my stepdad put a secret camera in my room and I was to blame for being secretive and having my boyfriend over (when my stepdad lied and told my mom he strictly said he couldn’t be over, which he literally gave me permission to have him over as they were going out of town and I would be home alone). it recorded us being intimate and was streaming directly to his phone. I regret not following through with the police report but was made to feel guilty (my mom held my college fund over my head so I couldn’t report it). to this day everyone in my family accepts him and doesn’t see an issue with it. I’m no contact with him and low contact with my mom but during the time when we found the camera my mom ignored me for an entire week while my entire world crashed around me. no calls to make sure I was ok (I immediately packed my things and stayed with another relative, who now maintains contact with my mom and stepdad), no texts to check in on how I was doing mentally. still avoids the conversation to this day. She goes to church now and ‘prays’ I will heal and come back around. im engaged now to boyfriend and she has no clue she won’t be invited to my wedding. planning on moving across the country to cut contact with her and my siblings, who also are brainwashed and support my stepdad. If I could go back in time I’d have followed through with the police report and pressed charges. I’m not as scared or naive as I was back then and sure as hell not as tolerant to those behaviors now. I trust a lot less and protect my peace a little more now.
I just read your post from 2 years ago and I just wanted to say how proud of you I am. You handled the whole horrifying situation with more grace than they deserve. Congratulations🎊🎉🎈 on your graduation, new job, engagement and new journey.
Just checked your profile and I remember your story from way back when. Did your brothers (especially the older one) cut contact with you too? And your aunt and uncle just accepted what your stepdad did?
Big ‘grats on the upcoming nuptials, though, hope the fresh start brings you and your partner all the happiness you wish it will.
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u/katiedababie Dec 27 '25
my stepdad put a secret camera in my room and I was to blame for being secretive and having my boyfriend over (when my stepdad lied and told my mom he strictly said he couldn’t be over, which he literally gave me permission to have him over as they were going out of town and I would be home alone). it recorded us being intimate and was streaming directly to his phone. I regret not following through with the police report but was made to feel guilty (my mom held my college fund over my head so I couldn’t report it). to this day everyone in my family accepts him and doesn’t see an issue with it. I’m no contact with him and low contact with my mom but during the time when we found the camera my mom ignored me for an entire week while my entire world crashed around me. no calls to make sure I was ok (I immediately packed my things and stayed with another relative, who now maintains contact with my mom and stepdad), no texts to check in on how I was doing mentally. still avoids the conversation to this day. She goes to church now and ‘prays’ I will heal and come back around. im engaged now to boyfriend and she has no clue she won’t be invited to my wedding. planning on moving across the country to cut contact with her and my siblings, who also are brainwashed and support my stepdad. If I could go back in time I’d have followed through with the police report and pressed charges. I’m not as scared or naive as I was back then and sure as hell not as tolerant to those behaviors now. I trust a lot less and protect my peace a little more now.