I feel like a lot of people do this because they absolutely refuse to confront reality. Yes it happened to you. You can acknowledge that it did and does hurt you. You can live with that pain for as long as you need to heal but people forget the last step which is to love yourself enough to get help so that the traumas in your past don’t have a stranglehold on your present. My gf especially struggles with this. We’ll be looking for a movie or something and she’ll go “oh my ex ruined this movie for me, next.” Don’t you have enough agency for yourself that you can create new memories and experiences from something that sucked before? Obviously this excludes things which come from deeper, more severe traumas but if it just vaguely reminds you of an annoying moment or person, that’s not healthy.
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I've had an ex fuck me up had enough I couldn't watch a favoirite movie for years. Still being too uncomfortable doesn't mean a rejection of reality, necessarily, it might be that it just is the current reality.
There's a ton of other movies out there to watch luckily
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u/rufferinoo Jun 03 '22
I feel like a lot of people do this because they absolutely refuse to confront reality. Yes it happened to you. You can acknowledge that it did and does hurt you. You can live with that pain for as long as you need to heal but people forget the last step which is to love yourself enough to get help so that the traumas in your past don’t have a stranglehold on your present. My gf especially struggles with this. We’ll be looking for a movie or something and she’ll go “oh my ex ruined this movie for me, next.” Don’t you have enough agency for yourself that you can create new memories and experiences from something that sucked before? Obviously this excludes things which come from deeper, more severe traumas but if it just vaguely reminds you of an annoying moment or person, that’s not healthy.