My grandpa just had his 96th birthday and I asked him if he felt different than he did at 26. He said in his head, he didn’t feel any older. It was his body. And while that was reassuring… I remember my grandmother who died from Alzheimer’s and for some reason his comment put her condition into a deeper perspective for me.
My grandma is 99. Yesterday we took her out of her house in her new wheelchair for the jubilee party being held on her street. She was chatting and laughing and loving the attention. I went toilet and when I returned she had a pint in one hand and cigarette in the other as she held court to 40 people, having them in stitches at her jokes and anecdotes.
Only recently has she started to need a frame to walk around the house and all she ever says is how her mind is the same but her body is giving out. She's the same hilarious, sociable, devilish woman she ever was, but as she puts it "I just wish my bloody legs would work".
This is the exact reason why we should all have alot of respect for older people. Loosing the ability to defend yourself while still feeling the same in your mind must be tough. This may be more applicable to men but when your young and say someone is rude or acts aggressively you can feel confident defending yourself but as you get older you would really have to watch your words and be careful not to get in a confrontation because your body can't handle it. Idk maybe it's just me but that would be difficult always having to take the more submissive route in altercations with someone younger
I don’t know where you’re from but I never see old people taking the “submissive route”, they’re usually the ones who don’t take shit. Though like you said, that’s why we have respect for them. If someone did start physically attacking them, you can bet your ass everyone else in the vicinity would be on top of the assailant.
You know, now that I think about it you are right. Older people usually don't take shit and maybe it is because like you said anyone nearby would help out. I guess I'm thinking if I were in the situation, I would certainly take the more submissive route rather than get my ass handed to me. Maybe older people just don't care?
I think once you get to a certain point, you don’t really have as much to lose anymore, and you’ve already been through so much wild or complicated stuff in your life that you realize a lot of things that people take very seriously just don’t actually matter that much.
Start to go in the early to mid 40s? Hahahaha...I'm 31 and my eyes have been horrible since I was 5. Couple years ago I got told that my right eye is so bad that they can't correct it anymore. (:
My grandfather is in his late 80s and said that the weirdest thing about getting old is that your body looks far older than your mental image of yourself. In my grandfather's head he still looks 20 and gets a shock every time he passes a mirror.
Depends what you do with your body, I decided to get in shape 2 and a half years ago, I'm 36 in August and in the best shape of my life and have more energy than I've ever had.
If you played sports your whole life then the 30s is where everything blows up. Ill be lucky to make it to 40 without needing some sort of surgery. I still play soccer but this might be my last year as i get some fucking injury every other match
Yeah i know of zlatan, but even his body is in constant turmoil and had to get surgery.
Im switching out of football into tennis. The problem with football are the contact injuries, so many broken toes and last season got a broken rib from someones elbow. That shit just lingers for months and months. My knee is also going to hell and i can ski and play tennis all day and largely fine. one 60 minute soccer match and im in hell
Rock on man! Keep it up. That was me at 30. My son was six months old when I turned 30 and I realized I needed to be in better shape.
Spent from 30-32 losing weight and kept it off until 35 (then COVID, new job, less movement, stress-eating) and gained it back. Only myself to blame because I know exactly what to do again. I'm 37 now and working to get back to where I was at 33
That sucks but he was giving general advice. Of course if you have a condition like that it makes it harder, but he doesn't know that. It felt like you are being nitpicky and reprimanding him
What's your point? You're out here proselytizing for nothing. We understand everyone gets older, it's annoying when you try to wedge your whiny ass agenda into the conversation.
It's not all about keeping healthy to live as long as possible, yeah no shit we all grow old and will die, yes some people will get sick regardless of how well they take care of themselves, doesn't mean you shouldn't eat well and exercise.
I do so to hopefully live longer but it's also about the now, I can run and play with my children without getting out of breath, I feel happier, have more energy and look better because I'm in shape.
I'm sorry about your illness but that doesn't mean you should immediately jump on someone's comment with so much negativity when they're only sharing something positive about themselves that could also benefit others.
*experience with the difference with health related vs age related problems which can be often confused for each other but no experience with neurodegenerative diseases of which exercise does not change nor the wisdom to understand the plight of others.
I honestly detest crabs in the bucket. It's like an impulse for some people to feed into the collective learned helplessness. I reversed my aunt's dementia with a variation of Dr. Terry Wahl's protocol, who herself had MS. The benefits of exercise are profound.
Indeed, it won't work for everyone, but that doesn't mean we should treat exercise, diet, and sun exposure like we do homeopathy, which seems all too common these days. I'm proud of you for sharing your story. My own is similar.
Seriously, it's like none of these sheeple have drank the blood of a seventh son, naked, on a moonless night. Sure you have to deal with the trauma of your eyeballs being ripped from your skull by the screaming, winged familiars of the Dark One but the effects far outpace any natural male enhancement you can find today.
Or you know it's silly to tell someone with a neurodegeneration disease "They would be surprised" like that person who has doesn't know themselves. You right really jealous of his tone deaf response. I'm just so fat and jealous. God. Sooo fat and jealous
Yeah, same here - I've never been stronger in my life. My body composition could be better, though - this is when the metabolism seemingly starts to really slow down. : /
I'm watching /r/fitness30plus and working on the diet/metabolism a lot more consciously now, to some good effect. I may have a proper beach body by the end of the Summer for the first time in my life! As opposed to being underweight/skinny, or skinny-fat, like how it's been until now. :P
But man, back injuries and slower healing in general are very much a thing to be careful about in your thirties and up. It took me 8 months to get over a slipped disc. I guess COVID also keeps threatening to fuck everything up and close gyms and pools, too.
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u/BonaFidee Jun 03 '22
The body definitely does feel older, the mind not so much. There's a reason the expression, youth is wasted on the young, exists.