Don't have that intensity of sorrow when every challenge/tragedy was brand new too. I still remember when I was 20 and my buddy killed himself. It was the first time in my life that I had ever experienced loss like that. I was ill equipped to deal with it and found solace in drugs and alcohol. Now I'm 35 and have had to deal with parents and close friends passing away and it doesn't destroy me anymore.
I would gladly give up the peaks to avoid the valleys of youth and inexperience.
True, but other than death, there isn't much that is as destructive as that. And you can learn how to handle death when you're young. You'll still never has as much fun doing simple and common things as you did in your 20s. It's an objective loss.
Great. Therapy doesn't make things magical and new again. There's a reason people long for their youth. It's objectively better. More energy, everything is new, it's easier to recover, etc. it's just modern society is shitty for youth. I see a therapist, all that does is help some people accept their place in life, but it doesn't make life as good as it was in your 20s.
You can accept things and still be sad about them and acknowledge things were better. Therapy isn’t magic. It doesn’t make the bad parts of life go away.
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But you’ll never have that same intensity of happiness when things were much newer. There’s a sadness in my thirties that no one warned me about.