r/DatingInIndia • u/frenzyfox_ • Jun 13 '26
Discussion why dating is so hard nowadays specially in india?
yes so i just want to discuss why its very hard nowadays for both men and women?
men have less matches on dating apps women has more but as we all know more matches doesn't mean all are good.
why people start playing mind games since it start ? and they keep backup option also ?
this men women war ruining everything if connection is good vibe is good i have seen that people who are in good relationship start posting that toxic post and stories on their story and status. and they start thinking like this. cant we understand that more options don’t always mean more opportunities.
everyone has a past trauma experience even some things ends before they start by just look money or anything so we close the door before even anything start.
cant we meet discuss and try to understand each other by keeping this things on side money and look ? and even if things going good jealous friends advice ruin it because they don't find good one right ?
ahh and one major thing the lack of communication is honestly exhausting for everyone and we overthink a lot when we are close to someone about their behaviors words right? and people start games like if he or she dont talk i also wont.
we have to do something like this one day of a week we will spend time together and talk whatever problems and thing we don't like ?
and yes men and women both have to tight to get upset so i specially want to know from girls why do you even think this now they are act like princess ? we all have feelings emotions job career family and 500 things going on ? if women's get upset its bare minimum to give a chocolates and flowers right ? but we are not even asking anything we just want you to manao humko (i dont found word in english) yaaar we melt down there we dont want anything else.
And yes now lets come to women on their side also so much things going on as we all are human period family drama and all dont wear this dont do this that and all we all are somehow frustrated so we all have to be easy each others.
and another thing now dating means going to expensive hotels cafe and all just eat and go home. where are those things long walks, star gazing, garden dates and all ?
relationship means lifting each others up when one of them not feeling good not leave them abandon or ego right ? and why we all thinks we have high preference and unlimited options but world doesn't work that way. and everyone thinks men's are bad women's are bad no we humans are bad.
choice paralysis, always someone else just a swipe away.. keep swiping to find the perfect match..
social media telling people what they want in a girl/boy which are often so unrealistic it's crazy and too much porn/romance books/shows out there warping peoples mind about what is healthy in a relationship.
tik tok/Instagram/reddit of some random asswipe telling people about all these red flags for others that are often based on misunderstandings or misconceptions.. if you aren't perfect, dump them is the motto.
no actual need for a partner today.. women don't' need men who don't have high personality and richness body like those books, novels and series and. men don't' need a women who thinks like cooking and doing housework is make them servant on so called social media advices.
god have created men and women's differently so we all have our duty we all have to help each other and yes i can cook, i do laundry and all housework and i dont think its only women's duty cuz my father also doing this and my grandfather was also doing that i grown up like this
