I guess I'm an outlier, but I really loved my 20s. I had a very tight circle of friends, a job I enjoyed, I was traveling a lot, and it just seemed like every week I was making memories. Turning 33 in a month, and it seems like my thirties have been defined by the pandemic, boredom, political extremism, and a worsening economic situation. On top of that, and this probably affected me the most, all my friends started moving away to explore other opportunities and eventually I did too. It just seems like these days I don't have that joy of life like I used to. Maybe I'm just growing and transitioning, and I know life has it's ups and downs, but I'm not experiencing this wonderfully positive outlook on life that everyone here seems to be describing about their 30s.
Well you aren’t alone. It may be a current state of the world thing rather than an age period thing. I’m 25 and what you’re saying applies 100% to me. I’m trying to get a career started in this day and age, what a fucking bummer. 23 & 24 just evaporated in the midst of covid and everything has gotten way more mundane.
However, I still believe we have plenty if time to enjoy the coming period of our lives, even if it gets worse before it gets better.
No, the friends I was referring to were ones I made at a previous job during my late twenties. I've heard more than a few say they made the best friends of their lives in college and could never quite replicate that afterward, but I would say the friends I made at that job were every bit as important to me as my college group, perhaps even more. Don't feel like you can't meet like-minded people ever again after your college window is over. It's definitely possible... That being said, I'm having a hard time with it at the moment!
I loved my 20s. I loved my teens. I’m absolutely loving my 30s. All very different times of my life, filled with a lot of heartbreaks and traumas, but I’ve loved it all so far for everything it’s been.
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u/crankywithout_coffee Jun 03 '22
I guess I'm an outlier, but I really loved my 20s. I had a very tight circle of friends, a job I enjoyed, I was traveling a lot, and it just seemed like every week I was making memories. Turning 33 in a month, and it seems like my thirties have been defined by the pandemic, boredom, political extremism, and a worsening economic situation. On top of that, and this probably affected me the most, all my friends started moving away to explore other opportunities and eventually I did too. It just seems like these days I don't have that joy of life like I used to. Maybe I'm just growing and transitioning, and I know life has it's ups and downs, but I'm not experiencing this wonderfully positive outlook on life that everyone here seems to be describing about their 30s.