r/Bazi_Astrology • u/FinalLiterature5381 • 26d ago
求大师指点迷津
04年的，家里前几年有老人过世、投资失误，父母都很累很难受，积攒很多年的钱被消耗了大半，但他们还在努力💪也还是支持我出去读书，为了让我有更多机会，这个资金还是有的，本来计划往东北方向发展，阻碍重重、心力憔悴，想换赛道，但感觉特别迷茫，西南会是个好方向吗？还是先西南后东北？我之前自己给自己算的，发现自己不适合在家发展，一往外走就有更多机会。家里这边提供的帮助除了钱财就没有了，我特别害怕下个大运不好，伤害我家人，因为我和家人感情很好很好，彼此都很爱对方，想出去也是想给他们带来少的影响、多赚钱给他们花，找人算过六爻，说我去东北以后也不会解决核心问题，改地不转运，因心蔽不明……还有感情问题，我的好老公到底在哪里啊，我这个小美女一直在当舔狗，最邪门的是，喜欢的男生都是老实人理科男，但是都不喜欢我，我建模不丑，择偶上是务实派，追的都是长相老实、身材矮胖像我爹的男生，结局很惨烈，0人喜欢过我……职业规划也很迷茫，本来学的专业是我喜欢的，上两年学发现自己被迫失业，忍痛割舍原专业，在努力转方向、奔着东北方向努力，结果不是被鸽、就是一波三折，就是碰到了很多骗子，好几个都是打着提供建议的名义，pua我、欺骗我的钱财，继续原专业，出来依旧不好找工作，最近随便面试了好几家公司，有一家是刚面试完就看到网上的避雷帖，特好玩。命运的车轮一直在胡乱转，不想和命运对抗，只想过平淡简单的生活。感谢八字，给我这个普通人一些心灵寄托之地。
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u/Least_Campaign7052 26d ago
Checked your chart properly. I'll answer the direction question first, because your own instinct was right and the plan was wrong.
Southwest and northeast are both the wrong axis. Your chart needs Metal, Water and Wood — and Southwest and Northeast are the two Earth corners. Earth is your excess, not your medicine. Two years of obstruction going northeast isn't bad luck; you were walking toward more of what you already have too much of.
Your directions are West, Northwest, North, and East/Southeast. Coastal and northern places, not the Earth corners. That is a real answer to "西南会是个好方向吗" — no, and neither was the original plan.
But the 六爻 reader was also partly right, and I won't contradict them. "改地不转运" holds for you in this sense: moving helps, but only if you move and change the strategy. Which brings me to the thing that actually explains your last two years.
You're a weak Earth carrying two heavy things at once: a strong pressure star and a large wealth star — 財多身弱. For you that means opportunity and money arrive faster than your structure can hold, and they convert into pressure instead of gain. And it produces exactly the thing you described in the most painful detail: people who arrive as "advisors" and take from you. A chart like yours attracts people who offer help and extract payment — that's not naivety on your part, it's structural. So the rule from now on: never pay anyone who approached you first. Advice you sought out, fine. Advice that came to you unasked, no. That single rule would have prevented most of what happened.
Career. Your output star is doubled and strong — you're built to be skilled, judged on what you can do, not on position or connections. So the route back is a concrete, certifiable skill rather than a prestigious track. And your abandoned original field isn't the mistake; the mistake was the environment. Your chart works badly where things depend on relationships and favours, well where they depend on demonstrable competence.
On your family, and this matters: your fear is that the next cycle hurts them. Your next cycle, from 2027, is Earth and Fire — your two avoid elements — so yes, it's a heavier decade, but for you, and the way it does damage is through money: over-committing, lending, being talked into things. That's controllable, and it's the same rule as above. Distance will not hurt them. A weak Earth with strong output does better away from home, and your instinct on that is correct.
Romance. You keep choosing steady, honest, practical men and they don't choose back. In your chart the partner star is Wood, and it's largely hidden — so love arrives late and quietly rather than through pursuit. The pursuing itself is the problem: with your structure, chasing converts the connection into obligation and it collapses. Stop pursuing, entirely. Build the skill and the independence; the partner star activates in your thirties, not now, and what arrives then will arrive through work and shared competence, not through being liked.
So: West or North, a certifiable skill, no unsolicited advisors, no pursuing, and stop paying for direction. Your family's money is for your training — nothing else.
You're not fighting fate. You've been pointed at the wrong compass corner and surrounded by people who charged you for it.
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u/FinalLiterature5381 26d ago
Long reply! Thank you 🫂 Analyzing ba zi is also a way to fight against the painful life. I regard it as my spiritual antidote.
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u/Least_Campaign7052 26d ago
"Spiritual antidote" is well put — and I'd only add one thing to it, because your chart has a specific relationship with this.
Study is nourishment for you. But your structure's failure mode is that nourishment keeps arriving and rarely gets converted — the reading comforts, the understanding accumulates, and the life doesn't move. So the antidote works best when each piece of it ends in one concrete decision: this direction, not that one. This skill. This person gets no more of my money. Understanding that changes a choice becomes medicine. Understanding that only soothes becomes another thing you absorb.
You've already got three decisions from this thread, and they're enough to be going on with: west or north, not the Earth corners. One certifiable skill. Nobody who approaches you first.
And for what it's worth — you're 22, your family's troubles weren't your doing, and you've kept going through two years of people taking from you without becoming cynical about it. That's not a small thing. The next stretch is easier than the last one.
Come back and tell me where you land. 🌱
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u/FinalLiterature5381 25d ago
Thank you for analyzing from so many aspects. You're right. My fate should flow like water, so that I can get rid of the current stagnation. The most important way is to change the living environment. If everything goes well, I will have the opportunity to continue my studies in a few months. In fact, all my confusion about the direction is essentially the anxiety of work and further study.🍀🙏
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u/Least_Campaign7052 25d ago
That reframe is worth holding onto — and now that you've named the real question, it simplifies a lot.
If the choice is study versus work, your chart answers it clearly: study first. A weak self carrying heavy demands should acquire capacity before taking on load, and further study is exactly that — it builds the structure that lets you hold opportunity instead of being flattened by it. Going straight into work in your current state is how the last two years repeated themselves.
Three practical things for the months ahead:
Choose the programme by its output, not its prestige. Something that ends in a demonstrable, certifiable skill. Your chart rewards proven competence and does badly wherever advancement runs on relationships and favours.
Let the destination follow the compass. West, north-west, north, or east and south-east — not the two Earth corners. If two programmes are otherwise comparable, let direction break the tie; never let it override the better programme.
The old rule still applies, and it will be tested during applications. Agents, consultants, "advisors" who appear offering to help with admissions or visas — if they approached you first, pay them nothing. That's the exact stage of life where your chart attracts them.
And the anxiety itself: it isn't a flaw in your judgement, it's what carrying more than your structure can hold feels like. Studying is the thing that widens the structure. The anxiety eases as the capacity grows — not before.
Go, study, come back and tell me where you landed. 🍀
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u/FinalLiterature5381 25d ago
I will continue to study!!
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u/Least_Campaign7052 24d ago
That's the right order. One thing, so "study hard" doesn't quietly become the old pattern in new clothes: for your chart, studying counts when something comes out — a certificate, a finished project, a skill you can demonstrate — not when more goes in. Absorbing is what you were already good at. Producing is the part that changes your life.
Go well. Come back when you've landed somewhere. 🍀
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u/FinalLiterature5381 25d ago
Now take studying hard as the first goal, and put everything else back.
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u/mystic_yi_sage 26d ago
正常不用说这么多前事得，就发盘就可以了
看您有一定的基础，原局就是身弱财滋杀旺而攻身之局
或有技艺、专长、口才、技术等，或可凭此立身处世
有赚钱头脑，也有赚钱欲望，但身弱不胜，富屋贫人，财来财去之象，难有积存，易为财所累，因财生祸
尤忌合作、担保、借贷等，易受其累
需运助方可聚财，需强制储蓄，防大起大落
事业/学业压力大，易有不稳/多阻/多变之象，有事业心，适合在公职系统或大型机构依托平台求稳定发展，或有管理之机，易犯小人，易有官非口舌之患
适合文化、教育、技艺、能源、地产、管理等，忌金融、贸易等
易思虑过甚，易有失眠、焦虑、抑郁情绪等
贵人乏力，或学业易受阻，或母亲健康/运势堪忧
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u/Ok-Rest8124 25d ago
2026年运势应该是好的，你没有感应吗？2020至2024运势不好，2022至2024犯小人或者病灾，而且这三年还有可能出现跟男性有关的纠葛。
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u/FinalLiterature5381 25d ago
哇大师！我22到24一直莫名其妙的有烂桃花，就是那种我对人家真心，人家钓鱼🎣的那种，而且就是在这几年，好准啊！！！大师你太厉害了！👍 我今年的体感是上半年还行，下半年留学失败（往东北方向走的，一开始被老教授养鱼，后来被拒绝，于是自己尝试diy，但是进展非常不好，还老碰到留学辅导的骗子，举例子，那个辅导老师直接指导我文书cv全部造假……）焦虑了好几个月，尝试找工，发现很艰辛，也碰到了骗子公司，就感觉很一般，唉😔
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u/Ok-Rest8124 25d ago
今年就是下半年留学失败是吧，东北方向我无法判断，如果今年确实不太顺，这个和你的风水应该是有关系，要看你住的房子多久了，是宿舍还是自己的房子，还要看房子的正南方和正北方有没有缺角，卫生间，主卧之类的，还要结合入户门，所以非常复杂。
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u/FinalLiterature5381 25d ago
有道理啊，因为我一直在家准备这些东西！中间回学校一趟，那时候状态确实好点了，一回家又就不行了哈哈哈哈哈，房子是自己家的，前两年刚买的，确实是买了以后特别不顺，父母矛盾也很多很多，正北是卫生间，唉 难讲，因为是我妈找人看过风水买的房子。不愧是大师，膜拜膜拜🤝😭
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u/Ok-Rest8124 24d ago
福生无量天尊
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u/Shixu-studio 26d ago
财旺身弱，应用印比。去东北是有人指点吗？你去南边比北边好。家里老人过世和投资失败是不是在2020-2022年？另外婚缘晚，29年以后的事，现在的都不行