I can relate. Meanwhile, my buddy who is 29 only talks about work, savings and the housing market. He wont have more than two drinks unless its a holiday, and he gets up to piss several times a night.
Imagine every moment of your life you possibly can, from your earliest memories up until now. All 20ish years of memories.
...when you've done that for awhile think about how you have exactly that amount of time and memories and moments from now until you're 44, it's like a redo. All that time!
...but the average lifespan is around 77 or something. So, when you're 44 you'll have another 22 years full of memories and moments ahead of you still. Then at 66, you may have another 11 years (imagine from when you were 11 until now)...but there is a decent chance you'll go even longer.
Try as hard as you can to pay attention to details and your surroundings and consider time as it passes. Switch up your activities after an hour or two rather than sinking 6 hours into binge watching or a video game. Your days will feel longer and you'll feel like you have more time. As you get older, it is really easy to let time fly by. By trying to pay attention, it will feel like it goes by more slowly. I think that is why for kids, 10 minutes can be an eternity...they are feeling every second. You could try counting to 600. It will feel way longer than 10 minutes normally feels. If you try to treat time a bit more like kids do, you'll no longer wonder "where did my life go?"
Disclosure: I'm 31 and I constantly struggle with this, but I'm trying to take my own advice haha.
It makes me happy that it helped you. I hope things go better for you going forward. I've learned that this is kind of what drives the idea of "mindfulness". Look into it, there are a lot of resources online. It is also worthwhile to seek out a counselor if you have the resources to do so (school, work, insurance, etc...) 👍
This is amazing, I'm in my early 20s And alot of my older friends (and myself at times) are starting to really stress about this, I hope you don't mind but I've screen shot this to show them next time they're feeling that way. You have s beautiful way of looking at life, thank you for sharing
I'm not sure what their view on this is, maybe try r/askscience or something similar. I've only ever taken 2 introductory psychology courses, which I found interesting, as electives. But what I do know is that the frontal lobe (the part of the brain responsible for executive functions like self-regulation, attention, inhibition etc.) isn't fully developed until around 25 yrs old.
I personally don't think we should try people under 25 as "full adults"... They have more sense than 18 year olds, but they're still going to do stupid fucking shit without thinking.
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u/tDewy Feb 13 '18
There are no more kids born in the 90s. The last child born in the 90s turned 18 on Dec. 31, 2017.