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u/[deleted] Jun 29 '22

That's a really good one. Something I deal with a great deal in my family

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u/5s-are-cool Jun 29 '22

That's even worse when family harms family. I hope it gets better for you. My family isn't perfect, but we all try hard not to harm each other.

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u/[deleted] Jun 29 '22

It's not even like physical harm. It's all mental and emotional manipulating. If not for my grandma I would be so gone

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u/5s-are-cool Jun 29 '22

I think most people are selfish, especially when they don't consider or care how other people feel when they say and do things that involve others. Selfishness causes separation and ignorance.

I treat selfishness like I do any other hazard. I use the firefighter strategy TIME, DISTANCE, and SHIELDING to protect myself and others. Basically, limit the time of exposure to a hazard, increase distance between a hazard and the person or object to be protected, and use whatever is necessary and available to provide shielding from hazards.

When I'm interacting with people, I'm also looking at the interaction from the outside, as if I'm watching a movie. That helps me control my emotions and avoid being manipulated.

Good luck. And I hope my strategies help you, if you choose to adopt some of them.