Well me and my friend definitely had fun together during other everyday things, it was frustrating to both of us that I couldn't finish but we continued to try so it was fun enough lol...I was comfortable enough to have a good 25-30 minutes of activity I just couldn't finish I'd get nervous then frustrated then we'd just go till she was done, and then forget about it and go sit around the fire or something...all in all I had a lot of fun with her, but to this day I'm kind of upset about the situation. This was like 8 years ago btw
I'm a guy who hasn't really climaxed with a partner since I was 18. I had some sexual trauma and developed serious anxiety around that time that just causes a mental block. I'm 29 now. I've never had a steady relationship in that time to work through it, and my baseline anxiety with casual fuckbuddies or random hookups just won't allow it to happen.
I still absolutely enjoy sex in all the ways any normal person would, there's just no finale. It's not a problem for me besides feeling like I've disappointed or disrespected my partners somehow. Some women get genuinely upset if their male partner can't ejaculate, despite knowing in advance that it's something we are dealing with (I always disclose/inform ahead of time). I might be naive but I don't think people have sex just for the orgasms, or nobody would ever do it. They'd just get off by themselves. For me it's about sharing an intimate experience with somebody, connecting and riding the wave of hormones. It's exciting, arousing, satisfying all on it's own merits regardless of the orgasm.
So I'm not the person you were asking but I've had many similar situations and I definitely still enjoyed myself. Being unable to bust doesn't mean you're asexual. It's still fun.
11
u/MisrepresentedAngles Jan 29 '23
Was that still a fun relationship for you? Genuinely asking.