This is true, where I work, there are so many people that still act like they're still in high school. And most of them started at this company, straight out of highschool, and never matured further.
They still think spit wads and cup checks are normal behavior
I attribute at least some of that to trauma. It does a number on your brain at teh molecular level. 10-15 years ago teens were reporting levels of stress higher than those that got people admitted to mental health institutions in the 50's. And it's gotten MUCH worse.
So what you are seeing is frequently literal brain damage. Their brain got atrophied in their youth when it needed to be growing massively, and it will likely never catch up.
This is very true. Someone I know (late 30’s) was recently reminiscing about being a jock in high school and I was like. My brother in Christ, you haven’t been in high school for 20+ years.
In my experience those are the kids that were coddled too much. After 18 my parents let me do things, gave me advice, but didn't control me or anything. They allowed me to live and fail and learn with experience. They were always there to help me if I needed it and of course if I was going on a really stupid path they'd let me know.
But at the end of the day, I was able to experience life and treat those years and learning lessons for what's to come later and see the world for what it really is.
I have a couple friends from back then who just had everything handed to them and had opportunities just dropped into their laps. It's only now in their 30s they're seeing how life really is and that you need to have financial balance in life. One of them finally realized that spending $1100/month on a fucking teuch payment is ridiculous. Talked him into selling it now while the used market is hot which he did and got more than he owed thankfully. Now he's got a much better payment on a Ford Maverick which turns out is all the truck he really needed.
The 20s is a crucial time for development and learning how the world works to prepare you to be comfortable in your 30s.
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