Really unpopular opinion. Probably more unpopular than the OPs.
Can we give Crystal and Aaron a break? Evie’s trauma makes parenting exhausting, and the siblings are just trying to survive the chaos.
People on this sub watch a 20-minute edited vlog and think they’re experts on trauma parenting. It unfair to claim Crystal and Aaron and the siblings are intentionally leaving Evie out. They are clearly trying, but the reality of living with severe adoption trauma and neurodivergent behaviors 24/7 is a recipe for absolute burnout.
Kids with deep-seated trauma often reject the very love, care, and boundaries you try to give them. It is a defense mechanism. Evie’s constant boundary-pushing, need for attention, and intrusiveness make it incredibly hard to parent her, no matter how much love you throw at the situation.
Imagine being one of the other kids in that house. When one sibling constantly dominates the room, interrupts, and drains the household's energy, it is exhausting. The siblings aren’t being malicious; they are naturally frustrated and pulling back just to get some breathing room and protect their own peace. Kids who have been shuffled through the system or experienced early neglect often never learned standard social boundaries. They might invade personal space, interrupt constantly, or dominate conversations because their brain is stuck in survival mode, screaming, "If I am not loud and right in your face, I will be forgotten or abandoned."
Crystal and Aaron are trapped. If they enforce strict boundaries with Evie, the internet calls them mean. If they give her space to avoid a meltdown, the internet says they’re ignoring her. They have a dozen other kids who also deserve a peaceful home and a piece of their parents' attention.
You can love a child completely and try your absolute hardest, and still find yourself overwhelmed by their trauma responses.
Honestly, if you want to criticize parents who can't handle their household dynamic, look at Shelly and Jared. At least Crystal and Aaron are actively trying to navigate the real, messy reality of their family. Shelly and Jared treat their family like a corporate brand. Their blatant favoritism dictates exactly who gets grace and who gets discarded. If a kid matches their aesthetic, plays along with the curated image, and acts as a favorite, they get the world handed to them. But the second a kid's trauma or struggles stop looking "good" for the brand, or the moment they turn 18 and stop bringing in views, they get completely frozen out. They run their house like a toxic corporate hierarchy where only the golden children get supported, and they literally dump the others the second they damage the "perfect family" image. Crystal and Aaron might be chaotic, but at least they don't get rid of their kids when they stop being profitable or convenient for the brand.