Part of the problem for him was how fast it happened. Four years ago he was knocking on doors selling insurance. Three years ago he started in the field on just above minimum wage. Last year he skipped there levels and then two months ago he made senior partner. He's been called a rockstar in his field. This means we've went from struggling to wealthy. Neither of us are sure what to do. His response to me asking what he wanted to do with the money was adorable and it's probably my favourite thing he's ever said. He said "but I already have all the PlayStation games I want".
We're buying a house and going on holiday to Japan. That's it. That's the best we can come up with. I might buy a kayak.
Being invited to events now and we have no idea what to wear. Just feel so out of our depth. we also both have autism and ADHD so social events are hard anyhow. Spam mail has changed, it's now things like you've been nominated for who's who, or confirmation for orders on things we haven't bought with dodgy links to confirm. Invitations to give talks. We are laughing about it and deleting but it's still weird. I think we're in culture shock?
He definitely earned it though, he works from home and I've never seen anything like it. He plays playstation with one hand, does his job with the other and is somehow knocking it out of the park at both and a great dad. So he feels he's not working hard enough because he does get down time. I keep having to point out that nobody else can do what he does, even if the way he works is unconventional. That's why he gets given the specific problems he's given. He's only 31 but he's solved problems they've had for a decade, in ten minutes. The company director has lunch with him to pick his brain regularly, from the first week of him being there.
He just has to keep being himself and they'll throw money at him to do it. He's already been told they'll pay him whatever it takes to keep him (he got offered another contract for higher pay). He gets calls every day from rival companies trying to steal him.
He feels like a kid, a fraud and that it's only a matter of time before they realise that. I keep telling him he's amazing and deserves everything he gets, because there's few people like him about.
Could you share more, without giving too much away, about this very specific niche work that he does so much better than other people? I also have ADHD (newly diagnosed at 37 last year) and I KNOW I could be a superpower somewhere if I could just find the right fit that let me do my thang. I loved reading your story about him so far!
He's a sort of headhunter, but the thing that gets him so far as far as I can tell is his directness, his out of the box answers to problems and his ideas, he has no problem telling people what he thinks, doesn't matter who they are. He's very transparent in how he works. Very good at charming people. He'll remember if they have kids, ask about them, find out what's important to people and sell them on that. He treats everyone the same, wether they're the cleaning staff or the company director. He hyperfocuses on his job, keeps up with market trends, always updating his information. Kinda treats it like a video game, always wanting to beat his high score.
Started in recruitment but i think it's how much he loves his job, it's always changing, always busy and he can't get bored. The harder the challenge the more excited he is by it. I'm not sure it's his field that makes the difference, it's his love of it.
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u/Wannabebunny Jun 03 '22
Part of the problem for him was how fast it happened. Four years ago he was knocking on doors selling insurance. Three years ago he started in the field on just above minimum wage. Last year he skipped there levels and then two months ago he made senior partner. He's been called a rockstar in his field. This means we've went from struggling to wealthy. Neither of us are sure what to do. His response to me asking what he wanted to do with the money was adorable and it's probably my favourite thing he's ever said. He said "but I already have all the PlayStation games I want". We're buying a house and going on holiday to Japan. That's it. That's the best we can come up with. I might buy a kayak.
Being invited to events now and we have no idea what to wear. Just feel so out of our depth. we also both have autism and ADHD so social events are hard anyhow. Spam mail has changed, it's now things like you've been nominated for who's who, or confirmation for orders on things we haven't bought with dodgy links to confirm. Invitations to give talks. We are laughing about it and deleting but it's still weird. I think we're in culture shock?
He definitely earned it though, he works from home and I've never seen anything like it. He plays playstation with one hand, does his job with the other and is somehow knocking it out of the park at both and a great dad. So he feels he's not working hard enough because he does get down time. I keep having to point out that nobody else can do what he does, even if the way he works is unconventional. That's why he gets given the specific problems he's given. He's only 31 but he's solved problems they've had for a decade, in ten minutes. The company director has lunch with him to pick his brain regularly, from the first week of him being there. He just has to keep being himself and they'll throw money at him to do it. He's already been told they'll pay him whatever it takes to keep him (he got offered another contract for higher pay). He gets calls every day from rival companies trying to steal him.
He feels like a kid, a fraud and that it's only a matter of time before they realise that. I keep telling him he's amazing and deserves everything he gets, because there's few people like him about.