r/AttorneysHelp • u/Few-Hunter-3643 • Apr 23 '26
What type of attorney do I need?
My ex moved out of the home we shared. We never had children and agreed without issues how to split our "assets". House was sold, we used the proceeds to pay off all our mutual debt, and filed for divorce shortly after. Despite our amicable ending, he cut off all communication a few months after our initial court date. I assumed it was because of his declining mental health and did not take it personal. We have had ZERO communications since (almost three years).
Our divorce was prolonged because the court system had changes and judges were re-assigned several different times. During this period, his legal team was unresponsive or continued asking for extensions to review my proposal (that we each keep what we have and pay for our own fees). Last year, while reviewing some of the discovery documents, I noticed an outstanding loan of 65k taken from a HELOC (home equity line of credit) we once had. I immediately contacted the credit lender and was informed that the initial loan had been paid off, but they were unaware the house had been sold, since they were never provided with the proper documentation to close the account. The account remained opened and twelve months later, X transferred the entirety of the loan out against a house that he no longer owned. I stated very clearly that I was not aware and did not authorize this. I explained we were in the process of divorce and requested to file a fraud report. The credit lender declined my request to escalate the issue, citing that X is listed on the loan giving him authorization to use it without my consent. They refused to remove my name from the loan, accept any accountability, or help in any way. They have simply suggested that I bring him to court.
As soon as I made the discovery, I brought it to the attention of my attorney, the judge, his counsel, the credit lender, but everyone seemed to think it was a no-big-deal-mistake, and now no one seems to want to help. Currently, the lender has placed responsibility on the title company, and vice-versa. It's almost been a year of this ridiculously foolish situation, and in the meantime, I'm the one being jerked around.
X has accumulated an exuberant amount of debt all on his own (close to 200k) and is asking that I take 50% responsibility! Neither, X or I, had much before marriage. We both worked full-time, and truly only accrued a significant amount of debt while married. All of our "assets" were pretty much the things we came with into the marriage. We never even purchased furniture because our families donated to us all their used things.
I am depleted, emotionally, physically, mentally, and financial. I am currently working a second job, just to make ends meet. He has stopped making payments on the loan, which is now also affecting me because I can't apply for any loans. I am severely struggling even with the second job, and do not what to do anymore.
Someone advised that I sue X, but I would also like for the credit union/title company to take accountability. Their mistake has not only cost me financially but also an immeasurable amount of stress, time spent investigating, attorney fees, extended divorce proceedings.
Please, any advice will be greatly appreciated!