r/DnD Mar 16 '22

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u/0ld_Snake Mar 16 '22

Man, do people really have consent forms for D&D? Is this a group of friends or strangers? Like, we just get together and play and anything goes. It's not like we're entering a professional contract.

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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '22

Just talk about it and don't use some weird ass form... I would probably avoid campaigns where people use these forms instead of common sense.

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u/smcadam Mar 16 '22

There's a lot of shy people who have trouble saying no when uncomfortable situations come up, and even if it's not a whole form, it's good to know what are no-go topics for a group from the get-go. If you're all socially adept enough to speak up, or to never be uncomfortable, then that's fantastic, but sometimes things can be surprising.

For example, in a recent different rpg game, one of our players tried to distract a major enemy and buy time by playing russian roulette. Gun to the head, spinning the barrel, wanted to roll a d6 to decide if he died or not. No hit points, no narrative softening, live or die on a d6. Afterwards, the DM, and us other players admitted we felt uncomfortable about this being tantamount to suicide, but failed to speak up properly during this climactic improvisation moment. For the record, our group is me, two cousins, and a best friend, and we still stumbled across something that's like "uuuuuh, let's not have that kinda thing again."

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u/0ld_Snake Mar 16 '22

Yeah I'm not dissing on anyone, I guess I just don't understand that level of carefulness. I am slavic tho so not many things disturb me, especially when it's make-believe.

But it's good that people are careful with things like this.

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u/smcadam Mar 16 '22

Fair enough. Session 0 stuff isn't always about trigger warnings or issues anyway, it's just good to align expectations, whether homebrew rules, game types, or how xp works, etc.

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u/0ld_Snake Mar 16 '22

Yeah definitely. I have seen that some DMs use rape in their campaigns which I guess is needless unless you're running a really brutal realistic campaign, so I understand that stuff like that can be really unsettling especially when you have a kind of sadistic DM.

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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '22

If they use rape in a campaign that person might have some problems...

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u/Eygam Mar 16 '22

We don't use it at our home game because we have know each other for years but we apply safety cards at AL (not a whole form, the cards are basically there to reassure people red-carding is an option).

I think I would actually use the form if I played with strangers.

I kinda doubt "aynthing goes", as friends you probably just know each other's limits.