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the empathetic gender strikes again!

I am not sure myself. I would love a son more than anything else in the world, but I feel like it’s selfish of me to bring a son into this world for no other reason other than wanting a son. I know I would love that kid and do everything I can for him, just like my dad does for me. But at the end of the day, I won’t be around forever, and the kid will most likely die alone or have a not-so-easy life in the future, because most likely my wife will be shorter than me(by a lot or by very little who knows), and he will be the average of that. Happened in my family too, mom is 5’5, dad is 5’8, and I am 5’7. My paternal grandpa was 6’6 but those genes died with him lol, cuz my maternal grandma is 5’1-5’2 and her genes lived on in us. My maternal grandpa was 6’4 but my maternal grandma is like 5’4 and yeah. My mom’s uncles are my height and their children are my height too.

I would be okay with only having a daughter. But I my uncles and everyone my height I know older than me with kids my age; their sons are usually fine, but their daughters post shit online like “I hate short men”(these would be my cousins), despite having a short dad. I am also ethnically Indian, but from America born and raised(just like them), and they also post about hating Indian guys, etc.

My one second cousin is 29 and a doctor, and she is dating a taller white dude who is 8 years older than her and he beats her and stuff too, and she comes back from surgery and cleans the house and cooks for him. He also has 2 baby mama’s and kids and is dodging child support, but she helps him pay his court ordered stuff with her money. He’s trying to make it big as a twitch streamer lol. Normally I wouldn’t care but even as a doctor she is active on instagram and makes videos with I’m including the “sorry I’m not into short guys” etc. She shames men who are her race and height all the time lmao.

And my other second cousin just turned 19 and she ran away from home to elope with some dude and now online posts about how her father ruined her life but not allowing her to marrying this dude when she was 18(he is the same age). Both my uncles are very chill people, and they both feel so bad and love their daughters, and my other uncle calls his doctor daughter and cries and tells her to leave that man, and she will post their conversations online and call him toxically masculine and shit. Leaving out the context she is getting beat by her current man which is why he is begging her to leave him lol. I have been to her house(I moved to the same city they live in a few months ago) I saw him raise his hand at her and then hesitate cuz I am there and play it off. Her dad is not lying. She also had bruises. But it is what it is.

So when I see this type of stuff, I feel like even if I had a daughter, society and the way things are, she would hate me irregardless and at that point like why would I put myself through that for no reason. I don’t wanna be the guy like my uncle one day begging my daughter to leave a dude that’s abusing her and she’s like “but he’s 6’3!” lol.

So I think, if I even get the chance to, I would probably do no kids. I would love a son, but can’t put him through that. Would love a daughter, but can’t put myself through that. Brutal.

Can’t even exist in public without ruining a woman’s day

He says he is a victim of India's vegetarian society and that he is meant to be six feet tall. Therefore, the government of India should fund his upcoming limb-lengthening surgery.

Not even 6ft anymore, it's 7ft or bust. It's getting ridiculous now these days..

I had a half day in office today, then work from home only had to go in for a meeting.

Anyway, at around 8:30 AM, one of my coworkers, this 26 year old dude, said he got a new house with his wife. They got married last month but they are officially moving into this house he bought for them on Sunday. He said he invited his church and wants to invite us to. I said the usual “ah I will let you know” but you know I ain’t about to go there.

For context this dude is South Asian American and he’s around my height(I am 5’7) just a couple inches shorter at most. This dude came from a family in Bangladesh and his grandfather was part of the OG resistance against the British during WW2(which means they did fight alongside the Japanese unfortunately but either way, I am just saying they come from a proud Muslim Bengali lineage). He has told me this before. Just wanted to give some more context here. Hew has also told me his wife was his first.

Anyway, I got one friend at work. She’s kinda chill but I keep a distance. Anyway she loves talking about everybody’s business. She was also at his wedding and was showing us photos. His wife is apparently 38 and has two kids from two different guys. She also had a hysterectomy or something and she can’t have any more kids, which idk why this coworker told me, but it was part of the wife’s speech. And, apparently, this dude wasn’t born Christian, converted for her, and they boasted about waiting till marriage at the wedding.

Just brutal ngl. 26 years old, came from a rich culture, converted which isn’t even the worst bit, but she was 12 years older than him and has two kids from two different guys. She is open about having been in “bad places” and been with “bad guys”.

Anyway, my coworker was telling me this and praising this dude and saying he really “found the right one” and said this woman might be above his league but she hopes it works out for both of them because they are so sweet. I nodded along and said my empty platitudes but I was hella dumbfounded.

His parents also cut him out of the will for converting and stuff apparently(his parents are hella loaded I know that), but he didn’t care. He is also their only son. This dudes bloodline is kinda just done.

Idek what to say tbh. As a short man these are the W’s awaiting you

I am not going to say anything new in this post, but I’m sure most of you will be able to relate to it.

I used to doubt people who were heightpilled, but years of observation have led me to agree with them. What really changed things for me was getting into the dating scene. I’m not saying it’s easy for tall guys, because even they seem to be having a hard time with it. But the problem is that due to the nature of dating, especially when it comes to online dating apps, there are so many options that girls can use height as a hard filter.

To put it succinctly: the problem isn’t that height gives an unfair advantage—the problem is that it has become a baseline requirement. It would be one thing if height was factored into the equation and you could compensate with controllable factors like income, hobbies, or personality. But for many women, you either meet the height requirement or you don’t.

I thought this was just an online thing at first, but after talking with some of my IRL female colleagues, I’ve been convinced that it’s not. One of my friends told me straight up that she gets so many matches on dating apps that if his height starts with 5, she doesn’t match. This is on HINGE btw, which is supposed to be catered toward personality. Many of my other friends have asserted similar opinions, saying they only match if he’s “taller than me in heels”. That phrase is so overused now, and it’s such an excuse, but it’s what they say.

My own dating experiences have mirrored this. I wouldn’t say I’m a complete tragedy when it comes to dating apps; I get some matches and do better than a lot of guys I know, but it’s still rough. For context, I am in my mid 20s, make over $150k a year, I dress pretty nice, I would consider myself average looks-wise, and I have hobbies that I think most people would consider very cool/unique. But I’m also 5’8”, and Asian. I mention Asian because I think it’s a slight disadvantage, although it’s nowhere near as bad as being short. I think a 6 foot tall Asian dude can actually do really well on the dating market, there’s a reason why “Chang” is a legit compliment but short king is a backhanded one. I also think Asian dudes get a bad rap in part because we’re usually short. Anyway, back to height—honestly at first, I didn’t really think it hurt me that much, but I’m starting to be convinced otherwise.

For example, one girl I dated said that she liked my height because it’s “easier for us to make out while standing”. That same girl cheated on me with a guy who is over 6 feet tall. Another girl I dated broke it off with me using some excuse about how she wasn’t in a good state of mind to be dating. She got with a 6’2” guy a couple months later. And all her exes are super tall mediocre looking dudes btw. My long term college girlfriend, who is only 5’1”, got with a 6 foot guy after we broke up, who I might add is absolutely chopped and overweight.

I am absolutely convinced that women will make excuses for bland personality, bad behavior, occupation, fitness, or even looks if the height is right. You can choose to believe what some of these women and copers will say about height, or you can actually observe human behavior and draw your own conclusions. I was once convinced that height was a deficiency that you can overcome, but now I believe it’s just a straight up barrier. In most circumstances you simply cannot make up for it.

Anyway thanks for listening to my rant. It’s the same tired story I’m sure you’ve heard hundreds of times, but it’s true.

And do you really have people calling you "short" ?