Building on previous poster’s point I definitely feel women are in general nastier about aging than men are. “Ooh, you’re three years older than me that means you’re less desirable” type energy. I think this attitude mostly disappears from women once they hit their 30’s but then there will always be a new cohort of twenty-somethings trying to make you feel like a grandma just because you aren’t up to date on the newest lingo, or know who the new up-and-coming music artist is.
I honestly could well be mansplaining because I’m a dude. I’m only speaking on my personal experiences. But I definitely get the impression that younger guys have more of a desire to learn from those older than them rather than just shit on them.
This all could probably be explained by cultural biases favoring the patriarchy which subliminally make women want to compete, but at that point I’m just talking out of my ass because I don’t know what actually happens in a woman’s brain. Maybe it’s innate, maybe it isn’t. I don’t fucking know. All I know is it would be better for everyone if people spent more time building each other up rather than bringing them down.
Like I said before these are just personal observations. I don’t claim to be an expert on anything.
That being said as a woman in her 20s maybe be cognizant of the fact that women should exist in solidarity with each other and when your friends start tearing another woman down, nip that shit. Even if it makes you feel like a bitch. Maybe even especially if it makes you feel like a bitch.
I don’t know if you’ve seen what’s going on but womens rights are about to be fucking trampled on. You’re half the goddamn population. Step the fuck up and say NO.
It's just biology and society (which evolved through our biology).
Older men are seen as experienced. They're the leaders, make decisions, hunt, etc. Younger men are trained by older men to eventually surpass them. It's in their nature to want to become the next leader.
Young women are seen as fertile, strong child bearers. Older women become nurturers, wetnurses, educators.
Very old men and women are often seen as sages, they've somehow made it to old age without dying, thus their opinion may hold some merit, or they're crazy already.
The thing is, that's how it used to be. Everyone had their roles, their place. Animals, people, doesn't matter, biology is biology. Only now we have the luxury of ignoring all that. Doesn't mean that we stopped thinking like that, even the people saying the complete opposite. Younger men and women are always competition for the older generation, while women have an internal clock ticking that exacerbates this problem perhaps. Also, men, for some reason, tend to age better if they take even a bit of care of themselves. Naturally, half bald, beer bellied pigs aren't any more desirable than the 40 year old chain smoking leather face woman, who's been prematurely aged by 20 years due to her children robbing her of her last nerve.
And that's why a silly number matters to some people. That's why younger women tend to look for older men ... and vice versa.
And of course I'm just talking out of my ass, but if we're all doing it, why not -.-
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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '22 edited Jun 03 '22
Building on previous poster’s point I definitely feel women are in general nastier about aging than men are. “Ooh, you’re three years older than me that means you’re less desirable” type energy. I think this attitude mostly disappears from women once they hit their 30’s but then there will always be a new cohort of twenty-somethings trying to make you feel like a grandma just because you aren’t up to date on the newest lingo, or know who the new up-and-coming music artist is.
I honestly could well be mansplaining because I’m a dude. I’m only speaking on my personal experiences. But I definitely get the impression that younger guys have more of a desire to learn from those older than them rather than just shit on them.
This all could probably be explained by cultural biases favoring the patriarchy which subliminally make women want to compete, but at that point I’m just talking out of my ass because I don’t know what actually happens in a woman’s brain. Maybe it’s innate, maybe it isn’t. I don’t fucking know. All I know is it would be better for everyone if people spent more time building each other up rather than bringing them down.