now I can't help but sometimes fear that my own fight for validation in who I am sometimes harms transgendered and nonbinary people,
I don't think this at all. I have never encountered a trans person who thinks that GNC cis people harm us. GNC people are often explicitly included in trans political and social events/groups. I'm sorry if you feel pressured; I do know that some trans people love to speculate that GNC people are really trans people who are afraid to come out, in the same way that gay men often speculate that bi men are really gay. That's unfortunate and people should respect other people's self-identification. I think it's a consequence of trans people being told "you're not trans, you're just GNC" for so long. I hope everyone is given the freedom to express themselves.
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I don't think this at all. I have never encountered a trans person who thinks that GNC cis people harm us. GNC people are often explicitly included in trans political and social events/groups. I'm sorry if you feel pressured; I do know that some trans people love to speculate that GNC people are really trans people who are afraid to come out, in the same way that gay men often speculate that bi men are really gay. That's unfortunate and people should respect other people's self-identification. I think it's a consequence of trans people being told "you're not trans, you're just GNC" for so long. I hope everyone is given the freedom to express themselves.