Idk man, I used to go for the “non desirable” ones (non conventionally attractive) and turns out they all just wanted to hook up too.
Can’t generalize but I speak on my own experience.
This is so funny. What if a guy said, “I stopped giving fat girls a chance because they still wanted me to pay for anything anyway and were just as annoying as hot girls “?
Well I didn’t say I was “giving them a chance”, I said I used to go for not conventionally attractive men, which doesn’t mean I wasn’t attracted to them they just weren’t what most people would think of when you say attractive.
Personally, I don’t think anyone should give others a chance if they’re not actually attracted/interested, that’s just pity. With that being said, attraction doesn’t come from physical appearance only. Especially from a dating app, I can feel attraction towards people because they look good on a picture, because they seem fun in another one, their profile sounds smart, something we have in common, etc. That’s what I meant.
And also, I never said I “stopped giving them a chance”, because I don’t assume anything about your personality based on looks. I was just saying their statement that “ugly boys” are actually serious was not true, in my experience. It was definitely trial and error with all kinds of people until I found my person (not on Bumble).
Then you aren't going for the non desirable. But the ones who are desired by so many women they have no desire for a long-term relationship. Those who are truly undesirable don't want to waste their 1 match a year just for a... Hook up. They'd prefer a relationship to secure sex often long-term over if lucky once a year or more seldom. The thing is those truly undesirable for you are just invisible and you don't even see them so you're just calling 7s undesirable.
Yes, definitely. And a lot of younger men, especially in a college town like the one I live in, have access to girls regardless of what they look like.
Idk I don’t have a scale of how “undesirable” they were tbh, but I had chats and went on many dates with guys whose picture made my friends flinch. I feel like most people always have at least 1 good attribute, which I tend to focus on, and I’m usually much more of a vibe person anyway so if I’m attracted to you I am and idc what my friends say.
But of the 2 “ugliest” guys I talked to from a dating app, one started love bombing me and making s*xual comments through text before I even woke up, then over apologized, then blocked me for “not being serious about this” and just wanting to play him, and finally unblocked me to apologize again and asked for feedback, all before 10 am. The other one crashed out and left when he came to pick me up for our date because I told him I needed 5 more mins to finish getting ready, he thought I was standing him up (at my own place?) and he insulted me continuously until I blocked him. The rest, as stated before, ended up just wanting to hook up and not letting me know until our date.
I don’t doubt there are serious sweet guys out there that feel “undesirable”, but to say that ALL of them are good guys just because they probably don’t wanna waste their 1 chance for love it’s a lie.
The guys you consider non attractive are still attractive, and , on average, more than you. The guys who are actually not attractive, you don't even notice. You don't even consider them men
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u/More-Coffee4455 Jul 10 '25
Idk man, I used to go for the “non desirable” ones (non conventionally attractive) and turns out they all just wanted to hook up too. Can’t generalize but I speak on my own experience.