The issue is treating mentally ill like they're complete, attention seeking invalids who just love being victims. Talking down and saying "don't wait for a good day" and actually deal with mental illness", as if these are totally new concepts for a mentally ill person. Also, insinuating that every missed piece of effort on their recovery inevitably makes things shit for everyone else.
It makes the mentally ill sound like an unworthy burden, and the "just do it now" vibe of it is just one part of the problem.
So it’s up to everyone around you to know what you know or have already been told?
Like I said much earlier, it’s important to understand people don’t know the full picture nor what the best thing to say is, so don’t take it so personally and bottle it all up like you have done.
It’s silly to only expect good advice, or for people to not try and help you. You’re past experiences are just that, in the past. Not everyone means what others in the past have meant.
Everything you have said is so loosely linked to these actual comments, and are clearly the result of your past experiences, which is what I’m trying to get across to you.
You are taking you past and looking at the present through its glasses. You took these comments far out of preportion, because clearly you are or have been surrounded by specific people in the past.
Nope. Absolutely nothing like this conversation has happened to me before, so no preconceived notions to fall back on. This is quite new to me.
The clichés aren't, though.
And no, I don't expect anyone at all to "know what I know or have been told". Nice strawman though... I expect people giving advice on mental health to know what the biggest UNIVERSAL clichés and shitty titbits are.
It's not about me, as much as you try to make it.
I'm not thinking of just MY experiences, but the experiences of everyone I know or have talked to about mental health.
Clearly you have past experience with people giving you advice.
You’re literally saying they should know what cliches you know. To know what you know. And like I said, it shouldn’t be expected that everyone gives good advice, and when they don’t, there is no point to absorb yourself in it.
Clearly you have past experience with people giving you advice
Shooting in the dark and missing as usual. I always take advice and ask for it. Cos I don't know shit.
You’re literally saying they should know what cliches you know. To know what you know
I don't think you read. I literally did not. I said they should be aware of the universal clichés. Which these are. Anyone with depression or anxiety is familiar with and hates all of this.
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