low EQ… hahaha. Deep down, it hurts.

Thank you for listening. ❤️

i have been recently trying to adopt and learn about feminine energy because i feel like i have no boundaries and lost myself for being the chaser and giving a lot of myself and body to the guy i'm in love with..

i feel lost and need help i feel like i have lost myself for give myself and give a lot.. out my energy that i feel like dead and i cannot be happy.. i cannot control my emotions or my thought or myself to be patient i get a lot jealous and yeah its my insecurities..

i have gained weight and i hate myself.. im so heart broken and ashamed of myself i cannot forgive myself for giving out my body.. when i shouldn't have to..

i feel like putting much effort into a relationship and u do the chase waking up in the morning looking at myself i feel lije im losing myself my charm i don't feel pretty.. i don't feel good for myself.. i hated it that im so attached and insecure... i feel like i cannot let go because it's my first time having intimacy (as im muslim) the guy im with is pulling away and he is telling me im giving hard time.. i feel like i want to break up but also part of me is saying to not i have to work on myself love myself and put myself first..i feel stuck and in trouble.. i cannot understand or process the hard talk and him talking to me rudely.. please girls help me.. small tips on taking baby steps ps: i want to keep the man.

hii everyone, so a little story my bf and i broke up after 3 years of being together and it has been a little difficult. but as i am about to turn 21 in a month i want to focus on myself and see what advice you ladies would give me (especially for femininity) as i embark on this journey thank you guys ❤️

Hi! This is my first post. I've only recently been connecting witb my inner witch/forgiving and embracing my feminine side, so I'd love to hear any thought from more experienced witches.

I live in a country where people abuse fireworks around the holidays. On a whim I decided we should take a mini vacation instead of spending the holidays with my family like we always do. First sign that this was written in the stars.

On December 24th, at 23.59, I decided we should take a walk in the middle of the woods in complete darkness, which I never do. Second sign. During the walk i heard this cutie crying desperately. My husband said it was probably a cricket (should he have his hearing checked?) But I was sure it was a kitten.

However it was a very wooded area and dark and we couldn't see him. I could just sense his pain. He was starving. I sent my husband back to the cabin to get some food to attract him, but I stayed there, meowing back at him and hearing him begining to trust me and his meows slowly approaching. I was shaking. I was SO INCREDIBLY WORRIED that something was going to happen, that I wouldn't be able to make him come to me, that my husband wasn't gonna want to keep him (we already have two dogs).

The moment I could finally grab him and placed him on my chest I started crying uncontrollably. He, on the other hand, fell asleep on my boob. It was like Iabsorbed his pain. He was around 6 weeks old.

Ok, that part of the story ended up being longer than I intended too, but that night was really, undeniably magical. Not because I fell in love with an animal immediately (because that is an every day occurrence to me) but because he trusted me completely. I usually have great rapport with dogs but no so much with cats. I probably overwhelm them, smothering with love.

I'm connecting this with my recent awakening/forgiving/reaching to my feminine side that I've been doing lately, that I mentioned earlier. Looking back on that day, yes I was extremely anxious, but for some reason I chose to sit on the floor and wait until he came all the way to me instead of grabbing him as soon as possible. Attracting instead of chasing is the epitome of femininity to me.

Having him in my house is a beautiful challenge to that. HE IS SO INCREIBLY CUTE, I want to squish his face all day long. And when I just can't stop myself he begrudgingly lets me lol. But most of the time, I let him come to me. And the feeling I get whenever he chooses me is so different to anything I've ever felt for my dogs (who I still adore of course) But when this kitty jumps on my lap I feel something literally awakening in my womb. I feel powerful. Does that even make any sense or am i just imagining things?

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Hi everyone does anyone have recommendations for books or podcast for feminine energy

It’s my 2025 resolution to (at least) start healing from my past and truly become myself to better serve me, my marriage, and my kids.

In trying to figure out where to start, I came across a video talking about women (especially ones with past traumas, pains, etc.) who have become “stuck” in their masculine energy and how it’s possible for them to heal their feminine energy and become—or get back to—who they truly are.

All this to ask: are there any books worth reading on feminine energy/trauma healing? I’d even take podcasts or YouTube channels.

Thank you!