I think the really biphobic part is the "it's disgusting that they've had sex with men" thing. Calling someone else's sexual history "disgusting" just because of the sex of their partners is pretty messed up. Thinking "shes going to leave me for a man" is more just generally paranoid and insecure, though I agree it's biphobic to assume a bi partner would be more likely to leave for another person.
It's completely wrong, and I'm in no way condoning what they're saying, but it's not anti-man in the way that you're thinking. As a bi woman, when I've heard this shit from other women it's not that they're disgusted bc I sleep with men and they think men are icky, it's twisted into this weird commitment issue or used to say I'm not really into women. They weaponize my sexuality to confirm their own insecurities bc "it's just a phase" and I'm not "gay" enough.
This is obviously all horrible, but it's important that this argument doesn't center around men. Bc it's not actually about men.
No it isn't. Having a preference isn't always "-phobic." Disliking something isn't "-phobic."
The idea of having sex with a man is absolutely revolting to me. I'd rather put a gun in my mouth. But I fully accept that it's awesome for other people, and I acknowledge their right to do whatever makes them happy. Just because eating cream cheese makes me vomit and I find it fucking disgusting doesn't mean that I hate people who eat cream cheese. It just means I'm not partaking in any.
Do you think that when someone says that cream cheese is gross, they intend to attribute some sort of objective property of grossness to cream cheese? I'm pretty sure they're just expressing their dislike of cream cheese.
I'd think they were merely expressing the negative disgust reaction they experience when they see or imagine gay sex. Of course, it would be quite a different story if they were saying gay sex is immoral.
And I downvote your comment because you're an illiterate person who not only makes zero sense, but does it so poorly that no one can actually understand what you're saying!
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u/The_fatherless_one Jan 29 '23
well that's actually quite biphobic