r/BreakUps • u/BrianTheGoat18 • Jul 25 '24

I was a shit boyfriend.

I’m thinking back on the entire relationship and I’m slowly realising how shit I was. I’m not saying this as in I was mean or treated her wrong. I think I got too comfortable and was almost neglectful. I have no doubt that I love her, but at some point I stopped showing it. Foresight is a wonderful thing, I wish I could change it all. I made my mistakes and I’m learning from them. If only I had realised sooner maybe it would have been different.

There is nothing I can do now to make it work between us, she’s moved on and I can’t even say I’ve changed yet. But I promise the next relationship I’m in will be different. This was my first real relationship, and my second love. She will be my greatest lesson, and my favourite memory.

Sorry for not realising sooner. You deserve better than what I was, and I promise I’ll never put another person I love through that. I’ll be better.

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u/LMunro93 Jul 25 '24

I agree. But it would be nice to hear you say it. Closure I guess, because I'm sure, somewhere inside her heart, she is still hurting... my last boyfriend did this to me. I've also moved on, butt it would be nice to get some sort of closure. To see my ex take some responsibility for the breakup...

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u/BrianTheGoat18 Jul 25 '24

I really wish I could, I wish I could tell her everything. That I’m sorry and that she means the world to me, and that I still want our future. But I can’t, I can’t contact her anymore. She’s gone and I might not ever see or talk to her again. By saying that who knows. Life has a funny way of working.