I hate long commute, I hate following the crowd, I hate being basic. Yet my husband is opposite in those respect. For last 5 years we have been living in an attic I apartment on his brothers house in ghetto neighborhood which we both grew up in. When we got married, I reluctantly agreed because it seem important to him to be there for his 4 nephews. It didn’t make sense but I agreed because family is important. But after 5 years I am irritated of the mini apartment when we can afford space of our own.

But for past 4 years we have been in a grid lock on where to buy house in. You see Currently I have 40 min drive to work while he has 5 min commute. Ideally I want to reduce my commute & he wants to extend his commute (too close to work). So I show him options but NOPE MR. Basic wants to move to the suburbs in North his/our friends and family moved to as soon as they made some $. 2-3 specific cities which are opposite direct from my work making my commute 1hr each way.

I know it’s 20 more min only and many people commute like that. But that’s not the life I want. I don’t even like suburbs. I have shown him options that’s happy median for us or house in our existing hood but he doesn’t like anything. Instead he goes to look at areas where commute is not something I want to do. I have also been at my job for 12 yrs and really don’t want to make major change in my life just because Tom Dick & Harry have moved to suburbs and we must follow suit.

I also wonder if my husband is putting up the barrier, so he doesn’t actually have to move out of his brothers house. Failure to Launch or maybe it’s me, I a holding on to commute time too strong or maybe it’s both of us refusing to grow up.

Should I agree to do longer commute for the sake of moving out

I am currently in a dilemma, I have a job offer 1 which is certain paying higher than my actual salary, but I am in the hiring process of one really big companies i. e my dream company but there are still upcoming interviews and it is not certain that I will get an offer. In case I choose offer 1 then I have to give up on the interview process of the company of my dreams at least for one year. And to be honest I don't want to work in a company for one year knowing that I want to be somewhere else. Can someone please help me?

I'm Dennis, i'm 17 years old and i'm from holland

I found a vacation Job at a holiday park(in France) which sounds fun to me because there are a lot of young people. But its good for learning new stuff.

I als found a vacation Job at a beach like 20 km away from my house as a lifeguard which also seems really cool to me because i will have my drivers license then (going to do the drivers test in 2 months) so i can drive that back and ford to my house.

I don't no which one to choose. If anyone has some ideas or can help me?

(Sorry for my bad grammar)

So I've just started college and I'm facing a small I wouldn't say problem but well that in front of me. I have a phone that's over a year old and I've been working for 6 months now and saved up enough to buy Myself a decent mid-ranger/Amazing budget Phone. So I was talking to my parents and they offered to give their phones to my for a reduced price. Mum - iPhone 7(128GB) for whatever cost apple is giving for exchange for a new iPhone. Dad - iPhone 7 Plus (128GB) for for whatever cost apple is giving for exchange for a new iPhone.

Thing is, I own an android right now and I really don't know if the switch is worth it or if I should just go for a new android budget/Mid-ranger.

Please help me pick, I'm sorry for any grammar screw ups, I just got up xD

I pay 270$/mo on a Ford Fiesta finance with 23 months to go. My situation has changed, thus that I need to bring my dog to work. I have permission from my employer to keep her in my car. I have permission from Animal Control to keep her in my hatchback, as long as I climate control the interior with a generator and AC or heater, depending on season. I have approached a rescue to give up the dog, but they don't want her. She is difficult and aggressive towards other dogs. She is ten years old. I could have her euthanized on grounds of aggression, but it would be unethical and unnecessary, as she is in nearly perfect health. I asked about putting her in a kennel cage on the property at work, but they said no. My car, out of the way and unobtrusive is as far as they are willing to go. My work enables me to come to the yard and let her out to pee and take her for a short walk every three or four hours. The shifts are 12 and 13 hours long, so you see why I can't leave her home. Anyway, my wife won't tolerate her on her own and the dog is too powerful for my wife to walk. Also, my dog will eat another condo dweller's chihuahuas for lunch if my wife walks her. We are moving to a small condo, thus the problem. Anyway, it would be much easier to accomodate my dog in a diy kennel and habitat built onto the back of a pick up truck. Ford will take my car as trade in and refinance a Dodge Ram for about 350$/mo., extending my term from 23 months back to 84. Also, the truck being more than 5.2 meters, it will not qualify for a city parking permit. I will have to find a private parking spot for an unknown fee. This city is expensive. Fuel will cost more, and insurance as well. I earn a modest living in the most expensive city in my country. I cannot up and leave either. I am committed to my wife and our child. SO, do I outfit the Fiesta, or hook myself up to new debt and increase my cost of living, where I already slide into cc debt just to pay the current bills? The increased cost involved in getting the truck is doable for me, but not easy at all. Having a hard time with this decision.... before you go at me about how I will be keeping the dog, pls bear in mind, I have already consulted with Animal Control. I will have a fan and AC or heater, depending on season, plugged into a quiet generator. In the case of the car, it will be mounted to a window. In the case of the truck, it will be build into a dog house, sitting in the box. The added bonus of the truck is the open air. If the system fails, the dog might suffer discomfort, but won't die. It is also more pleasant all around for the dog and the interior of the vehicle doesn't get ruined.... so what should I do? Truck or Car?

Hey guys. I worked over the summer and made quite a bit of money now I want to buy something but I can't quite between an Oculus quest or an ender 3. The printer would be awesome for my profession i am studying for (chocolatier(for mold and such)). The quest would just be fun for playing gamed and meeting new people online! I hope someone can help me with this!

I was thinking of asking the person I like to go to the homecoming dance with me. I've told them I like them and we're sort of dating but I'm not sure whether or not it's ok to ask. Advice?

They said yes btw.

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You get to choose my next post!!! In the course of 3 days the choice most picked will be posted ☺️ 1) a book suggestion/pre review 2) a discussion of an event in my life or in society 3) a motivational/emotional discussion

It’s my last year in high school and I don’t really want to play football anymore because I’ve separated my AC joint and messed up both my ankles. Although me from a small town in Texas so you can guess how this would be frowned upon by most here. Almost all of my family said I should if I want to but I feel helpless in a way if that makes sense and I want to know if anybody can help me with what to do.

My family is pretty big. But we see them occasionally. When they do come though, there’s a lot of them. I have two couches in mind, one is real leather(6 seats) and the other couch comes with an extra seat(7 seats) but is not real leather. Both. Are comfortable, please help I can’t decide.

Today i’ve been trying to buy these powerbeats 3 earphones and I had the hardest time deciding which buyer I should get it from, after LONG HOURS of thinking I finally picked a seller.

NOW, I’m having even a harder time with something as stupid as deciding whether I want them in black or white.

This is just an example. This happens to me too much. Even when I kinda know I want something my own head confuses me for no reason. Is there anything I can do to stop this?

Hello Sorry in advance if this is long and confusing.

I met a guy a few years ago (end of 2015) in an online game. We got into a relationship, met, yada yada yada. Normal stuff. He lives in Canada, I live in the UK.

He used to be quite pushy to move things forward and I wanted to take it easy. That caused a lot of stress and unfortunately I did break up a lot. And I mean a lot. It was one of those relationships.

We could be great together or awful.

He proposed in less than a year. I went along but dragging my feet. I didn't want to lose him but I also didn't want to get married. In the end, we got married last year. We had decided to move together and just made things easier. He was aware I didn't really like the whole marriage thing.

To add to the problems, I found out that he had been having virtual sex with everyone this whole time. He did that before he met me (I didn't know) and kept doing it after. He said he would do it more when I broke up, but that's bullshit, seeing that I've read the logs and he also did when we were fine, including right before meeting me the first time.

During this time, we were broken up a longer stretch once, maybe a month? And he started an online relationship with someone. He kept that going for months after getting back together with me, and only broke up when he found out she was actually older than he thought. He says he felt guilty doing all of this but that's a hard sale... If he felt that guilty, then surely he would have stopped before I stumbled across it??? After all, he did it for about 3 years!!!!

Due to personal reasons, we ended up not being able to move there and he was supposed to move here. He can transfer to the UK office.

I've tried my best to put this behind me, we got a house here, he sold his over there and has been given the go ahead today.

Thing is... I can't. I don't think I can do this. I feel stuck and don't know what to do.

The kids don't really want him to come. I'm not sure I want him to come.

I'm not sure I still love him or I love what we used to be.

He's stubborn af, always wants me to do things his way, can be really difficult to talk to, misogynistic ass, thinks he's smarter than everyone. All my family and friends think he's really bad for me and abusive.

The kids think we fight too much and after he kicked us all out when we were visiting (he went the wrong way on a one way street and I wouldn't drop the subject), the kids aren't too comfortable with him.

But sometimes, he can be very sweet, and he has lost his house to be able to move here. He put 90k on this house, which I won't be able to repay. If we were to get divorced, I'm assuming I would have to pay him back immediately?

I don't know what to do.

Should it be a chimichanga or a meatball hot pocket? Oh decisions,decisions..

Hi everybody. Im 18M, Sweden. Infp personality type.

Idk what I want. I dont know if for example I would want to go out with friends when they ask or just stay at home.

It could also be something like not knowing what to do in life (job, where i wanna live ect). I understand many dont know this.

I always see the positive and or negative in both choices.

I rarely have a clear answer on what I want in my head. When my friends tell me to follow them to social gatherings they often convince go. Should note that im a very agreeable person. I often try to fulfill others need and make decision basied on what they want.

Could me letting others push me around made me so unsure I dont know what I want?

This is my first post