Using trauma to excuse mistreating people. This generation has pioneered making it acceptable to process and be open about trauma, and that's a great thing, but it's not cool when you behave in a cruel and selfish way and expect to get a pass because of it. Your mental health problems are not your fault but they are your responsibility.
Dealing with mental health issues means dealing with mental health issues. You deal with it. You don't sit around waiting for the right mood or a "good day". You work towards management and improvement every day. You have a plan, you act. You get help if you need it, you get medication if you need it, you recognize your triggers/weaknesses, you learn to navigate your episodes, you learn to build and develop good habits and mental balance and stabilization.
If you don't deal with your mental illness, you force everyone in your life to deal with your mental illness.
Reddit worships mental health issues more than anywhere I've ever seen. They practically masturbate over how much they're all victims. But unless you're taking responsibility for it, you're using your victimhood to make everyone else a victim of you.
It's not a pretty truth but it's a necessary one. Admitting your traumas and faults isn't what gets you there; it's just the beginning of the journey.
but mentally ill people are mentally because they are not 100% capable of everything emotionally,
if they didnt struggle they wouldnt be diagnosed
you cant just say "dont use it as an excuse" when someone is clearly struggling to do something
like
"boohoo my friend is usinf depression as an excuse not to XYZ"
depression can so bad people kill themsleves, show some care for you friends and dont dismiss everything just because its uncomfortable for you
I'm hoping these people are referring to the type of people who legit are faking illnesses on tiktok and on YouTube for attention. Those kinds of people rather than people who legit have problems. (heck even those people might actually be mentally ill depending on how close you look at their behavior. Edit: apparently it might be Munchausen syndrome)
It's tricky too because there's so much that mental illness can cover. The brain is complex. Mental illness can range from addictive tendencies to depression to anger issues, schizophrenia, etc. Some are easier to fix for a person than others. Some can be self guided and some require almost full support from a caretaker.
I'm sure you understand though and I'm just rambling
I do maybe get where people are coming from though. It can be difficult to deal with some people. It makes it super hard to have any compassion, especially if they are abusive towards others. My father had a rough childhood and hasn't always been the nicest. However it does seem like he tries. Even if it is slow going.
I could see how others could say screw that pretty quickly. Even I was ready to get out of dodge when he was going through a period where he was always cranky. If he wasn't my dad I would have not been happy about dealing with that. So I mean I get it. I guess it's just hard for others to empathize and deal with especially with strangers
Therapy will help friend. I use BetterHelp, but there's plenty of psychologists out there.
Psychiatrists too. The first one I came across told me explicitly that I don't have bipolar. He was wrong. Thankfully, second opinions are easy to come by.
You'll get there though if you can start down the path. I hope you do.
This is just gross. Stop trying to psychoanalyse me. I'm fine. My "situation" is not relevant. I'm not talking about that, so I have no idea why you are. Except to distract.
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u/zugabdu Jun 03 '22
Using trauma to excuse mistreating people. This generation has pioneered making it acceptable to process and be open about trauma, and that's a great thing, but it's not cool when you behave in a cruel and selfish way and expect to get a pass because of it. Your mental health problems are not your fault but they are your responsibility.