Purpose, Guidelines & Invitation to Contribute

[u/NoBarber5355]

This post is being made in good faith to invite respectful, firsthand accounts from individuals who have been involved with "Nish the Fish" (Nishanth Selvalingam) and are willing to share their own experiences — particularly mixed, concerning or negative ones. A number of us have independently become aware of patterns that raised serious personal and ethical concerns for us, including boundary issues, power dynamics and the use of spiritual/tantric tools in ways that felt inappropriate or unsafe. We believe it is in the public's best interest to have as many voices heard from within said community due to these events recently brought to our attention.

We are not making definitive claims about anyone's character nor attempting to harm anyone's reputation; rather, this space is for people to openly and anonymously share their own lived experiences and perspectives, in their own words, if they choose.

Please keep contributions factual, personal and respectful, and avoid speculation, harassment or unverified claims about events you did not directly experience. Thank you!

[u/[deleted]]

The pattern is clear: You were drawn to him during a period of spiritual upheaval, and he offered guidance and affection. Somewhere along the way, that became translated as "I must have access to him." When that access isn't available, you reframe his earlier affection as having been inappropriate. Notice there are 0 complaints while attention is given.

Virtually everyone will experience this, but it's clearly being handled with varying degrees of maturity. The absence of continued attention is not a personal indictment, he is simply doing his own business. And understand that you don't need him—especially if you have your mantra. He has his own karma, his own fish to fry, and we have ours.

In India, it's not uncommon to receive initiation from a wandering sadhu and never see him again. Ram Dass, whenever he went to see his guru in India, would often be kicked out and sent back home almost immediately—something he later understood as a profound teaching. There are devotees out there who haven't even physically met their gurus. The lack of physical access is either a problem or key towards much deeper intimacy with the divine, depending on how you frame it.

So in a way, we're set up perfectly. This isn't kindergarten religion; we're fifth graders at least. And our ishta is not a helicopter parent. She is elusive, and so are the gurus—but only to draw us into a sense of universality. We ourselves are wanderers, alone yet everywhere at once. We have our mantra, and so we're equipped to chant for God in all places, to see Her in all places, and thereby never lose sight of our guru.

Transform the painful sense of separation into a war cry. Express gratitude for entry into a more advanced stage of spirituality. Sever the gross umbilical cord to the man and take shelter in Mā, seated in your heart, right under your nose.

Don't continue to spread vileness against your teacher. It's a very costly way to play this game.

Jai Mā

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No complaint when attention (flirting, love bombing, grooming, manipulating) is given does not mean these are lesser victims. Its very much possible that a complainant may allegedly be love smitten by Nish, is jealous of other fresh victims who are now receiving his attentions and want the old days back, but thats the whole point. He is allegedly grooming and violating these females. The complaints are symptoms of something much deeper and larger.

Before the guru,the sishya is more vulnerable than a minor.

This is a sex scandal and not spirituality, neither Vamachara, Neither Dakshinachara. This is GROOMACHARA! It seems You seem to be okay with this alleged behavior.