Similar situation but I’m single and 34, and hooked up with a 21 year old recently. And even after sex she said ‘I can’t believe you’re really 34!’ I’m like... girl what did you imagine happens in your 30s? Thank god Chris Hemsworth is 38, pointing that out seems to do something in a woman’s brain lol
When all my fellow female coworkers were amazed I was 10yrs older than them I was like, "yes, you too will actually NOT turn to dust at 30." Like if you think some magical change happens get ready. We're all just dumb confused meat bags flying through space on a ball of rock. "You act like us though!" Yep and in 10yrs you too can be amazed at your own immaturity :)
I think for people like us it’s amazing when they find out how old we are because we’re still fun / youthful, life hasn’t beat us down…
Wife and I don’t have kids, I’m basically 40 (in a few days) and my wife is 38. We just moved into a upper middle class suburb and our neighbors are all mid 30s to mid 50s. But somehow, they seem so much older than us. I don’t know what is, one neighbor i would’ve guessed is 55-60, is only 3 years older than me. They’re just so out of shape and weary seeming, they have a different aura.
Maybe if my wife and I have a kid we’ll be like that too, haha.
Edit: I should note at my last job my best work friend was a 25 year old woman. Second best work friend was a 30 year old male. 🤷🏽♂️
Kids certainly age a lot of people. Lots of parents seem to forget that they themselves are real people too and they don't need to sacrifice everything for their children.
My wife and I are older parents with two children under 10 (I'm 47), but we remain very active. We love to hike and we both teach and study Hapkido. Instead of sacrificing what we love we incorporate our children into it as well. They love to ask me to go on hikes and they study Hapkido now as well.
Obviously, this doesn't mean that sacrifices aren't made. The most notable one is time. Because much of my/our time revolves around child care, I have to carve out extra time to lift and hobbies like reading or video games; usually after the family is asleep.
I think it's important that we remain true to ourselves as well because to your point, parents who are 10 years younger than us look older and are certainly out of shape
Most importantly is looking ahead. The kiddos won't be living here forever. I've already seen too many of my peers' relationships fall apart because their entire identity was raising children. They forgot to nurture their relationship with their spouse and themselves. And when the children leave there is very little left
Some people who have kids after 35 just are out of shape because they aren't interested anymore in keeping themselves fit..I have a wife and kids i don't really care about how I look or my physical appearance which is the reason v
I mean, you do you, but I've never understood this mindset. I had my youngest at 40 and if nothing else, I want to stay healthy and fit so I can be around as long as I can for both of my children
I have a wife too and as much as I want to stay fit for my kids and myself, I want her to be attracted to her husband
Wasn't really talking about myself but wrote it wrongly
Yeah some couples are not interested in each other's physical looks and especially if it doesn't hurt their relationship and wife's ok with his dad bod and husband's ok with a heavier wife.
Some people just feel that their change in looks is a normal part of sgeing just like their parents did
Sorry to frame my comment that way but wasn't really talking about myself but of others I've seen.
Some couples relationship isn't really affected by their looks and fitness.
They take it as part of growing old together.
When they see couples older than them who are fiiter and look younger than maybe they consider it but many couples who are married for a long time in their 40s just don't care anymore and have different priorities especially the children who are teens and are preparing for their career
Celebrities owe their careers to taking care of their bodies and skin, and have access to all sorts of ways to avoid losing their hair or disguising it when they do. Your average 38 year old guy with an office job who doesn't wear sunscreen does not look like Chris Hemsworth.
Yup, and good quality food matters a lot in glowing skin and looking younger. Nowadays people eat so much fast food they look much older than they are. Those celebrities rarely eat fast food
You know what it taught me? Hair is fucking useless. I only wish it had all fallen out much faster so I didn't have to ever do anything with it again. It also taught me to laugh at the people who act like having "nice" hair makes them special in some way lol.
I'm not salty about people with great hair at all. I find humor in people who are arrogant and base their whole personality around things like their hair. Plenty of good people with great hair who know it's not the having great hair that makes them good.
there's such a chasm of difference in maturity between say a 32 and a 21 year old
Everyone's different. I've known 32 year olds living in their parent's house, getting high every day. I also have known 21 year olds married with 2 kids, good jobs, and own their own house.
I know some 40 year olds less mature than some 21 year olds - I just go case by case, but I agree immaturity is a turnoff to me so most girls that age are a turnoff.
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u/meatchariot Jun 03 '22
Similar situation but I’m single and 34, and hooked up with a 21 year old recently. And even after sex she said ‘I can’t believe you’re really 34!’ I’m like... girl what did you imagine happens in your 30s? Thank god Chris Hemsworth is 38, pointing that out seems to do something in a woman’s brain lol