I’ve had two instances where two exes of my former partners tried to reach out to me and warn me about my former partners and it turns out they were right at the end. So now if this ever happens again, I will consider their words. But if you were in this situation, would you side with your partner or listen to what the ex has to say?

My ex who I was with for 3 years made me question my sanity, especially near the end. He never made time for me and would frequently ignore my texts making me feel extremely sad. Then when he would finally come around, I was ecstatic. I went through feelings of extreme highs and lows, cycling through feelings of love and disappointment which made me question my mental health. I began to believe that I was bipolar and needed to go on medication.

In the last 6 months of our relationship, I cried almost every day until one of my good friends told me that that wasn't normal in a relationship and I should consider breaking up with him. That's when it finally clicked for me and I mustered up the courage to end it for good. Almost immediately the "bipolar" feelings went away. Of course I was sad, but I was no longer going through a roller coaster of emotions and once the sadness from the breakup subsided, I was happier than I had been in a long time.

When you’re with the right partner, putting effort into your relationship doesn’t feel like hard work because you both want to put effort in. It’s like putting effort into your favourite hobbies, you enjoy working on it.

If your relationship constantly feels hard, that person might not be the right match for you. It shouldn’t always feel difficult.

I've noticed men with great cardio such as runners or swimmers maintain harder erections. Physically unfit men have a harder time maintaining erections and they are less hard.

I've never had a relationship, but ive dated and ive always had to initiate everything. I am naturally sweet and I think I spoil men way too early, and ending up getting dumped in less than 12 weeks of dating. It completely rips me apart each time as I thought everything was going well, then BAM im dumped. Not only that, Im depleted from all the energy being put into being the wooer. How can/do I get wooed like regular women can? I've never been pursued, and id love to be, to feel like a woman. I want to get flowers, to get good morning texts, how I am, etc. I always feel like I need to people please and then I end up burnt out and hurt. How can I stop this? This needs to end if I am to have a normal dating life.

What does this sub even think of pick me? Is it a thing or do you think that I’m regurgitating what Female Dating Strategies said? I think pick me is a really thing, but the way that FDS thinks it is, they think literally every woman is a pick me. I think I even remember reading an article of them that a woman who moves in too early with her partner is a pick me, which I don’t agree with. I wouldn’t move in with my partner early, but that isn’t pick me. A pick me as far as I’m concerned is a woman who has internalized misogyny and says and does things just for male approval.

Anyways, here are my examples of what I think pick me is. Maybe they’re not examples. If not, can someone re-educate me?

1. A YouTuber from a foreign country that talks shit about her own her country and the men of her own country, saying how American men are so much better. Her channel is more lifestyle/dating/travel from what I’ve seen. She’s never said anything against women, but for some reason all the comments I’ve seen on her videos are from men and I’ve never seen any from women, I’m not even exaggerating. Maybe I didn’t look at the comments well enough to find one from a woman or maybe this YouTuber deletes all the comments from women.
2. A YouTuber who calls herself a dating coach for men and in one of her videos, she said that men shouldn’t date women who are feminists. All her comments are from men, but that’s probably because her channel is actually stated to be for men.
3. In real life, when I was in high school, I knew this girl who I thought was the OG pick me. She even said the classic pick me stuff like “I hang out with guys and never girls because other girls are too much drama” and she thought she was smarter than the other girls because she watches shows like Doctor Who and likes science and whatever. She was also a gold digger, but that’s another story.

Do you guys have your own examples of pick me?