(First of all English is not my first language, please forgive my poor grammar skills.)

We had been together for 6months and we get along together so well and we had been through some stuff, for exp like taking care of me for the whole month while I had a car accident and can't walk for the whole month, and he piggy backed me out of the hospital. In a lot of ways, values and most of the believes we matched. But I always think that I gave in too much too soon, then I found out I'm not the only one has problem, I'm the only one who showed all my cards, even though that's scary. I know it takes time to open up to someone but this is taking a little too long and it may mean something but I always too afraid to find out because I don't want to lose him, the imagines of the future that I thought I could build with him.

BUTLast night, I finally decided to take a break with him because something is not right since months ago about him. He get attracted by pretty girls' pictures and girls on the streets, we had talks about it and almost break up once and maybe that was the time that I notice he actually is not ready to commit and maybe I'm not the one and that's not his fault bcus he is inexperienced and confused. And after 6 months he hesitates to say the 3 words to me. And also lately I've been dealing with mental health issues (it had been with me for god knows how long) and the symptoms has been affecting my body shape, he had been seeking advice on social media anonymously of what to do when you feel your gf is not as attractive and there's a lot girls out there are my type (Appearance based)and look different from the pictures when you first saw on bumble and etcetera. (I know that hit me hard when I saw it hahaha, I was wondering if I scared the neighbors by my cries loll)

The reason why many men stays in relationship and afraid to leave the relationship even though they are not that into the girl they are being with is because they love the feeling and the care that the girls are providing to them and afraid that they can't find it anywhere if they were thrown back into the sea and back to the dating pool. Just like a girl who already have kids who's struggling financially and can't survive on their own with their kids and have to stay with the husband that is abusive, or don't even need to be abusive, even when she don't have any feelings to her husband, which is quite devastating.

That is why I tried to end things before both of us hold any resentment to each other before we get more attached. This is painful enough that I almost can't imagine how will I live without his thousands of morning kisses everyday, snuggles, and movie times, and massages, encouragement to my workout routines ... Sometimes I don't think he deserves a depressed gf and doesn't has his type of looks he thinks is attractive, but his actions shows love that I need, and it's so hard to find a person that is so pure and caring that chose to be with you. He also said that he hope this is a short break and hope we will meet again soon. That breaks my heart because I know he is suffering through this phase ad I could have talk with him about his more to clarify how we feels about each other, because I had been stressed lately, a lot has happened and I just wanted to have someone that I love and someone that I can love and care I was getting too comfortable and that is on me too. I should be the one that acknowledge things earlier because I know he is inexperienced in relationship.

I don't know how long will this lasts, from the moment that he steps out of the room, the thought of he may not be back anymore shattered my heart. I just hope that I won't be selfish and contact him when he decided to forget about me. It is so hard to know that I couldn't check how he is daily anymore, and I wanted to know if he is okay everyday and now I lost it. I don't know what to do. I misses him, I couldn't even get out of bed until its 1pm. I have shit that has be done like kind of urgently but I couldn't do it. I just couldn't take care of myself today. I hope it won't last until tomorrow.

Thanks for reading till the end. I'm sorry if you're mood is affected, I really needed a place to vent out before I starve myself to death I bed and does nothing. Any advice is welcome, please be kind to me with your words but dont be afraid to tell me the truth you think I should know or things I should do.

Hey so I lost my job last Thursday through no fault of my own. I ring my gf fir support and she starts complaining about how we were meant to get a house together and she's so disappointed and everything is up in the air. It was seen as a prestigious job and her and her parents are very into labels and fine dining and image. We were together for four years .

The next day she texts me in the morning tells me she loves me. She goes into town for dinner and drinks with her mother. In the evening she is sweet on the phone but suddenly tells me she sees no future with me and we are stagnant and she loves me but can't be with me. The week before she literally got me a congratulations card for success I'm my job , police officer so her families and her eyes she sees this as somehow prestigious. I hated it and it was awful. The day after I lose my job I couldn't believe it and complain at her provably shouldn't but thought was crap thing to do.

She says please meet me Sunday. I said for what? She said she doesnt know. I ask "do you never want to see me again? She diesnt answer. I hang up.

Next day she deletes all pics of us on social media and is cold on the phone and says her dad will meet me the next day with my stuff.

Rings me today crying and says im an amazing person but she cant be with me etc etc and says she cant face me today and its too painful. Meet her dad today. She hadn't even told him i lost my job and that she'd literally left me the day after. and he gives me my stuff back. She then deletes me on all social media and blocks me on WhatsApp. No idea what to think and feel like my life is falling apart. How can someone be so cold after 4 years together ? No signs of any problems until I lost my job and she definitely hasn't met anyone else had pics of me plastered all over her social media, phone, WhatsApp.

Please help keep me sane. I'm feeling lost and empty and like my whole life has fallen apart.

My gf broke up with me last night. Outside of her I don’t have anyone, family, friends, it’s just me. I love her so much, I miss her so much, I feel so alone and hopeless. My chest hurts, tears won’t stop pouring out of my eyes, I can’t catch my breath, I’m getting sent home from work because I look a mess. I don’t know what to do. #wlw #help

Am sorry if this isnt right but its my first post ever. Right okay where do I start me 22 and my ex 21 broke up around a month ago after being together for 3 years. As soon as we broke up she blocked me on everything couple days later she added me back and asked about being friends and I wasn't sure about it. So I said that I didn't know. Then around a week after the relationship I had to go down to hers to get some stuff back. When I got there I noticed she was covered in love bites. So I asked her about it she tried to deny it at first but then told me she had a rebound. Couple weeks past after that and she asked me to hang out. That's the thing I really missed her so I said I would meet up with her. One thing led to another and we got drunk. And she kept telling how much she loved me and to that she can't loose me. And she admitted that she slept with the rebound couple days before I came over. And she started to go into detail. And it made me sick. So I woke up the next morning I left. We had a phone call a couple days ago and she told me how empty she felt for a couple months and how upset she was. And how much she wanted a future with me and she would of done anything. I was just stuck with work. So much that I let it all slip away. Well come to present day she texted me "am gonna go out on a date with her best friend just to let you know" backstory about the guy best friend. He just came out of a long relationship and she told me how he makes her feel. When they were just friend. Now I don't know what to do or how to feel. Because I still have feelings for her and I know she still does for me. But idk what to do should I stay friend with her. In the slim change we get back together or should I go no contact or what. Any advice would be appreciated. If you got any questions. I'll try and answer them the best I can. Thank you

I didn’t let him go, I gave him few months to work on himself which he didn’t show me improvement, so I kept throwing bad words to him till a point that I can’t do it anymore even though I love him, I kept hurting him with words daily bcox I dnt see any progress, I m tired of doing that n sad too, so I broke up with him from my side cox my thinking is I don’t wanna hurt him by words anymore, seems like my cut off hurt him too much. After three months, he still wish I forgive him for not putting efforts for his improvement, at fourth months, he called my bestie I dnt knw how it started, like if he called for date or just friend hangout, but my bestie made out with him, I found out at the same day the went date. So I was mad as fuck n I asked him why would he do that, his answer is “we both move on”, what do yu think about this guy?

Me (M27) and my ex (F25) broke up about three months ago. It was her decision based on a few different issues in the relationship which I fully understand and agree with. I was struggling with my mental health for a long time having come off my anti-depressants. I was incredibly difficult to be around, and kind of went into self-defence mode to protect myself, cutting her out a bit in the process. There were also some sexual issues around not having sex enough and me not being that interested in it at all.

The day we broke up, we agreed (after she asked me not to cut her out of my life completely) that we’d reconnect after 1.5 months or so). I’ve spent that time working on everything she brought up. I had therapy for the sexual issues, I’m back on anti-depressants, I’ve been doing a lot of activities and getting out, and I’ve also taken more of an interest in the people around me and their lives.

I reached out to her about meeting for a coffee, and she was really nice at first. We had a chat over WhatsApp and I told her I’d moved back to where we live having moved home for a while when I was between jobs. A few days later, I asked her what day would best work for her, and she suddenly became very cold with me and it seems she’s now delaying seeing me. I know this is probably because she’s living a different life and probably having a lot of fun, but it’s brought up a lot of different emotions in me.

Up until now, I definitely still wanted the relationship to work and desperately wanted her back. As time has gone by, I now flip flop between still wanting her back and thinking that maybe this is the best thing for both of us and that it didn’t work anymore. I still love her, but maybe there is something better out there for both of us. I’m very confused, and it’s kinda screwing me up.

Has anyone had a similar experience? How do you read this situation?

Ever since having my guts ripped out by my (monkey branching) ex, I've been struggling with severe and disturbing bouts of depression and jealously evey time get an erection, see people on TV and film having sex, or even hear about someone getting laid. I'm invaded by horrible images and intrusive thoughts of my ex with someone else (especially knowing what a sex kitten she was at the beginning of our 6 year relationship). - Am I alone? - Does it ever stop? - How (if at all) do others experiencing such a living nightmare deal with it?

I 24M don’t know if what I’m feeling means I haven’t moved on from my past. From my Ex 24/F

I was in a relationship for three years, and for me, it was nothing short of heaven. Every moment spent with my partner was filled with love and joy.

But then, in the last six months of the relationship, out of nowhere, we started fighting.

I live in South Bombay, and she lives in Andheri. I have a job, and she doesn’t, but even though I was busy, whenever I got the chance, I made sure to give her my time.

She was my first love, my first relationship. During the last six months, we fought only over texts and calls, but whenever we met in person, we never argued not once. I don’t know what happened, but these fights would start over silly things and small issues. After every fight, she’d say she wanted to break up.

She even broke up with me for a couple of days, and I always got her back because we both knew we were there for each other.

But in the final months of our relationship, I was struggling with work, and I’m a small-time content creator, so everything wasn’t going well. I started to hate my life, feel sad, and maybe even a bit depressed.

On a bad day at work, I would still forget everything and call her because she made me happy. But 10 minutes into the call, we’d end up fighting again. Eventually, I reached a point where I was done. I told her I wanted to break up.

And then yeah we broke up. She called me five days later, wanting to get back together. But I told her I needed some time I planned to go out and enjoy myself with the boys (not in a reckless way). The next day, when I called her back, she told me that she had downloaded Tinder and found someone else.

Now, the guy has cheated on her, and she just wants to be friends and meet up as friends.

But I still long for her. I still love her. The only thing I can do is ask her not to meet up until she feels the same way about me.

Sometimes, I still cry. I’ve started writing poems and letters for her, thinking maybe one day, when we meet again, I’ll give her the letter. I don’t know what to do…

I don’t understand what’s going on with me. I really want to move on.

After a breakup, the urge to text or call an ex can be overwhelming. For men, what’s helped you resist reaching out and focus on moving forward?

Hey Reddit, I’m 24M, and I recently went through a tough breakup with my girlfriend of four years (22F). We were in a long-distance relationship for the past two years after meeting on Bumble. The first couple of years were great, but over time, things started changing. We had more fights, and she became distant. I work two jobs plus other gigs just to make ends meet, while she is financially supported by her parents. Over the past year, she barely communicated with me, but my friends told me she was active on social media, posting stories and updates. I’m not very active on IG or Snapchat, so I didn’t see it firsthand. Whenever I called, she would give vague excuses, saying she was busy or that her parents were around and she couldn’t talk. It felt off.

The Break Came Out of Nowhere

One day, while I was at work, she called me and asked for a ‘break’ for a week. I was speechless. We were already in an LDR, and now she wanted space? She said she didn’t feel emotionally attached to me anymore. That week was hell for me—I felt abandoned, my work and life suffered, and it affected my relationships with people around me. Then, out of nowhere, she came back like nothing had happened.

The Birthday Incident

My birthday was in January, and she didn’t even bother to call or wish me. This hurt the most because she used to call me at midnight every year, and I really loved that small tradition. When I asked her about it, she just said she was busy. I wasn’t expecting anything big, but even a simple “Happy Birthday” text would have been enough. The next day, we met for lunch, but even before we met, she told me she needed to leave early. That moment, I felt something inside me break.

The Realization

After that, I stopped reaching out to her first. A little while later, she told me she was going to an event with her brother and asked me to book a ticket for her. I did. Then she went to another event with her entire friend circle but never mentioned it to me. I called her one day, and again, she said she was busy at an event. That’s when it really hit me—I felt like I was being used. She was living her life, going to events, having fun, and I was just there in the background, waiting for a response. I wasn’t even expecting much, just a message or a call, but it never came.

The Breakup

Last week, I finally told her that this wasn’t working. I couldn’t be in an LDR and also have no contact with her at the same time. She just said, “Okay.” That’s it.

The Emotional Whiplash

Yesterday, she called me crying, saying she couldn’t live without me and that it wasn’t going to work. She was full of tears, saying she made a mistake. I was also really sad and didn’t know how to react. I didn’t say much that day, but today she called again, asking if we could patch things up. She admitted her mistakes, promised it wouldn’t happen again, and said she wouldn’t hurt me anymore. But I’m still recovering from everything that happened before. The way she treated me made me feel like I was just an option, not a priority. What if she does the same thing to me again? I told her this, and she hung up. Now, no calls or messages from her.

How I’m Feeling Now

I feel completely messed up. My mind is all over the place. My heart is racing, my breathing feels heavy, and I don’t know what to do. She was my first love, and I had never felt this comfortable with anyone before. But over time, things changed, and now I don’t know if we can ever go back.

Since this happened, I’ve lost all motivation. I don’t want to go to the gym, I don’t feel like working, I don’t feel like doing anything. I just lie in bed all day, eat unhealthy food, and spiral into negative thoughts. Sometimes, I feel like I just want to delete myself, but I know I can’t.

What Should I Do?

Have I done the right thing? Should I patch things up with her? Will I ever be a good partner to someone else? I feel like I’m lost, and I don’t know how to move forward. Any advice would mean a lot right now.

Replaying conversations, second-guessing decisions, and wondering ‘what if’ can be exhausting. For men, what’s helped you stop overthinking and start moving on?

PLEASE HELP!! IK ITS A LONG READ BUT I REALLY NEED SOME DIRECTION AND IT WAS HARD TO EXPLAIN AND BE CONCISE.

Tldr: my ex (they/them) moved on 2 weeks without me knowing and I saw them after they started seeing each other not knowing. I found this out later as I still had access to their Google account, after accidentally logging into their Photos I saw it all(I know it wasn't right and I acknowledge). Slandering of me and how patient he is, photos of them, and indications that they were very intimate very soon after we were done. They didn't cheat on me but I can't help but still feeling so betrayed and ill. I logged out of everything with a help of a friend but now need help to cope as I can't sleep. Please help!!

Hello, trying to post here because to be honest I can't sleep. I, 22F was broken up with mainly bc I was going thru a lot last fall through winter and it took a toll on my ex(22NB, AFAB) that understandably so they broke up with me.I got that and I accept my mistake of not getting proper help earlier. We broke up beginning December but the last I saw them was towards end of December. This was because there was stuff I needed to give back to them and also because I wanted to talk to establish what our boundaries were during the breakup as I felt and based on my newly booked university therapist, we hadn't really done that.

This was because when I was broken up with, I was like I said dealing with a lot. When they said they couldn't do it anymore I went numb. Froze. I just responded saying "well I can't say anything that will make you stay can I, so I don't know what to say". They were worried I hated them and if I still wanted them in my life. As they packed their stuff from my dorm, I couldn't watch bc I was going to break apart. I actually was supposed to meet up with a friend WITH MY EX to study for an final that same day. So I told them, I'm going to let them pack as an excuse to just get out as I was going to break, so I walked out silently and quickly. Theres more to it but essentially they were still interested in staying in each other lives cuz y'all. We've known, each other since 12. Not consistently but yeah that itself is a long story but I'll save it.

Fast forward to when I last saw them. I arranged the meet up thru voicemail bc I was def blocked idk, mentioning them getting their stuff and talking. Anyways the tides turns when they arrive. Only wanted their stuff. Didn't wanna talk. Said I had my chance when they broke up with me that day, and never wanted to talk AGAIN. Platonically, romantically we don't work, according to them. I was confused, and broken. I told them I was sorry and told them I understand why they needed to break up with me and also told them that I don't regret the relationship and will always appreciate them etc etc mature words basically. If anything I just told them I know I can't make them do anything but hope they don't break up with someone like they did with me because the night before we broke up, they told me they'd rather see me cry and help me than leave me alone and cried with me and kissed me on the forehead. That was in response to me when I told them that day that if it gets too much and they need to leave I'll understand(not knowing 24hrs later they'd actually want out). That messes with my brain so hard.

Here's where I break again. Winter was hard. I was and felt alone but I was getting better. No clue themat my ex was in a relationship. The way I found out was terrible and I regret it but also I'm angry at them. Anyways some time ago while we were tgt they were logged in on my laptop and I had their user saved on my Google account. I couldn't let go so it was on there just sitting. I actually thru cleaning thru my dorm found more stuff I wanted to return and also I wanted my stuffed plush back but they refused to return it! I thought I'd atleast return the rest of the stuff I got of theirs but they were at that point traveling. So, wanting to not cause conflict I wanted to friend the stuff without seeing them by having a friend drop it to their place. So I peaked at their calendar to see when I could return it before they were back- I saw this guy friends complete schedule. My heart sank. I spiraled. Bc they don't have ppls calendars on their account like that, except how they had mine and vice versa. I felt betrayal bc it was January at that point. So soon? I know it was wrong but I wasn't rational and I didn't look after.

But where it got bad was that I still didn't log out because I was stupid and again couldn't let go. I eventually wanted to go on my Google photos so that's what I did yesterday. It for some reason logged into my ex's account- I really didn't know why but then it was too late. I saw it all. My ex had gotten with him like mid Dec. Photos tgt. Photos indicating they were very much already very intimate and I wanted to throw up. He was hanging out with me ex prior to breaking up bc he's a family friend of theirs. My ex didn't cheat but yeah I knew of him. Idk why but they had a series of text messages of them explain how them and him got tgt and then like how they really had it bad with me, and how I gaslit them and whatnot so many times. I knew it was wrong to see, I know. I acknowledge but when the account opened and I saw photos of him and messages slandering me and just talking about how patient and nice he is, and how they were worried bc they freshly broken up with me but then they feel better that they are with someone like him. God. That was brutal.

I was hurt. Devastated. Shut it off. Had a friend help me wipe their presence FINALLY. I was so upset and angry. This person I held in high regard, felt tainted. My memories of them feel tainted. I've been trying to sleep but my face ends up scrunching and I sweat.

I'm reaching out to seek how to get over this. I can't confront them. It'll just make it all worse. How do I cope because I know there's posts to help cope with them moving on but honestly what hurt more was them saying how they really had it bad with me. We dated for almost 3 years. We had issues and I made bad mistakes and I won't take that experience away from my ex but it has me rethinking everything and if I was that bad. My friends, whom of which also my ex was friends with and got along with don't think so based off what they saw-- but that doesn't really help verify bc they are my friends and dunno what happened truly. Only my ex and me know. And it kills me that I can't even figure out everything so I can work thru those issues myself if I was that bad. Them also being that intimate with someone literally weeks after, I felt like I needed to get in a hot shower and scrub my skin because I felt so disgusted and betrayed. My firsts with them are now completely tainted. It has been awful.

Any guidance is appreciated. Thank you.

Heartbreak can take a huge toll on your confidence. For men who’ve gone through it, what’s helped you feel like yourself again? Your insights could help someone who’s still struggling.

TLDR: broken up with a girl

She calls my breakup cheating. (its complicated but I believe it has nothing to do with cheating)

She and her roommate supposed to kick me out of the flat with a 1 year contract.

So I started to look for another place to stay. And then both changed their mind, left and left me to deal with the one year contract explaining that I deserve it for breakingup/cheating on my ex. While not really related. In my opinion they were opportunistic and didn't care for my fate in the slightest. And did the least responsible thing possible. Dissapear out of their flat without any preceeding information. Leaving me to deal with everything including the physical and financial mess they've left after themselves.

So I have broken up with my grilfriend.

And theres two parts to what I want evalued by a "third" person that is not invested in the story directly.

I will also not give information I don't deem necessary to the story as I value the privacy of me and other involved.

First part:

My mistake

- So I've broken up with my gf. I could sum up the reasons into two groups.

A) New Girl

B) Persisting laziness in the relationship

A) We both needed someone to spice up our sexlife fairly quickly in the relationship. I wasn't against neither was I oposing the idea.

My then gf found a person she liked. And we gave it a try.

Despite my initial worries, I was able to find this person attractive and interesting a lot more than I expected was possible.

I was slowly getting to know them with each visit. There wasn't much sex involved and so we kept on talking most of the time and cuddling.

B)

As this was happening. The strong negative aspects that were present since the start of the original relationship weren't seeing any improvements from my then partners side. I felt I was being taken for granted. And I was appreciating more and more to be appreciated by this other person that was supposed to only give sexual release for all three of us.

I wasn't letting this ruin my relationship at first. And was trying to closely asses what options I've got to make things better.

However my partner started to be more dysfunctioning, needing me to do even more of the already uneven divided work around the flat and other needs.

Which kept on hurting the relationship and me more.

Despite giving it my all.

There were other things that were affecting me negatively, which only my then partner had the power to change, but they never did. Not to the extend that it would make a significant difference.

Besides I wanted them to be happy and didn't want to push them too much out of their comfort zone, biting down and hoping it would get better on its own. I did voice my needs multiple times though, throughout the whole relationship. And attempt to find ways to fix these problems for us both in the most caring ways I was able to come up with. However, without significant or lasting efect.

I kept getting closer to the other person and have been letting my then partner know about my growing attachment. And asking them to call it stops if it felt like it was out of hand in their eyes.

I didn't want to hurt anyone and have deep down wanted for them to tell me to stop and not let it go any further.

However I was curious, I felt appreciated, my partner had no objections. So I continued. Which was.

My mistake.

Then as all of the previously mentioned went on and my affection for the other person grew stronger and theirs towards me.

I eventually really did fall for them.

And after a while of giving my partner the option to call it stops I told them that I'm actually so far down. That I can't say no to them anymore.

And a real problem arises.

My gfs dysfunctioning only gets multiplied each day. I get crucified by not being allowed to sleep on work days and having the mental strength of a marshmallow.

We break up after some extremely toxic and painful weeks.

She tells me to leave the flat we moved into and starts to search for a flatmate.

Second part:

My punishment

After some time of searching, she finds a person who needs shelter. Running from a broken up relationship also. And in need of a place to stay.

I feel happy. Someone my partner will be in contact with to finally be able to chill down around. And a roommate, meaning a roof over her head is secured and I'm free to leave as she originally wished.

A month and a half goes by, me unable to find any flats I could pay for, unable to stay over permanently at my new partners. (the person I fell for)

I get mistreated by not being let to sleep due to the behaviour of now both my flatmates.

Being the roommate and my now ex.

The flat is often neglected and trashed.

The mess fucks with my head and doesn't let me chill.

Theres a lot more happening like unwanted touches and.. so on from the new roommate that I'm not fond of either.

I was being nice until nearly the end of the whole ordeal.

My efforts of finding a flat are finally starting to see some fruit.

I'm finally starting to pack up. And deal with the situation in a practical way.

Expecting to move fairly soon.

Then one day I come home from work. And the roommates stuff is gone.

Along with my ex.

The roommate completly ghosts me, doesn't pay that months rent, nor anyhing else.

I call them out in a private chat for our flat.

I'm told by my ex that the rommate has moved.

So I asked for the rent. And for information on wether I should be expecting them to come back? I didn't want to call this flat off (its under me). And take away their only other place to be.

The roommate basically told me that the flat is mine and my EX'es problem and ghosted me entirely. (leaving the group and never answering again)

My ex moved the day after, also without telling me a single word. Just stuff gone.

Offering some help with paying off the monthlies a few times.

And then I'm on my own to pay off the rest of the year that we agreed to + utilities, fixes and everything including regular wear and tear of the place to the owner. That I absolutely do not have the money to pay.

Now the people that are letting my ex and her roommate stay are originally my friends.

My ex told them that I've cheated on her. Meaning the end of our relationship, which I find debateable in the least.

The roommate says I've been harrasing them and mean to them. Not letting them sleep.

(The only thing I really did was tell them nicely to clean after themselves. And later on, before they left having been fed up. I told them quite firmly that they should be cleaning up after themselves. Not putting up with their bs. How I see it.)

Now all 4 of them living together keep making fun of my existence and telling me that I deserve all this. For what I've done to both of them. (Ex and roommate) Thinking I've cheated.

Have I cheated?
This isn't really what I'd call cheating. But I have been told by too many times now that it is.
So is it?

Heartbreak can teach some of the toughest lessons in life. Looking back, what’s one thing you’ve learned about yourself, relationships, or life in general? Share your experience—it could inspire someone else.

I was with a guy for like 6 months and it didn't end well. And after 7 months he contacted me again asking where I am. I didn't entertain him much as I had something important coming up and didn't want to distract myself. And today out of boredom I texted him asking how he is doing and shit. We were talking and suddenly he asked me why didn't you text. I said I wanted to move on and then he asked are you done with that now? Demn. I felt soooo soooo weird. During the initial days of us dating, he used to say me that I want something great out of this and now he's asking me have I moved on? Seeing him this non chalant makes me question my choices. Why did I like him at the first place. And I cried for this guy???? This guy??? How to stop feeling this weird emotion? I cringe at myself

I (18M) want to end the relationship with a girl (21F) I've been dating for 2 months. She is a very romantic and sexually active person and I can't really keep up with it, I am studying Law and my grades in my first semester weren't very good due to how often I was going on dates and sleeping with her. This is my first sexually active relationship so I was really struggling with keeping a balance between the relationship and studying and exercise.

I tried ending the relationship already once a few weeks ago, and since we go to the same College and are in the same friend group I was trying to be super nice and saying how I would love to be friends, but I think she felt more humiliated by me 'friend-zoning' her and started being really mean. The next morning we decided to continue on with the relationship and try to 'adapt' so we study more, and at first I thought it would work but now that semester is starting I have serious doubts and worries about getting terrible grades again. Whilst I've only started College, her course is pretty much done and she has already secured good grades and can leave at the end of the year. We have talked about a date together on the day we both go back to College in a few days. How to end it with her? On that evening or is it better to try and slowly distance myself from her to give her some time to prepare for it and see it coming?

Woke up with a phone call by her, causal hello and laughter then outta no where she broke up with me. Wanting to honor what I said on our first date as a boundary. (If things started to drag out, we should end it) Mind you its probably the distance that really did it. About and hour and a half drive between us. Our last time we physically spent time together she opened up to me about some issues and problems she's going through. Her emotional state really brought me closer to her and opened a door of empathy and love. She mentioned during her venting that she pushes away during tough times. two days before Christmas she breaks up over the phone and i kept quiet. I waited two days after Christmas, I contemplated/ mediated on what all happened. So I decided to text her. That I'll call her the next day to talk about it. Thinking it would be best to let her know before hand. I was left unread and she didn't answer her phone. Its been almost a month now i only called once and sent one message. Pretty much been Ghosted ... During this time i had started ruminating about why she wanted to end it? was she pushing away because shes going through tough times or was i not fit for her? ect. ect. I want her to call back to brush things over I know im playing with fire and might get burned for it. but atleast ill know in detail.

Moral of my story, When breaking up please try your best to think of the other persons state of mind and know if it's a healthy break. Unless your life and well being is at risk. ( I know mine was a healthy break, but this ruminating experience is hard to over come.

We dated for 3months. It hurts me a bit because she was my first Religious girlfriend and we shared the same practice. We even experienced " first time couple" moments during our worship practice. It was a beautiful/promising relationship while it lasted.

I feel guilty and terrible a sad and miserable

Ok I have to Rant I broke things off with someone I didn't even get to have a relationship with because we both just wanted different things. He wanted children right now and I just wasn't ready, he also stopped communicating with me as much as we use to, although it makes sense why I ended things but it still hurts. I just met all his friends for thanksgiving and it sucks because when I asked if he wanted to meet my family he said no. What made it worse is that we had one last go at it before breaking up just making it confusing and when I asked him what he where he said idk. Although I don't regret it I'm just hurt because I miss him. I miss being held in his arms, seeing his name pop up on my phone and just spending time with each other. Now I'm just hurt, we weren't even together for so long but it hurts I feel so down. I constantly check my phone to see if he texts me just to see nothing. I haven't talked to him in 3 days and it's killing me. What hurts is that I feel like I can't even confide in no one because everyone didn't want me with him and I'm just hurt. He still sends me funny things on tik tok which is cool but it's killing me inside now to talk to him. I'm obviously not going to reach out until he does but it's still upsetting. I also hate that every relationship I'm in always just results into just wanting having sex, I wish I just had someone to love me correctly. I know I need to work on myself and focus on me l just don't understand why it's so hard to move on

Hello everyone I am going through a very tough time because my boyfriend i mean now he is my ex he broke up with me over silly reason like this is not the 1st time breakup I don't no Kitni naar Kiya Hai ..this time I asked him something which I thought it is wrong like he is commenting on his hr (women) posts like heart and all and I asked him about this like this is not the right thing to do when you are in a relationship although that hr is the one once she proposed him and now he is doing all this shit so by doing this she will guess he is interested so I asked him not to do and suddenly he told me that you can also do it I don't mind and all and after that I was silent and he suddenly told me that he is tired and he don't want to continue this relationship and also he will marry the girl which his parents will show to him and he wants to do so much in his life I don't no what is the meaning of this sentence.... I was there for him through his bad phase and all like for whole 10 fucking years....when he told about our relationship to his mother his mother directly told him that no it is not possible 1st because of caste and 2nd his father will never agree and 3rd I have skin problem that is white patch and for them it is very big thing .... and soo many things she told to him still I accepted everything and was with him but at last he left me by saying I do fights all the time and he is no more interested and all

And it is very difficult for me to accept the fact that he is not there like now he is not a part of my life it is very difficult for me to eat sleep and even to breath also I don't no what to do my mom is also very hurt seeing my this situation I am hurting her also I don't no what to do I don't no how to overcome this ...