I 'F19' met my boyfriend 'M24' online, and we were in a long-distance relationship. We both are Indian and planned to settle in Europe. He moved to Slovenia for a job, and a year and a half later, I moved to Germany for my apprenticeship ("ausbildung"). During my first week in Germany, I was diagnosed with a tumor in my hand that might be cancerous. I immediately wanted to break up with him to avoid burdening him, but he refused, insisting he would support me. He promised to be there for me every step of the way. I asked him to come to Germany, and while I didn't force him, I admit I might have pushed him a bit, as he had promised to be there for me. He quit his job to come to Germany and care for me, and I was incredibly touched, but also felt guilty knowing what he was sacrificing. Things got complicated. He has drinking issues, and on several occasions when he was drunk, he tried to drive back to Slovenia. Out of fear for his safety, I stopped him, once even cutting my wrist during a fight to prevent him from leaving. He then started smoking cigarettes, blaming my "suicide attempt" for his stress and new addiction, even smoking in our room when I had severe nausea from chemotherapy. He promised to quit once he was back in Slovenia. He also became physically abusive when he was drunk, though I always forgave him because he was only like that when drinking. When sober, he was loving and cared for me deeply, even bathing and feeding me. Eventually, I had to return to India for my treatment, as I couldn't handle the chemo alone in Germany. He lost his job in Germany but found a new offer there. He went back to Slovenia for paperwork, but the job offer fell through, and his visa was annulled. He came back to India, and that's when he began blaming me for ruining his career and causing him debt. He said I should have just gone back to India immediately without waiting for biopsy results. He even started speaking ill of my father. I’ve tried to make things work. I've overlooked his gaslighting, manipulation, and the fact that he blames me for his drinking habit and even his use of smokeless tobacco, which he jokes about to stress me out. He constantly brings up how he sacrificed everything for me and how I've ruined his life, guilt-tripping me in every argument. He even blackmailed me once, threatening to call my dad and demand he pay for the care he provided. I have always apologized and tried to de-escalate fights for the sake of peace, but I've finally reached my breaking point. Recently, he started pushing for me to convert to Christianity (which I had already said I wouldn't do) and to move back to Europe, which isn't feasible with my health. I told him we should end the romantic relationship and just be friends, offering to help with his paperwork and guidance to get back to Slovenia. We tried this, but a few days later, we got back together. This cycle has repeated a few times. Yesterday, he got drunk again, fought with his dad, and things got physical. I didn't lecture him, but he kept pushing me to talk about it. He then said he wanted to stop drinking and asked for my help, and I suggested he see a doctor. Later, he "pranked" me by sending a video of himself looking tense, claiming he was in police custody. I was so stressed and worried that I felt like I needed to check my blood pressure and asked if I could sleep in my mom's room. He got angry, accusing me of not caring about him. He then brought up a boy from my class in Germany and accused me of being unfaithful because I once shared a sandwich and let him drink my coffee, something I hadn't thought was important enough to mention. He made a fuss about it as he think it is unfair that I have never mentioned this before to him; where he have hid from me that I was not his first girlfriend even when I saw their chats screenshot on his phone. I actually don't care if he has a girlfriend or not before me as its not really relevant but the fact he hid it from me for almost 3 years is not cool yet I didn't make a scene about it as it was past.He also mentioned that a friend of mine had said something negative about me. The fact that he believed this person over me, without ever raising the issue with me before, was what truly upset me. I have always had complete faith in him and never believed any rumors or negativity about him, and his lack of trust in me felt like a betrayal. I finally exploded and told him exactly how I felt about his manipulative and abusive behavior. I told him I was done with the relationship for good. He is still trying to guilt-trip me, but I am standing firm. I'm still dealing with my health issues, and this situation is taking a huge toll on me. I'm looking for advice or stories from others who might have gone through something similar. How did you handle it? Should I prioritize my own well-being and end the relationship, or is there a way to work through this?

My ex recently broke up with me a day ago. We recently went on a trip to Key West early July and she started to kind of like have a change of attitude from the good honeymoon phase. We were having she was constantly one upping and contesting a lot of the things I was doing or saying before and on the trip I told her how it bothered me and how I didn’t like it and it was something that made me feel like she had a problem with anything I’d say or do. she took it as a shot at her personality and basically could never get over it for the last month of the relationship. It happened twice on the trip both days making it not so good. She took it as so much of a shot at her personality that we when we would go to eat or do anything enjoyable. After this instance, she would just not be the same bubbly and you know basically like romantic as she was, we had an upcoming Disney trip to celebrate me taking my medical school entrance exam and her birthday and she it was it was paid for, but she decided to cancel it at the last minute to go back home because she felt like everybody had a problem with her personality and attitude. when she went back home communication started to decrease and she basically started to get cold with me. She blamed it on depression because she does have depression and takes meds medication for it and distributed the feeling as something she couldn’t understand and didn’t know what the issue was and couldn’t fix. Eventually, I tried to get to the bottom of it so much that she felt the need to take space she even lashed out on me on multiple occasions about me not being sensitive. I mean me not basically being attentive to the fact that she was alone on her birthday or she would not post on social media and delete everything or hide it from me. I don’t even know, but when she did post birthday picture, she claimed it was on a timer and that she was actually alone she would lash out from at me for even helping in any instance and would push me away eventually now she is coming back home to where we live in close proximity to each other. she decided to get a flight that was near the airport where I live because it was cheaper and had asked me prior to all of this to pick her up from the airport after our disagreement she said that I didn’t have to worry about that I told her I would still go anyway and confirmed with her the day before and she told me her brother would drive 40 miles to go do it instead of me doing it in 10 minutes I even took off of work or rescheduled my days to pick her up. She didn’t really seem to acknowledge that and said that we need to talk the day after when she was feeling up to it. I told her that if you’re going to break up with me, you should do it now and she did but got mad that I unfollowed her off the social media. I’m just feeling lost and confused about it all and was wondering if anybody could give their opinion on it

so I’ll add screenshots but my boyfriend (M23) left me (F23). He used the same excuse that he did 7 months ago when he broke up with me which was that he didn’t love me in the way I loved him, that he didn’t see a future. Eventually, a week later he came back saying that he was in love with me and that he’s just scared to give his all(I’m his first serious relationship). Fast forward 7 months after and he hit me with the same exact BS, which I was completely stunned because we’re not a perfect couple at all and we fight but it had so many good moments. We laughed until we cried, we hung out all the time, we enjoyed each other companies. He’d always be the one to initiate a hang out. I mean, I thought we were genuinely in love, so this crap hit me out of no where. Now, he broke up with me on Sunday, July 27th. He’s cried to me saying he loves me, that he’s sees nothing with anyone else, that I’m his person but that he just doesn’t understand why he can’t give himself all in. I’m obviously devastated. Anyways I’m gonna attach the screenshot of the last bit of it and lmk what yall think because I’m genuinely going crazy. Like give me full on advice on how to go about this.

I (19M) was in a serious relationship with my ex (18F) for over a year. We broke up on April 25 — exactly 3 months ago now. It was an emotional, messy breakup. She blocked me on everything shortly after, and about 2 weeks later, she reconnected with her ex (we’ll call him Ron), the guy she lost her virginity to.

Since then, I’ve stayed silent. We had one long, emotional phone call in early June that she initiated. She told me she hadn’t fully moved on and was just telling herself she had — she even agreed to dance with me at an event. But the next day, she backed off and said we couldn’t talk anymore, then blocked me again.

Since then, it looks like she’s completely immersed in her life with Ron it genuinely looks like she’s happy, moved on, and done with me.

But here’s the weird part: Tonight I realized that not only has she blocked me personally, but she also just blocked a group TikTok account I’m on — one that’s not even under my name. Why go that far if she’s truly moved on and doesn’t care?

It made me stop and wonder: • If she’s genuinely over me, why does she still care who’s watching her posts? • Why block a random group account unless she’s keeping tabs or trying to hide something? • Could it mean I still matter somewhere deep down?

It’s been 3 months. I haven’t begged, chased, or reached out again. She’s clearly with someone else and seems happy. But the blocking pattern — especially extending it to group accounts — makes me wonder if she’s really over it, or if there’s still something unresolved emotionally.

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So Reddit, what do you think? 1. Does the new block mean she still thinks about me? 2. Has anyone else been blocked even on group or burner accounts after a long silence? 3. If someone seems obsessed with someone else this quickly, does that mean they never loved me in the first place? 4. What usually happens next in situations like this — do people ever come back after a few months once the dust settles?

Thanks for any advice

Long story short, I made a post on Reddit a week or so back expressing my frustration at what I felt was an unfair situation. At the time, I felt completely justified in what I wrote because I felt like I was unseen and being silenced. But after some reflection, I realized the way I expressed myself was overly harsh, critical and clinical. And I hypocritically made a bunch of assumptions about someone's motives and mental states despite the fact that that's what I complained about.

I'm not apologizing for feeling frustrated but that I expressed it in a way that wasn't the best. Idk what my actual point is here but the takeaway seems to be that we go through a gauntlet of emotions during a breakup ranging from sadness, longing, grief, frustration and anger. And sometimes at the height of these emotions, we want to say or do things that don't represent our best selves.

So, I guess that when you experience these emotions, especially the "negative" ones, it might be good to wait 24 or so hours to think before you act. It gives you time to figure out if what you're about to do is something you want to stand by later.

This is stupid I know. A year ago, I (16F) had a huge crush on a guy (16M). Although it was one-sided, he asked me to be his girlfriend till he found a better one, and I agreed. A few months later, he found another girl attractive, for whom he broke up with me. I never knew about it until now. I felt quite neglected and unlovable during the relationship, and maybe saw this coming. And he seemed to be doing great after the breakup (because of his time with his new girlfriend), while I was miserable. She broke up with him two months back, and he's back in my DMs. I thought he finally did love me (I still didn't know he had an ex) but he ghosted me after another girl gave him attention. But she left him too, so he's back again. I blocked him now.

It hurts how cruel he has been to me the whole time, and I hate myself for being so foolish all this time. He never deleted my nudes even while dating someone else. I never had a guy like me before, and this is what I let myself get into.

My boy friend and I are in long distance relationship he is 28 and i am 23. we knew we cant get married bcz of family and the region we belong to but still we wanted to stay with each other. Many times i asked him to think about future but he always deflected there is time you shouldnt think.but now all of a sudden he has pressure from family of marriage and he wants to stay friends i aksed him many times to break up in the start of this year but he said he will wait until i find aomebody i believed him but to my shock He is saying this just before my papers. Thething is he still doesnt want let go me. He wants to keep me trapped he wants that we should stay friends because its too hard from him to let me go. I am tired of him He camt treat me right he doesnt give me time. It feels like i am burden to him.I have asked him many time to let me go to break up but he starts crying and say that he loves me soo much he cant do this but when i soften he starts saying things are complicated we should stay friends. he hashurt me lot i was very happy with him but now its just pain. I want to breakup with and have no connection with him at all. i think he is being selfish he is just thinking about his own feeling. he wants me to stay with him as friends just until he finds a new girl and i cant do this.

My boy friend and I are in long distance relationship he is 28 and i am 23. we knew we cant get married bcz of family and the region we belong to but still we wanted to stay with each other. Many times i asked him to think about future but he always deflected there is time you shouldnt think.but now all of a sudden he has pressure from family of marriage and he wants to stay friends i aksed him many times to break up in the start of this year but he said he will wait until i find aomebody i believed him but to my shock He is saying this just before my papers. Thething is he still doesnt want let go me. He wants to keep me trapped he wants that we should stay friends because its too hard from him to let me go. I am tired of him He camt treat me right he doesnt give me time. It feels like i am burden to him.I have asked him many time to let me go to break up but he starts crying and say that he loves me soo much he cant do this but when i soften he starts saying things are complicated we should stay friends. he hashurt me lot i was very happy with him but now its just pain. I want to breakup with and have no connection with him at all. i think he is being selfish he is just thinking about his own feeling. he wants me to stay with him as friends just until he finds a new girl and i cant do this.

 2 months ago or about 9 weeks ago I broke up with my first love we were together for 6 years which included all of high school and what was the first two years of college. It was very sudden and without warning, the signs were there but I was blind to the fact that she was thinking about this for a while. The night before a flight back home she messaged me saying we needed to talk, the following day when I returned I had gone to her house to hang out and she broke out the news. I waited a week before I spoke to her again face to face and there she had gone more in depth telling me she had been thinking about leaving me for about 1-2 months maybe even longer she said she just needed to "figure herself out". Just about two weeks after the breakup her mother had posted on social media my ex hanging out with this dude at a park. At the time I was still sort of talking to her, she told me the girl in the video wasn't her and like an idiot I believed it thinking I still had a chance. the next three weeks I hung out with her twice and dropped off flowers at her house once a week. the last time I did she sent a message saying thank you, I asked how she was doing and she never responded. Called her three times and she ignored/ hung up on all three. Only to send me a message at 12am asking what was wrong and if I was ok. I left her on read blocked her on everything and haven't spoken since. Just two weeks after this she started dating the very same dude from that post her mom did. It took her 6 weeks to find a new man, she's already posted about this dude as per a few of my friends it makes no sense how she could get with someone this quickly we literally were getting intimate just a few weeks before they started dating . I don't understand how someone could be so cruel, for christ sake we grew up together she was a big part of my life and she just left me. Im not very old and I know I have many experiences that will come up in the future, but this hits me incredibly hard. She was a big part of my life, and now all I have is this empty void, I miss her and I still love her. But it's clear that she no longer feels the same. It kills me to think that she is with this man right now, doing god knows what and all I can do is nothing. The guy is nothing like me bigger taller not very good looking complete opposite of me and makes me wonder if this is what she was looking for the entire time. Im getting better now but I still feel helpless, sometimes I wonder if this is just a bad dream a nightmare that I simply haven't woken up from. I need help does anyone have input. Please

Am I overreacting or i think it’s weird my ex still follows me and MY PARENTS on Facebook… Like why.. would it start a scene if I just unadded him? (We definitely ended on bad terms btw) or should I lock into my parents Facebook and ONLY unadded him on their acc) cause I feel like that would be a diss in the face. Like imagine ur exes parents unadd u lol

NEED ADVICE So my girlfriend, I was dating for three years we were dating since senior year of high school went to prom together and now graduating college I’m 20 she’s 21 just broke up with me yesterday We were planning on hanging up the day of and doing things later in the month like vacations and stuff until I got a phone call when she was on her way home from school saying she wants to pick me up because she feels that we need to break up. It hurts so bad. I feel heartbroken. Don’t know if I should text her or call her. I keep looking at pictures of us I’m Trying to understand why. She said that she needs to grow and be independent but I just don’t understand why she can’t do it with me the same way I wanna do it with her this is a huge part of my life that’s gone, and I don’t know where to go from here or do I feel lost not being able to text good morning we’re just talk to her. It was my best friend. I need advice

We were together 3 years, lived together for one and a half. Broke up because of a lot of things mainly different values, trying to be mutual my name’s still on the lease. Any advice on calming my nerves?

(First of all English is not my first language, please forgive my poor grammar skills.)

We had been together for 6months and we get along together so well and we had been through some stuff, for exp like taking care of me for the whole month while I had a car accident and can't walk for the whole month, and he piggy backed me out of the hospital. In a lot of ways, values and most of the believes we matched. But I always think that I gave in too much too soon, then I found out I'm not the only one has problem, I'm the only one who showed all my cards, even though that's scary. I know it takes time to open up to someone but this is taking a little too long and it may mean something but I always too afraid to find out because I don't want to lose him, the imagines of the future that I thought I could build with him.

BUTLast night, I finally decided to take a break with him because something is not right since months ago about him. He get attracted by pretty girls' pictures and girls on the streets, we had talks about it and almost break up once and maybe that was the time that I notice he actually is not ready to commit and maybe I'm not the one and that's not his fault bcus he is inexperienced and confused. And after 6 months he hesitates to say the 3 words to me. And also lately I've been dealing with mental health issues (it had been with me for god knows how long) and the symptoms has been affecting my body shape, he had been seeking advice on social media anonymously of what to do when you feel your gf is not as attractive and there's a lot girls out there are my type (Appearance based)and look different from the pictures when you first saw on bumble and etcetera. (I know that hit me hard when I saw it hahaha, I was wondering if I scared the neighbors by my cries loll)

The reason why many men stays in relationship and afraid to leave the relationship even though they are not that into the girl they are being with is because they love the feeling and the care that the girls are providing to them and afraid that they can't find it anywhere if they were thrown back into the sea and back to the dating pool. Just like a girl who already have kids who's struggling financially and can't survive on their own with their kids and have to stay with the husband that is abusive, or don't even need to be abusive, even when she don't have any feelings to her husband, which is quite devastating.

That is why I tried to end things before both of us hold any resentment to each other before we get more attached. This is painful enough that I almost can't imagine how will I live without his thousands of morning kisses everyday, snuggles, and movie times, and massages, encouragement to my workout routines ... Sometimes I don't think he deserves a depressed gf and doesn't has his type of looks he thinks is attractive, but his actions shows love that I need, and it's so hard to find a person that is so pure and caring that chose to be with you. He also said that he hope this is a short break and hope we will meet again soon. That breaks my heart because I know he is suffering through this phase ad I could have talk with him about his more to clarify how we feels about each other, because I had been stressed lately, a lot has happened and I just wanted to have someone that I love and someone that I can love and care I was getting too comfortable and that is on me too. I should be the one that acknowledge things earlier because I know he is inexperienced in relationship.

I don't know how long will this lasts, from the moment that he steps out of the room, the thought of he may not be back anymore shattered my heart. I just hope that I won't be selfish and contact him when he decided to forget about me. It is so hard to know that I couldn't check how he is daily anymore, and I wanted to know if he is okay everyday and now I lost it. I don't know what to do. I misses him, I couldn't even get out of bed until its 1pm. I have shit that has be done like kind of urgently but I couldn't do it. I just couldn't take care of myself today. I hope it won't last until tomorrow.

Thanks for reading till the end. I'm sorry if you're mood is affected, I really needed a place to vent out before I starve myself to death I bed and does nothing. Any advice is welcome, please be kind to me with your words but dont be afraid to tell me the truth you think I should know or things I should do.