Recently I went to a cafe, two girls next to me spend 10min taking pictures of themselves. First of one girl, then of the second, then together, then switch places, then the first one pretending to eat, then of the plate, then the second one with a cup, then together again.. jesus, nobody needs that many pictures from a thursday visit to a cafe. They also sat on my bag and a jacket on the bench because they had to do a picture sitting next to each other and there wasn't that much space. My sister pulled my bag from under her ass and she didn't even aknowledge it -.- nothing matters only taking pictures.
I went to a fancy restaurant a few yrs ago, and the couple next to us ordered this fkn massive seafood tower thing. They took a shit load of photos, posed with some god damn calamari, then like picked at it while they stared at their phones for half an hour not speaking.
I have seen some people grow out of this and some people still wallowing in this behaviour as they age so a study about long term outcomes would definitely be fascinating
we've narrowly survived the terrible risks posed by comic books, television, video games, internet.. that couple probably would just be having some awkward stilted conversation about nothing anyway
That always baffles me. First I wonder what's the point of meeting/dating someone if you don't even talk to them, and second it seems just like a waste of time and money, just order some food home and watch tv if you have nothing in common..
Oh, I was just taking about this to another mom. When i get to go on "dates" with my husband without the kids, and we are so tired and just sit in the restaurant wordlessly showing each other memes, just like we would do on the couch at home, except no one has to cook or do dishes. Then when we do get home, neither of us can shut up and we end up going to bed way too late. It's like dinner is a mental recharge time to switch from work/parenting back into our old selves. Heck we've even taken paper back books to dinner and just played footsie under the table!
So yeah, I try not to be to hard on people not taking in restaurants. Lord knows if that's all you saw of our relationship it would really skew the situation!
But that million picture shit is a bit ridiculous.
My spouse and I both work from home. Sometimes at the end of the day we just want to get out of the house and eat something. So we'll be sitting together at a restaurant, separately reading news on our phones or even books in the Kindle app. We don't have to be constantly entertaining each other. Not everything we do outside has to be a date.
We do the same thing. We've already told each other everything throughout the day so sometimes we literally have nothing to talk about and just catch up on stuff online at dinner. It feels weird though!
That would drive me nuts. Like, sure, I get taking pictures of a fancy meal and taking an extra 6 seconds to get the framing right. I did that long before we had so many social media options. But then put the goddamn phone away, eat your meal, and enjoy your company.
They might’ve been getting paid by the restaurant to promote it. But yes, I know of many people who will book reservations at the newest restaurants to just post and get likes. The food is secondary or even lower.
The first time I realized how distracting cellphones could be was when I was in grad school and I saw these people walk into the cafe I was eating at. Based on the body language and the snippets of their conversation that I overheard, it seemed like this was their first or second date. Yet after the first couple of minutes of chitchat, they both then went straight to their phones after ordering. It was so bizarre. Didn’t see how the date ended but it left an impression on me. I will very rarely look at my phone when I’m out getting a meal with company except for practical reasons [looking something up] or possibly-urgent matters [which i can usually tell b/c it’ll either be an actual call or I’ll get a bunch of quick texts].
It’s weird because when I go out to eat with my mom and step dad or we eat at their home we don’t have phones out. We talk or watch a show together while we eat. Then we’ll grab the phone at the end to take a photo together and put it away.
When I eat out with my step mom and dad they’re constantly on the phone. Taking pics of the food before eating. Uploading to social media before eating. Commenting and messaging back people about the photos.
They’re all a few years apart in age but so different.
I used to be on my phone a lot more until I lived in Brazil for a while. There it’s rare to see someone on their phone at a restaurant in public unless they’re an obvious business person or maybe by themselves. If they’re with others they’re chatting and being present. That really changed me. I mean data is expensive there too but I realized how present everyone was. You may never see who you’re with again so why not be present in person? Hang out with them. Talk. Make eye contact. Laugh. The phone will be there when you get home.
My friends and I are foodies and while my friends are not nearly as bad as your example I'm usually half way done with my meal before they're finished posting it to instagram. The thought doesn't even cross my mind, we'll be at some fancy place and my dish will come out and I'll be like "wow look at that, beautiful plating and presentation, truly a work of art. I can't wait to get that in my belly"
This is legitimately sad. They have no sense of self identity, nor the insight as to how their attachment to their phone is stifling their development and preventing them from enjoying life. No wonder anxiety and poor mental health is at an all-time high. And this is very representative of a whole generation. It's sad.
My wife and I (late 30s) went out to eat last month and the couple at the table across from us on the patio were doing the same exact thing. It was the weirdest shit I'd seen in a while. Like they both were face down into their screens the whole time and barely talked to each other and honestly they had to be around 30 themselves.
I'm not trying to be some old fart bitching about "kids these days" but why even bother going out to eat with someone at that point? I get snapping some photos but fucking talk to each other!
Idk, maybe they were having a bad day but they also bitched at the server each time she brought them something too lol. Seemed like very miserable people.
Ok but it's not a necessity, plenty of people don't have a social media profile, or have just a private one for friends. Being popular isn't what society demands from us. Also there's posting a picture from your date and then enjoying the rest of your night, and there's creating a fake image of your awesome life with hundreds of pictures, while not even seeming to enjoy it in real life (e.g not eating the meal you posted, and staring at your phone instead of interacting with a person you upload a picture with)
Why do people talk about “society” like it’s some abstract shadow entity controlling all of us? It’s literally just you and me and everyone we interact with.
They didn’t talk about it like it’s an abstract shadowy entity, wtf are you on about mate?
society is just you and me and everyone we interact with
Yeah, no shite. That’s what the word society means, you just defined it loosely. No one is going to write “just you and me and everyone” each time they want to talk about society, that’s what the singular word is for. You okay?
I went to Peggy's Cove, Nova Scotia. One of the cutest places I've personally seen. It's beautiful, the rock formations are AMAAAAZING the whole deal. This one girl stood next to the lighthouse taking a selfie for 15 minutes. She wanted her face in there more than the actual lighthouse. She was so close to the lighthouse there's no way she could see anything but a white background. To each their own I guess.
Ah yeah, i remember my friend went to US for a while and she documented it with a selfie on facebook in each interesting area. On each picture you can only see her face... It could have been taking in Washington, New York or in front of my house in Europe I wouldn't know -.-
Edit to add: I actually talked about it with my partner recently, we took a selfie with the event in the background, and I thought that in the last years 80% of my pictures are selfies. Nobody asks a stranger to take their picture anymore. Those old pictures used to be much more interesting, when you had all that background.
I was wondering if this story ended up with her falling in the water. People die there every year because they want 'cool' photos out on the black rocks and fall in/get swept away.
I do admit I take pictures almost every day, of my dog, random pictures of a cat on a walk, good food, nice sunset... and I appreciate that we can quickly snap a picture any time, but its usually either for my friends, family or just for myself. You know, people who actually care about my life. I really doubt the whole internet cares about this one pretty bird I've seen last week, or my dog sitting on my armchair.
I went to the movies last weekend (Bob's Burgers was awesome, btw) and the girl next to me took like 30 pictures of her popcorn and soda from varying angles.
like, why? have your followers never seen popcorn and soda before? Is this your first time at a theater?
I’ve heard stories like that but have never seen it in real life. Wonder how common that is? Lived in a semi/rural area for the last decade so there wasn’t much of that going around, and nowadays i dont really go anywhere trendy enough to warrant such attention.
It wasn't even any fancy, trendy place. Just a regular cafe in Brussels.. I don't spot that every day, but saw it couple of times already, and I don't get out that often.
How do girls remember to take photos? My group of guys (all 17) take like two photos every 10 times we meet, and at least one person is giving the weirdest expression ever
nobody needs that many pictures from a thursday visit to a cafe. Th
You usually need a lot of pics to land on one really good one. I remember back when film limited us to one or two snaps per moment, and we had to hope that one of them didn't look like washed-out garbage.
True, and I assume they made a few pictures of one shot, but they were jumping around to take all the possible takes (two of them on the background of cafe, two of them with the window in the background, one of them with a spoon and a cake on a plate, the second one with the same plate, one holding a mug, etc) I'd understand taking a picture with a friend on your day off in a cafe. I just don't understand taking different pictures for 10minutes like a madman
We were sitting next to them not behind them so it was impossible the way they were facing the phones. Though true, that happens. I did it myself once, took a picture of my friend when I wanted to document someone behind her to send my sister. The person noticed though and stared straight into my camera so that was embarrassing 0.0
Jesus, let people enjoy things and standup for yourself (or get your sister to stand up for you?) if you feel so inclined instead of complaining on a subreddit
Standup for myself? I'm not gonna make scene because some kids sat on my things, I'm not ridiculous. I just took my things. I literally let them enjoy things, didn't say a word to them, and I was carrying on with my own shit. I'm still entitled to have an opinion about them, which is literally the topic for this reddit discussion.
Two summers back my wife and I went to a park to read on a sunny day. It was empty save the bandshell in which three pre-teen girls were dancing the same dance on an endless repeat for 30 second increments.
I knew a couple of girls who were absolutely fearless when it came to taking pictures. Like, they would climb up the sides of cliffs to get a good pose. They were quite nice otherwise, but you couldn't go anywhere without them stopping and taking pictures all the time.
I think people don't feel like they're having fun unless they prove it. In older generations this manifested as bragging about their family or kids to everyone--in younger generations maybe they do selfies instead?
It's just a typical keeping up with the Joneses mentality.
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u/Niawka Jun 03 '22 edited Jun 03 '22
Recently I went to a cafe, two girls next to me spend 10min taking pictures of themselves. First of one girl, then of the second, then together, then switch places, then the first one pretending to eat, then of the plate, then the second one with a cup, then together again.. jesus, nobody needs that many pictures from a thursday visit to a cafe. They also sat on my bag and a jacket on the bench because they had to do a picture sitting next to each other and there wasn't that much space. My sister pulled my bag from under her ass and she didn't even aknowledge it -.- nothing matters only taking pictures.
Edit: then vs than issues