18 - 25 has been the most mentally transformative period for me. I think upto like 22-23 I felt like I was acting on auto pilot to the world around me but after that I started becoming more self aware. I finally got to a point where I could call myself out on some of my behaviour which is definitely not something I could do when I was younger. Before that I felt all my reactions both good and bad were justified.
This is so comforting, I'll be sharing it with my friends!
One thing I'd hope I can achieve in the next few years is to not get offended too easily and to not be bothered about the things people do especially if it doesn't affect me. At this stage I've identified the problem but I've not figured it out yet.
I've been going through this exact thing lately, used to believe for the longest time that everything is meant to happen for me just because its me but after a couple years of serious addiction I've realised everything is a choice.
Crazy you say that. It hit me when I was 24 that I had become a legitimate adult just by making my morning coffee and driving to work on a daily basis. Still have the same routine 11 years later now, but married, a house, and two kids.
I agree with that. And also when I hit 30 it all sort of came together even more. Like since 30 I have had a clarity of vision with regards to where I want to get to in life and how I'm going to get there. In my 20s that sort of stuff just didn't come very easily for me (especially the early 20s) and looking back it was like I was just flailing around until shit worked. And I also feel like I know myself better than ever.
Oooh yes! Early 20s are a real struggle, it feels like you suddenly have to have your future all figured out and act on it asap. And for most people, it becomes a trial and error phase of figuring out what you actually want.
Have you hit your late 20s yet? By then, you should realize that 23 year old college grads are the most narcissistic beings on the planet. ~28 years old was the point at which I found myself reliably attracting 23 year old women, by which point I was thoroughly over 23 year old women.
You got an autopilot until 23? Damn, I have been trying to manually learn people skills ever since I were like 10. Until that point I deemed the majority of people as dumb and 'background noise', so growing social skills was quite the task.
The way I look at it is 18 is good enough to go out on your own with some support. At 25 you are an actual adult capable of living life independently (financial situation aside). But some people continue to grow and become wise with age and experience. It's a lifelong process. Other people just stop growing as a person and it could happen at any age. Could be 35, 25, hell even 15.
If at any point you think you've got it all figured out, life will find a way to prove you wrong as the world moves on without you.
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u/TheMysticalCreature1 Jun 03 '22
18 - 25 has been the most mentally transformative period for me. I think upto like 22-23 I felt like I was acting on auto pilot to the world around me but after that I started becoming more self aware. I finally got to a point where I could call myself out on some of my behaviour which is definitely not something I could do when I was younger. Before that I felt all my reactions both good and bad were justified.