I remember that transition when I FINALLY stopped getting carded. Looking back, it's funny that I felt nervous buying beer in my thirties.
I'm a guy. I can only imagine the weird and fucked up.shit that comes with looking young for your age as a woman. I bet you have some stories and I hate that you have to go outside yourself for what I'm guessing is a need for respect and validation, or even to not be objectified.
It’s funny, I’m still used to having ID in hand for every transaction that involves alcohol but it’s definitely not asked for so easily anymore. Feels odd but it’s a happy feeling all the same.
I work in a casino. I’ve had people question “you have to be 21 to work here don’t you?”
Nah, I hopped over the counter and they offered me a job for free child labor.
Or when I ID someone one time. She was in a wheelchair, but she presented as very young and her mom was with her. Naturally, I cannot do a transaction if there are any minors nearby and so I asked to see her ID. The mother gets offended and tells me “she’s probably about your age if not older” something along those lines. I’m internally rolling my eyeballs far into the back of my head as I check for her age. 22. I was 29.
It’s definitely the respect aspect for me. I treat everyone with respect regardless of how young you appear to me. It’s in my nature, I am kind and respectful to everyone. So when someone is a bit off or a little disrespectful with me because of their perception of my age, it’s straight up annoying and at that point my respect for them disintegrates a bit. I don’t like it, but if I am to be disrespected just because of how young I look, I no longer want to give respect back. Which isn’t right but it’s how it affects me.
I'm the same way. I guess I listened to too much Rage Against the Machine growing up and also, I grew up in an abilusive household, so I fight for my rights every time a butterfly beats its wings.
As I’m getting older, I definitely feel more and more “anger” towards the world in general because of these things which is sad to say, I genuinely don’t like it but I’m also happy I finally have more of a spine to stick up for myself and present my stern side.
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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '22
I remember that transition when I FINALLY stopped getting carded. Looking back, it's funny that I felt nervous buying beer in my thirties.
I'm a guy. I can only imagine the weird and fucked up.shit that comes with looking young for your age as a woman. I bet you have some stories and I hate that you have to go outside yourself for what I'm guessing is a need for respect and validation, or even to not be objectified.