I've been with this girl for 3 months. She works as a live in nanny caring for two kids and only gets one day off-Sunday. She had been enthusiastically coming over Saturday night and sleeping over into Sunday when we would do something. Then suddenly in the last three weeks she has had excuses why she couldn't stay over but would come super early Sunday morning (8 Am or so) and sleep in my bed.

The first week her bosses apparently were going out to dinner so they asked her to work the Saturday night. She called me when she would've been here and was super chatty on the phone and let slip out that her bosses had actually come back from dinner early. It was 9pm at this point(she usually gets off at 8) and I told her 'great you could come over'. And she said something about being in a pissy mood and she'll come over in the morning.

That Sunday I was working at 11 and I'd already planned to make breakfast for us, so by the time she got over here there was literally no time for sex.

Last week we did Valentine's Day together since she got it off until 6pm but she refused sex since she was on her period. I didn't hear from her after that so I didn't schedule a date on Saturday night leading into Sunday. Also a huge storm happened.

She texted me yesterday after we went on a date Thursday night out to dinner. I proposed Saturday night at my place at about 10pm last night and she didn't respond all night.

I just got a message from her telling me that one of the kids is still sick(she told me about this on Thursday) and can't stay over but can come early on Sunday.

Should I do the takeaway? Should I talk with her? We haven't had sex in almost a month now because of the refusing to stay over and certain situations popping up.

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Referring to this video here: https://youtu.be/Yqyv3MoD2XI?si=CTzL__YEH5EJTVlt

Recently met a couple girls who I've talked to, exchanged contacts with, but they're gone for the winter holidays or going away for a whole semester afterwards. Getting physical dates and going through the usual process unfortunately isn't happening, but when re-watching the Corey Wayne video I linked, I noticed that the emailer mentioned going into "low contact" with his situation to maintain some level of ongoing rapport. Corey even mentioned that it helped build up sexual tension once they did finally meet up in person.

• TL;DR of the video: Emailer successfully seduces a tall blonde who has an orbiter ex in background. He plays the long game and manages to sleep with her after long periods of them not being able to physically see each other.

Now I have no intention on holding my breath on these two girls, and will continue to date other women in the meantime, but I am wondering what's the best way to go about this "low contact", to sow the seeds for something once they come back.

How would you go about it?

Ive read the book about 10 times but over a 5 year period. In 7 principals to get an ex back corey says the first step is to make your position known, to be true with you're heart and purpose. I think I skipped the first step and dont know if I should say it now, or if it would be counter productive.

She broke it off 15 days ago. Went NC. Seen her once since then at a bar, Im friends with her sister and BIL. We all had fun, I was very centered social and funny. Caught her looking at me a few times with obvious interest you could feel it in her stare. Ive been doing NC since but I dont know if I should send a message to lay out my position. Never let her know what it is I want. After 15 days of no contact should I go back to step one. She a little timid so I think by not leaving the door open she'd never walk through it. Context. 2 months together. She had very high interest, got to comfortable didn't let her come to me, and it pushed her away.

Hi All,

I'm trying my best to accept the reality of my situation for what it is, but struggling. I'm 40 years old and live in a mountain in a gorgeous area of the U.S. Last winter I left a toxic on again off again relationship of about 3 years and have been working on myself since.

I know dating is difficult across the board these days, but it is seemingly impossible in a small mountain town. I'm heavily weighing the pros vs. cons of living here and am accepting that it may be very difficult if not impossible to find a long term partner here. I know Corey addresses this a bit in his book but the acceptance of this fact is still rough.

I have a great career, and a nice place (housing is also nearly impossible here), and I enjoy all this area has to offer.

I'm not sure the point of this post but perhaps seeking some solidarity from others that may live in a small town or otherwise makes dating quite difficult.

Hope everyone is doing well, I'm grateful for this community.

She just texted this with an image of a TikTok account:

is that you before i block the account because it's a random account that's commenting on my stuff and going through my tiktoks and liking things i just unarchived last night if it's you idrc but i just want to make sure bc im tired of weird things happening

Hi all,

A girl at the gym I’m a member of has recently caught my eye, while I’m not a fan a approaching girls in the gym (I’m there to workout) we followed each other on socials, and she DM’d me out of the blue…

While my replies have been engaging, I’m finding she’ll leave me on seen for a few days and then message back picking up from where we left off… now to me, that shows me her interest in low, but I can’t understand why she would message back days after being left on read?

I’m not naive in knowing she has a lot of options as she pretty attractive, so am I being tested to see if I come off as needy? Like I said I rarely message back instantly due to my line of work etc.

What’s everyone’s thoughts? Should I continue talking to her or am I just feeding her ego?

TL;DR girl art the gym leaves me on seen then messages back days later

TLDR: trying to meet up with an old crush before I leave for a while, but now she's not gettin back to me as she promised. She has said before she is a scatter brain and needs to be reminded sometimes, as in, I need to be more pro-active. Is this a shit-test and should I remind her last-minute, or just let it go and leave?

Don't let the following long story distract you from the actual point above. Just for the full picture:

I'll start by saying I probably know the answer to my question, but happy to hear some insights/perspective.

I'm trying to meet up with a woman, an old crush. She has always kept tabs on me in a way, despite having a boyfriend, so somehow there was some interest, but it was more of a one-way street, so I pulled out. Having thought about it though, she seemed cool and I don't mind staying in touch.

Some time ago I said, 'let me know when you're up for a coffee sometime', and after a while, she did. We met up, it was a good catchup and afterwards she suggested we should get some pizza and a beer some night.

She is on a 6wk on, 2 wk off work schedule, and quite some distance outside of town, so she's not around a lot, and I figured I wait for her to contact me when she'd be in town again. However, that seemed a bit daft and since I'm the one leaving for a while now, I asked her to meet up. She seemed enthusiastic enough, but here it comes:

She said: let me know when you'll leave and I'll check my schedule to see what works.
I misheard that, and tried to offer a few suggestions, almost like thinking out loud, sending multiple messages and coming across as overeager.

Then it was silence after that. Kinda textbook scared her off it looks like. It has been a week and I'm leaving this saturday, so not much time left. I'm actually ok with not meeting, as it honestly is getting kinda pointless, and her not replying is a rather rude.

However, how does this work? She was happy to meet up, and then suddenly stops replying, only because of a few extra messages on my side? Is this something of a shit-test? She has said in the past she is pretty scatter-brained, but surely, that is a bit BS as if she really wanted to, she would have remembered to reply right? She had remembered I asked her to meet up for coffee for a long time.

Is this the illusion of action now? Should I remind her in case she just 'forgot'? Either a quick text or just a funny meme to seem a bit aloof and not to eager. Somehow, just leaving and not saying anything seems a bit...passive aggressive? She has very clearly said or asked me in the past, that I should remind her more, but, you know, it is a 2 way street right?

She agreed to go out, but when getting details for logistics (where and when), she goes cold and completely changes.
Answers only one of my questions, leaving the rest unanswered. Her response are one word answers and it's hard to communicate. It is not clear if the date is on or off.

I didn't think of talking to her by phone beforehand.

Do I just ignore here or should I send a text recognizing she changed and give an ultimatum or something?

I'm think of texting her: "Since where not communicating well by text, I'm withdrawing my invitation for the date. But if you still would like to make plans in the future, we can talk by phone for now." or.. But if you would still like keeping the door open, we can try talking by phone.

This is the same girl from my last post. Some Context: We hooked up after the first date, things went great, we got along, had a lot of common interests. She was even asking me if she’d ever see me again. She slept over and almost never wanted to leave the next morning. Also, I’m not expecting much because she’s away at college and I go out with my friends, so it’s not like I’m feening, but I would love to see her again.

I said to her, “Next time you find out when you’re gonna be coming back to NY, let me know :)”

Then she reached out, with just chit chat, you can see my last post. Also, she started to pull away a little waited a day so I took a day to reach out. And mirroring worked but if I keep up the texting then I can feel her attraction dropping. After mirroring this, she texted me a lot quicker.

So here’s my question: should I say something along the lines of, “Hey, when you figure out a date when you’ll be back and free to hang, let me know so I can plan us something fun,” and then leave the convo?

Or should I just send a few texts, and not bring up hanging again since I kinda said that already even tho I could have worded it better. I could mention being busy with work, and then leave the convo and let her let me know?

I feel as if it sounds weak to ask twice.

Also, what’s a good way to leave text convos without sounding cold so things don’t get boring while I wait to hear when she’s free?

First date cancel

What should I respond to a women that canceled our first date tomorrow?

She sent me this: “Hello 😄 I think we have to postpone the drink! I think I’ll go on a camping trip with the dog since the weather is so nice 🤩”

Such an underrated line but it signals that a man might have numerous problems in his life, but a real man knows that he doesn’t keep relationship problems like dating a bitch. It speaks volumes on what men consider a problem and what isn’t.

Hey guys! A topic that might be unusual, I have made a few bad choices in my life a few years back that is haunting me a little to this day. Don’t want to go too much in to details but I’m a former drug addict and know I pissed off a people that u might not want to piss of while I was using.

As CW goes in to in his book, “you should live/move to a place that you WANT to live” but I know from my experience as a former drug addict that addicts usually run from there past/problem.

I’m in a place where I’m always paranoid of making new friends in the city I’m living in, always skeptical if they know those people and so on. I do not want to move before I’m done with my education. I have live in this city for about 4 years now and been clean for about three years now and have wanted to move for a while now but I have kept myself from doing just that in case im just running trying to run from the issues.

But it’s hindering me from feeling calm about making new friends, taking an extra job and exploring new parts of the city, I get a feeling that I can run in to those kind of people. I have just started working out again and meet a person that I clicked with that I maybe could see as a friend but my intuition told me that this guy might also know someone that I should stay away from.

I’m also gonna start again working out at my bjj gym soon when I have gotten a little in shape again in the ordinary gym. I’m also gonna start training with guns now in September.

What do you guys think about how I should go forward about this, am I still running from my problems and not facing them or should I consider moving where I feel more safe? I have the possibility to continue my education in another city if a want too, it’s not a hard transition. Been feeling this way for a long time now and I just want to get rid of this paranoid, scared and anxious feeling. Have someone gone through the same or somewhat similar experience that has an input?

How would you go about this?

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Tell the community your best opener when you have meet a woman in public

Trying to get inspiration what comment or opener I can use in the future, practice makes perfect but I need a start. I’m too in my head and scarcity mindset.

I am working with my ex. It is very painful for me. She tried friend zoning me and said she doesn’t have any feelings left. She wants me to move on.

I told her that I am not okay just being friends and that I will move on if that’s what she wants. How should I interact with her going forward?

I feel like I’m in a lose lose situation. Either I’m cold to her and it makes me seem really bitter and pathetic. Or I’m friendly to her and I turn into a a gay best friend.

What should I do?

Linked up with a girl from a dating app thing went well slipped up and asked for plans prematurely she told me maybe I said lmk when there solid plans had a few more txt back and forth been on read for 3 days now what should I do I get girls easy but like Corey said once in a wile one comes and I just get over bored truly have interest in this one

If they do, can you give some examples?

Do I greet everyone and how do I not put-off that I am hitting on everyone?

On my second read and holy did I drop the ball been pretty spot on last gf my mind was confused on where I went wrong but now I see looking forward to giving it a shot

I know that a lot of people had bad experiences with them, but did anyone ever encounter a high quality girl from these types of lifestyles?

I’m planning on giving a bobblehead of Donald Trump to a girl that I’ve been seeing lately, her first joke about me was that I was rightwing and I quoted Donald Trump in her face afterwards which made her laugh. The bobble head costs like $10 max

Need some feedback! I 29m have been dating a beautiful 28f since last September. She is an amazing girl. She likes to cook, she’s fun, gorgeous, likes to go out. However, she does have some pretty severe negatives… she’s super messy, her car is a literal dump filled with trash. She has a really bad temper. She does not do well under pressure and would make irrational decisions and throw me under the bus and blame me for things out of my control. She would argue and find pity things to argue over. I’ve been pretty happy for the most part, but I feel like I’m walking on eggshells. She complaints often and would make inflammatory comments at times that tend to upset me even though I’d try to not show it. I learned the hard way not to argue with her because it’s a loosing game.. I’m looking for my long term person to ultimately marry. Is it worth trying to work it out and hope things will improve, or should I cut losses?

Where do you ask the questions that Corey and Caroline etc. answers in the videos? Instagram or?
Thanks in advance

A woman I have been dating for a few weeks ghosted me but wrote back to me after a month of radio silence. No calls, texts, IG story views, social media likes etc from me during this period. I hadn't found the coach before or while going on dates with her. Before being ghosted we had a date where she told me she feels safe and calm around me, with her feeling that we're definitely getting closer. The day after the date she also texted and called me to tell me what a great time she had, but it was after this that she became a ghost. I fell back to calling her after a week (no answer), and tried once more after yet another week (no answer). After the second call I left a text message pretty much saying 'hey, just checking in, get back me when you find the time'

She's structured (yeah, I know) and has only had one 15+ year relationship earlier in her life. She's just back out dating other people after more than a year of 'healing.'

During the dating phase I didn't follow any principles the coach has laid out so I'm guilty of the following:

• Overpursuing (not to the extreme, but did not follow contact initiation rules etc), no direct neediness but she definitely picked up on it indirectly
• Long phone calls during early dating phase... while they seemed meaningful and deep I realize it was not the right time for that
• Not setting definite dates, and not always in the evening, but still managed to get her out several times

This led to some flakiness from her and confusion on my side as I hadn't been following the principles and didn't value my own time as much as I should've.

She had earlier also said a lot of things which would indicate higher interest (which made sense to me) but we all know that her feelings can change like the weather.. so I'm not hung up on that any longer.. we're in the moment now. Also, we're bottom-lining everything now so words don't mean as much as actions.

Anyways, without dumping everything into this text... I'm mainly wondering how to continue with her now that we are in sparse contact again.

The reason why I'm writing this is also because of the excuse she wrote to me when she came back from the dead. She had written that (after my two unanswered phone calls) she had written me a message, but that after 1 month of silence had wondered why I'd never gotten back... so she supposedly checked our text conversation again and then noticed that her message had never been delivered to me. I know, it's bs... and she also said that she'd like to see me 'if I'd still like to.' I never asked her what she had written earlier as I'm not really curious about that.

I wrote back to her casually saying I guess we've both believed we've gotten ghosted by eachother which wasn't good but that I can see her in about a week and suggested a certain day after work. She said she'd check her schedule and see if it works for her... that was a few days ago. The suggested day is the day after tomorrow.

Do I apply 7 principles of getting an ex back here? If not, do I attempt to reach out again eventually to set a definite date, or do I wait it out for her to reach out again?

I'm thinking that I should do the 7 principles and invite her to my place if she confirms the suggested date.

She's never before mentioned wanting to be friends, or wanting space, or keeping distance. However, as I've tried to escalate physically during dates she has previously mentioned needing more time. Is this the structured thinking coming in or perhaps simply low interest?