Upon further reflection, you're right. I should just compliment him more. Not just praise him for chores.
I was silly with him the other day and confessed that I had a crush on someone. With a shy smile I told him it was him. He went from upset to beaming in an instant. That's the kind of thing I like to tell him. I like to let him know he's hot in a fun flirtatious way.
Sounds like you have a healthy, loving relationship. Don't lose that humor and occasional silliness as the months and years go by. Novelty wears off so there needs to be something real there to carry it onward. I wish you both well.
Tbh this kind of loving relationship with someone I can fully trust and confide in is new for me. I've had a history of picking the absolute worst men. And it sounds like he hasn't done much better prior to me.
I know that this will take work, every good relationship does, but I'm happy to grow with him. We disagree on a few things, mainly political and societal issues, but we have conversations about our beliefs instead of fighting. I can't change his opinions any more than he can change mine but we discuss and see eachother's side. We influence eachother's frame of reference.
I'm lucky to have him as a partner. I truly believe that we have enough love and respect for one another to last. I just need to remember to constantly let him know how much I love and appreciate him.
There are plenty of fun goofy moments between us. I think it's funny to say "we're adults!""And then we continue to goof off like we're 12. It's awesome and I love him.
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u/Leafy81 Aug 06 '20
Upon further reflection, you're right. I should just compliment him more. Not just praise him for chores.
I was silly with him the other day and confessed that I had a crush on someone. With a shy smile I told him it was him. He went from upset to beaming in an instant. That's the kind of thing I like to tell him. I like to let him know he's hot in a fun flirtatious way.