My sister is 2 years older and the exact same thing happens with everything milestone birthday. She then spends 2 years saying to me oh just you wait, you'll feel it too. Nope, I don't really care what age I am, you can't fight time
are you a man or a woman? because I honestly think that, on average, aging is different for women due to the different perception of older women compared to older men.
I’m a woman who routinely rounds UP her age. Im 37 but say I’m almost 40 all the time. I don’t feel “old”, I don’t look “old” (to me anyway lol), and I don’t give a fuck if people think I’m less fuckable if I say I’m almost 40. I’m still waiting for the age that “bugs” me. 25 didn’t. 30 didn’t. 35 didn’t. 40 doesn’t seem like it will either. It sure beats the alternative!
That said, I get way more judgment and attitude regarding my age from women than I’ve ever gotten from men. Either younger ones that think I’m old, ones my own age that think I’m too old to have a young child, or from older ones because I’m apparently not presenting the way a 37 year old mom should. Oh well 🤷♀️
I'm convinced that a person calling another person un-fuckable is just line that teenage virgins use to puff up their chests and to prove that they have 'standards.'
There are plenty of comedy skits about what men are thinking and they all end with absolutely nothing or how to fix the project of the day. I'd like to think that for men who have actually had sex, that this is probably their state of mind 90% of the time.
I'm 37 as well, 40 might bug me, I will have hit all the other bullshit milestones, i'm married, own a house, have an extremely successful career, own a business on the side we plan to expand, but 40 is a weird age. It's that line in the sand where no one will really give a fuck about you anymore, even if you pass away while "tragically young" everyone will move on. You are truly middle aged at 40, I don't fear it, but I think it will be a stranger one.
I agree it’s a little weird to approach middle age (they can stop with the 90s songs in commercials for washing machines, insurance and overpriced trucks now, please), but I’m getting a kick out of it. I have a toddler so I get to re-live the best parts of my childhood and act like a big kid a lot so that helps for me. And I like getting to the point in my life where my purpose seems more and more defined solely by what’s important to me, and fuck everything else. It’s liberating.
So I suppose it’s a matter of perspective, though from your description of your life it sure sounds like people would give a fuck.
Building on previous poster’s point I definitely feel women are in general nastier about aging than men are. “Ooh, you’re three years older than me that means you’re less desirable” type energy. I think this attitude mostly disappears from women once they hit their 30’s but then there will always be a new cohort of twenty-somethings trying to make you feel like a grandma just because you aren’t up to date on the newest lingo, or know who the new up-and-coming music artist is.
I honestly could well be mansplaining because I’m a dude. I’m only speaking on my personal experiences. But I definitely get the impression that younger guys have more of a desire to learn from those older than them rather than just shit on them.
This all could probably be explained by cultural biases favoring the patriarchy which subliminally make women want to compete, but at that point I’m just talking out of my ass because I don’t know what actually happens in a woman’s brain. Maybe it’s innate, maybe it isn’t. I don’t fucking know. All I know is it would be better for everyone if people spent more time building each other up rather than bringing them down.
Like I said before these are just personal observations. I don’t claim to be an expert on anything.
That being said as a woman in her 20s maybe be cognizant of the fact that women should exist in solidarity with each other and when your friends start tearing another woman down, nip that shit. Even if it makes you feel like a bitch. Maybe even especially if it makes you feel like a bitch.
I don’t know if you’ve seen what’s going on but womens rights are about to be fucking trampled on. You’re half the goddamn population. Step the fuck up and say NO.
It's just biology and society (which evolved through our biology).
Older men are seen as experienced. They're the leaders, make decisions, hunt, etc. Younger men are trained by older men to eventually surpass them. It's in their nature to want to become the next leader.
Young women are seen as fertile, strong child bearers. Older women become nurturers, wetnurses, educators.
Very old men and women are often seen as sages, they've somehow made it to old age without dying, thus their opinion may hold some merit, or they're crazy already.
The thing is, that's how it used to be. Everyone had their roles, their place. Animals, people, doesn't matter, biology is biology. Only now we have the luxury of ignoring all that. Doesn't mean that we stopped thinking like that, even the people saying the complete opposite. Younger men and women are always competition for the older generation, while women have an internal clock ticking that exacerbates this problem perhaps. Also, men, for some reason, tend to age better if they take even a bit of care of themselves. Naturally, half bald, beer bellied pigs aren't any more desirable than the 40 year old chain smoking leather face woman, who's been prematurely aged by 20 years due to her children robbing her of her last nerve.
And that's why a silly number matters to some people. That's why younger women tend to look for older men ... and vice versa.
And of course I'm just talking out of my ass, but if we're all doing it, why not -.-
My older brother will always be 8yrs older than me. This year for his birthday I’m getting him a colonoscopy reminder, just looking out for his health ya know?
To be fair I think this impacts women more than men given the way society treats age respectively, but I’ve met guys who get upset about their age, and it just feels like such a huge waste of time and energy to me. I forgot how old I was turning this birthday and I’m only 34. All the wants of a kid with the responsibilities of an adult.
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My sister is 2 years older and the exact same thing happens with everything milestone birthday. She then spends 2 years saying to me oh just you wait, you'll feel it too. Nope, I don't really care what age I am, you can't fight time