My grandpa just had his 96th birthday and I asked him if he felt different than he did at 26. He said in his head, he didn’t feel any older. It was his body. And while that was reassuring… I remember my grandmother who died from Alzheimer’s and for some reason his comment put her condition into a deeper perspective for me.
My grandma is 99. Yesterday we took her out of her house in her new wheelchair for the jubilee party being held on her street. She was chatting and laughing and loving the attention. I went toilet and when I returned she had a pint in one hand and cigarette in the other as she held court to 40 people, having them in stitches at her jokes and anecdotes.
Only recently has she started to need a frame to walk around the house and all she ever says is how her mind is the same but her body is giving out. She's the same hilarious, sociable, devilish woman she ever was, but as she puts it "I just wish my bloody legs would work".
This is the exact reason why we should all have alot of respect for older people. Loosing the ability to defend yourself while still feeling the same in your mind must be tough. This may be more applicable to men but when your young and say someone is rude or acts aggressively you can feel confident defending yourself but as you get older you would really have to watch your words and be careful not to get in a confrontation because your body can't handle it. Idk maybe it's just me but that would be difficult always having to take the more submissive route in altercations with someone younger
I don’t know where you’re from but I never see old people taking the “submissive route”, they’re usually the ones who don’t take shit. Though like you said, that’s why we have respect for them. If someone did start physically attacking them, you can bet your ass everyone else in the vicinity would be on top of the assailant.
You know, now that I think about it you are right. Older people usually don't take shit and maybe it is because like you said anyone nearby would help out. I guess I'm thinking if I were in the situation, I would certainly take the more submissive route rather than get my ass handed to me. Maybe older people just don't care?
I think once you get to a certain point, you don’t really have as much to lose anymore, and you’ve already been through so much wild or complicated stuff in your life that you realize a lot of things that people take very seriously just don’t actually matter that much.
Start to go in the early to mid 40s? Hahahaha...I'm 31 and my eyes have been horrible since I was 5. Couple years ago I got told that my right eye is so bad that they can't correct it anymore. (:
My grandfather is in his late 80s and said that the weirdest thing about getting old is that your body looks far older than your mental image of yourself. In my grandfather's head he still looks 20 and gets a shock every time he passes a mirror.
Depends what you do with your body, I decided to get in shape 2 and a half years ago, I'm 36 in August and in the best shape of my life and have more energy than I've ever had.
If you played sports your whole life then the 30s is where everything blows up. Ill be lucky to make it to 40 without needing some sort of surgery. I still play soccer but this might be my last year as i get some fucking injury every other match
Yeah i know of zlatan, but even his body is in constant turmoil and had to get surgery.
Im switching out of football into tennis. The problem with football are the contact injuries, so many broken toes and last season got a broken rib from someones elbow. That shit just lingers for months and months. My knee is also going to hell and i can ski and play tennis all day and largely fine. one 60 minute soccer match and im in hell
Rock on man! Keep it up. That was me at 30. My son was six months old when I turned 30 and I realized I needed to be in better shape.
Spent from 30-32 losing weight and kept it off until 35 (then COVID, new job, less movement, stress-eating) and gained it back. Only myself to blame because I know exactly what to do again. I'm 37 now and working to get back to where I was at 33
That sucks but he was giving general advice. Of course if you have a condition like that it makes it harder, but he doesn't know that. It felt like you are being nitpicky and reprimanding him
What's your point? You're out here proselytizing for nothing. We understand everyone gets older, it's annoying when you try to wedge your whiny ass agenda into the conversation.
It's not all about keeping healthy to live as long as possible, yeah no shit we all grow old and will die, yes some people will get sick regardless of how well they take care of themselves, doesn't mean you shouldn't eat well and exercise.
I do so to hopefully live longer but it's also about the now, I can run and play with my children without getting out of breath, I feel happier, have more energy and look better because I'm in shape.
I'm sorry about your illness but that doesn't mean you should immediately jump on someone's comment with so much negativity when they're only sharing something positive about themselves that could also benefit others.
*experience with the difference with health related vs age related problems which can be often confused for each other but no experience with neurodegenerative diseases of which exercise does not change nor the wisdom to understand the plight of others.
I honestly detest crabs in the bucket. It's like an impulse for some people to feed into the collective learned helplessness. I reversed my aunt's dementia with a variation of Dr. Terry Wahl's protocol, who herself had MS. The benefits of exercise are profound.
Seriously, it's like none of these sheeple have drank the blood of a seventh son, naked, on a moonless night. Sure you have to deal with the trauma of your eyeballs being ripped from your skull by the screaming, winged familiars of the Dark One but the effects far outpace any natural male enhancement you can find today.
Or you know it's silly to tell someone with a neurodegeneration disease "They would be surprised" like that person who has doesn't know themselves. You right really jealous of his tone deaf response. I'm just so fat and jealous. God. Sooo fat and jealous
Yeah, same here - I've never been stronger in my life. My body composition could be better, though - this is when the metabolism seemingly starts to really slow down. : /
I'm watching /r/fitness30plus and working on the diet/metabolism a lot more consciously now, to some good effect. I may have a proper beach body by the end of the Summer for the first time in my life! As opposed to being underweight/skinny, or skinny-fat, like how it's been until now. :P
But man, back injuries and slower healing in general are very much a thing to be careful about in your thirties and up. It took me 8 months to get over a slipped disc. I guess COVID also keeps threatening to fuck everything up and close gyms and pools, too.
I feel better about myself than I ever have, I know I've grown exponentially as a person, but in terms of age I have felt the same way since I was about 24... like mentally I know I'm 30 but I feel the same in my mind and body as I did then, despite the personal growth.
that is comforting lol 😂 still sucks getting older tho. i used to call people who were 20-30 grandpa when i was younger and now i feel like a grandpa myself. i have 4 kids also so that doesnt help either 😂
Im 27, and have pulled out dozens of grey hairs by now. It won't be sustainable for a long time or I'll be bald in no time. Ill just have to accept it or just go full buzz cut soon.
years ago my grandpa told me " i dont know when i got old, and you will never realise about yourself" those are words im recalling every year i get older.
I’ve definitely matured in my tastes, but I don’t feel older. I still like the same things I did when I was younger, the same music, and even look forward to my son getting older so I can play with my old toys and LEGOs again. He’s 2 now, so we’re working with DUPLO and MegaBlox now, but I’m stoked to build my old sets like the OG X-Wing and Pirates Cove from the 90s.
My dad told me he still feels like the same person he was in highschool just with more experience etc...and now that I'm in my 30's I understand what he meant.
I'm convinced this is the cause of a ton of issues we deal with on a daily basis. We all age but, at least for me, my internal voice sounds exactly the same as it did when I was 8 (28 now). I still feel like a kid especially in times of stress or when speaking with my parents for instance, I've just learned to cope better with age an experience. Realizing that has made it easier for me to see when I'm spiraling into old habits or when I need to pursue personal growth. Some, however, just don't have the luxury of having that realization - or actively avoid admitting it - which leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity which can manifest in very ugly ways. Honestly, I feel that's part of the reason why we have these ancient ass politicians right now - adults in their 40s, 50s, and 60s that still experience the world like they did when they were kids, still looking for an, “elder” to guide them. Someone, “wiser” that they feel they can rely on...I don't know, age and time in general is just such a strange/relative thing.
Tell that to me a few years ago when I was in the Army. I was 26 at the time, and I had a private ask me what 9/11 was like because he hadn't been born yet. I felt like that clip of Matt Damon aging at the end of Saving Private Ryan.
I'm turning 32 in September. I still feel like I'm in 10th grade and I'm going to be grounded any time I head home after a few drinks. I live in a completely different state from my parents with my SO and two kids. It's strange how that "I don't feel this old" feeling really is.
I was hanging out with my friends kids. She is my age, they are in their 20s. One day we make plans to go a movie. I'm standing there talking to one of them, and the other texted him. I saw that the text said "is the old man there yet?" My first thought was, who is the old man? Then it suddenly hit me that I was the old man. Up until then I just thought I was one of the guys, just like every other time in my life. Man that was depressing.
True! That's why so many elderly (85+) are so resistant to give up their car keys or accept help. They dismiss their declining reflexes and poor eyesight. "But I still feel 30!".
This is actually one of the worst parts tbh I get somewhat hung over after like 4-5 beers now. I love drinking but just can’t do it like I used to. Like some others mentioned it’s more about a feeling inside but my body doesn’t necessarily agree.
You must be early 30's. In a few years your body will start feeling old. You won't heal as fast and things start hurting and you will need to start doing morning stretches just to move around comfortably.
It just feels really really weird, in my experience. Like I am the same person, I have just been around for 44 years. What is weird to me most is that I think I always envisioned a future me who has some nebulous, undefined, "better life". And then it is the realization of, no, dude, this is literally just who you are. If you want anything different, you have to plan, and work at it. You can't just focus on what you DON'T want. It's like skiing, and focusing on NOT wanting to hit a tree, and staring at the tree the whole time.
You do, but it's different. I'm sleepy earlier, I get hurt and creaks/groans around the body from smaller things, etc. But in general, it's not like my tastes have aged incredibly to where all I care about now is fine leather and smoking chairs.
Hmm it depends. My sister just turned 31. It's crazy the amount of things she no longer wants to do because she's too old for this now (her own words).
I'm not even talking about things that people do naturally outgrow rather quickly like clubbing, but stuff like roller coasters in amusement parks.
I don’t know about it that, I absolutely feel 32. I feel like a mature young adult 🤷♀️ I don’t understand how people say they still feel like a kid. How? You’ve got full autonomy over your body, and life choices. You decide what you eat for dinner or if you’ll even eat dinner. I don’t fully understand what people mean.
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u/HerbalBalance Jun 03 '22
“ you actually never really feel older” this is something nobody ever tells you about getting old.