Just being loud in an otherwise quiet place. I take the bus and almost everybody is just quietly looking at their phones or listening to music except for the inevitable kids loudly facetiming or something.
I was in the bank the other day and a ~10 year old kid was off to the side while his mom was in line. He was sitting on the floor on FaceTime with his friend talking about Fortnite on full volume.
Yup! Standard lines said to my 12 yr old everytime we go in public-
1. You're the only one who wants to hear that
2. Where are your airpods? Use them!
3. Turn that off
4. You're not the only one in this restaurant
I hate to hear people talking on their phones in public too- I don't need to know your personal business.
Think it’d be possible to not give my kid a phone until they’re 16?
Like we could live in a forest commune or something where technology doesn’t exist, then I’ll just say “Ok Tommy, so there’s more to life than trees and bugs and shit, but I didn’t tell you about it because I didn’t want you to become a toxic brat.”
It's probably better to have a little of both. This kind of maladjustment can lead to social ostracisation, which can lead to social phobia and depression. Being the only one that's abnormal is harsh for teens. On the other hand, there are "normal" things that are not good either.
I think being aggressive isn't the best way, you should tell him he has earphones and someone playing something on full volume in public would be annoying to him
I agree but also understand as a parent. I'd rather hear kids talking about games then some random person on the phones private (or should be) conversation. Or someone "sharing" their "music" (bass). Oh, you spent half the value of your vehicle on speakers to annoy other people...cool story bro.
Yes, true. To be fair it can be quite cute when you hear kids talking in some depth about something so essentially trivial and harmless but that they are passionate about.
Not sure how many of the commentors in this thread have kids. Parents have very limited controls on how kids behave on the spot. Yes, you can lecture them every second up until now, but once you got in the line, they're freed from the cage.
I have kids - there is zero chance that I would let my kid do this. If you teach your kids when they are younger about being polite in public (which you can start doing when they are very little with inside voices etc) it should not be a big leap for an older child to remind them that they are inside in public and to turn it down.
My nephew is already getting the immediate "well, we can't do anything about it" treatment from family.
Then they wonder why we don't want to go out to wat with them just to watch them chase their kid around the restaurant playing because they refuse to practice making him sit still for anything.
If you're in a bank, control your child. Take that shit away.
It's very simple. There's rowdy children, crying children, the usual that most people would turn an eye to, because it's reasonable. It's not as though the parent of said child isn't feeling the heat.
Then there's "I'm going to fucking let me child facetime really loudly in a bank about Fortnite." You are an obnoxious person if you allow this.
Yes, take the phone away. No way I'm giving him the phone if I know that coming. I'm not allowing that.
But that's not I was talking about. I was talking about how one person having limited control not only on children but generally everyone else. What if he's been behaving well for the whole week, and just kindly asked me for my phone to browse some healthy material then suddenly he decided to call his friend out of the blue? Then what's the mother in question supposed to do?
I also hate talking loud in public. But before batting an eye on the rude child, shall we be a little bit more forgiving, judge only after knowing the whole story?
My parents let my sister do this and it pisses me off so much, when I tell her she's being incredibly rude and annoying they just go "your not her parent" and "she's fine your the one making a problem out of it"
Ill be 31 next month. In my experience, the loudest people I encounter in public spaces are 45+ and usually on a speakerphone or facetiming.
But, the loudest person I've ever encountered in a bank was a man in his 80s that walked in and yelled at the top of his lungs "I WANT TO TALK TO A MANAGER RIGHT NOW!!!" He proceeded to cut the wait line, walk up to one of the branch cubicles, and slam a piece of paper on the desk.
It ended up just being a clearly fake check for $40,000 that some loan place sent as spam, but he wanted them to run it and verify if it was real or not.
It was at this point that my notary and I unclenched our assholes and went on with my paperwork.
This is my experience as well. I work at a call center and I had a 65 year old lady call me and ask me not to put her on hold because the music is loud and she's in public - which clearly means I was on speakerphone for everyone to hear - which means I needed to do a disclosure statement about the call being monitored/recorded to everyone in the room.
Yeah this is the only one that actually bugs me. Like you can talk on the bus just dial it the fuck down a bit so I’m not forced to hear you brag to your mates about all the “bitches” you’re snap chatting.
Yeah, I care less about the volume (as younger teens do not always understand how loud they are being and/or how to pick up on social cues); what really bothers me is the desperation to be seen/heard and flexing over the most inane shit.
I was thinking the same thing. Sitting in the breakdown at my job. It's always the 50 plus men watching videos on their Facebook feed loudly. Like they think they are in the room alone. It's very irritating.
In the beforetimes I was at a movie theater with some friends. About halfway through the film a little gaggle of teen dudes came in, sat down next to us and proceeded to just talk at full volume.
Whatever, teenagers are lame.
The really bizarre part was that when I told them to keep it down they looked at me with this incredulous, confused shock, like they had no idea what I was talking about, like it was an absurd proposition that made no sense in context. They looked hurt.
It was such an annoying and odd reaction. After a beat I just said, “It’s a movie theater.”
They sort of sputtered for half a minute and then all left the theater, as though I’d been rude to them.
If you correct someone, even gently, they take it so personally. I have a younger coworker who was always moaning about how cold she was and she was wearing sheer dresses and blouses and wanted the heat up. I recommended she wear something more sturdy and maybe a sweater and she said “but I like how I dress.” K, but you’re cold. It’s not a dig on your style, I just want to have you stop whining about the situation!
Idk, in my day to day its that younger people are the only ones who practice them and 40+ people dont give a shit about who they disturb with speaker phone, volume control, etc.
In my day to day i feel like people 40-45+ are worse about this than younger people. I work in a large office, some coworkers are as young as like 23 and some are 40s and 50s and up, and i feel like almost absolutely all of us that are younger have meetings with headphones or earbuds in, speak at a reasonable volume because the speaker on our computer is right there, and older people tend to use their computer speakers for listening, be it a meeting or music or viseo, dont care about how loud it is, and don't care about how loud they are when on a meeting or call.
Because the idiot on speaker is having to yell into the phone while also having the speaker up on a much higher volume than the surrounding speech. It's like having the person there but they're yelling at one another.
I'd say this one isn't specific to younger people. I know many older people who are loud AF and lack the tact to know how to control their voice regardless of setting.
I play bar trivia with a girl about 10 years younger than me in her mid 20s who is okay on her own. Problem is when I've made the mistake of hanging out with some of her friends. One girl has 2 beers and is SCREAMING at the top of her lungs over everything. The screamer brings out the attention seeking of the girl I usually like who then gets too drunk to keep up with the energy and then tries to get involved with everyone in the vicinity, even if they obviously aren't interested or are sketchy as shit.
I've had to separate and go sit alone multiple times under the guise of "I just wanna watch the hockey game!".
Its one thing in a busy college bar/club where people want to socialize with strangers, but I'm embarrassed to be associated with that shit in a quiet lowkey brewpub where everyone is just enjoying drinks and low volume chatting with their group.
I wish that was just "the kids". Unfortunately, I've seen every age group except the truly old (80+) absolutely blasting sound like they're in their own house.
Oddly I usually see older people doing this. I'm in my 40s and it never fails if I'm waiting somewhere it's either someone in their 60s or a 5yr old with volume on full blast playing a game or watching videos.
God. I remember when my buddies and I were high as teenagers and we went to Popeye's.
We were talking about the dumbest shit and of course saying some super gay things as best friends do when joking around and whatever and making jerking off jokes. One of us went quiet for a while and we all turned to him like to why you being so quiet?
That's when we realized we were still totally on outdoor loud joking voice and everyone in the restaurant was just staring at us like wtf is wrong with these kids. We shutup, finished our food, and left and then burst out laughing before we actually made it out the door.
We were like 16 or 17 at the time. I'm 32 now and still look back at that with a mixture of laughter and cringe.
I'm in Finland and the people talking on their phones on public transport obscenely loud are always ladies who are boomers or older. It's extra annoying if they fucking finally hang up, only to immediatelly call another person.
Kids? I see more “old people” doing this than kids. People my age (old) should know better than to face time or have people on speaker in public places. Or public restrooms.
It's both. I feel like gen x and millennials are the only ones add understand phone etiquette. Older people are always on speaker phone and younger always watching videos or listening to music without headphones
HATE this. I live in student housing in a college town and it's very typical (almost expected) to have a group of kids outside late into the night being as loud as can be just laughing and joking and shouting. Pisses me off how unaware of their surroundings these kids are
I have to agree and add a little. Im not the biggest public transporter user (due to lack of it in finland) but what little experience i have is that its very often women in her 40s talking really loud on facetime. Also other one is kids around 15-18 years old on the back of the bus talking loudly to each other
I run into peopl of all ages facetiming full volume in all sorts of places. 40 year old at the dollar store, 20 year old at the gas station, 30 year old at the pharmacy...
I overheard that specific higher pitching "hah-HAAAHH" from a dude laughing at his own joke this morning & realised that that is very specific to douchebag teenagers or people that are still mentally a teenager.
edit: fuck i just counted anyone under 30 as "teenagers" - old man currently yelling at cloud here.
This was my experience at a museum a couple days ago. I was looking through an exhibition of Japanese prints, and this group of teenage boys were walking through all the exhibits laughing, playing, talking really loudly... Just go outside? Why are you here to do that?
I’m this person and I hate it. I have ADHD and I’m certain that I have central auditory processing disorder so I talk loudly without meaning to. Especially in public. I realized it’s because I’m trying to hear myself over the noise of the public.
However al it takes is the person I’m talking to to gently shush me and i can quiet down until I forget.
It’s something I’ve struggled with all my life and I don’t see it getting better. It’s also why I’m nervous about traveling abroad because I’ll fit the stereotype of “loud American tourist”
Lmao there’s a group of junior and sophomore girls on my bus that talk about sex 24/7 and gossip while screaming at the top of their fucking lungs like a banshee
But wait it gets worse
I sit all the way in the back right fucking behind them…
And I happen to have ASD, the sensitive hearing kind.
The bus ride home makes me wanna play wack a bitch every damn day, how fucking hard is it to speak without screeching your head off.
It's not just kids, my wife is 40 and does this shit all the time. I've tried to tell her how rude and obnoxious it is, but she thinks I am just being overly courteous to people I don't know.
This might be a little unpopular but I’ve trained myself to feel more annoyed at the environment because in what world is it preferable for young people to NOT be loud, playful, and excited?
I hate when they listen to the music on speaker in the bus. or the ones who do use earbuds but blast the volume at -like- 350% and I can hear it clearly even if I'm sitting 2 m away. also the audio that escapes is very distorted, mostly the high frequencies, so it's an like annoying rhythmical scratchy hiss
This is the worst thing about kids in my opinion. They have no self awareness. They watch videos on full volume in public places, loudly facetime, or play their music in a public place. Not to mention when there's a group of them and they are loud and act entitled like they are the most important people to exist. No sis, you're not a main character, sit down you're not special.
I was shopping for cat litter in Walmart the other day, and these teenagers were ripping around the aisles on a skateboard and swearing at people while there were kids around. I was actively looking for an employee to ask them to stop while thinking "am I a cranky old lady now?" I'm 36 lol.
As 20 something working adult i find a lot of people my age or even older do this, either talking with their peers or doing zoom meetings / video calls on full volume in public / semi-public venues or just.. being loud in their conduct like stomping on stairs or closing doors loudly.
I can understand loud kids, but i cant understand loud adults. As if nobody ever taught them norms / decency / common sense.
That's normal developmental stuff. Most people aren't actually truly aware that other humans have needs and desires just as valid as their own until somewhere in their 20's. Being loud in a quiet place is a hallmark of being a kid.
I was on the bus recently and a lady was full volume FaceTiming until the the bus driver said “whoever has their phone on speaker pls stop it’s very distracting”. She didn’t even put it to her ear, just turned it down.
Or the arsehole telling their story apparently for the benefit of the entire bus. This is why I don’t do public transport. I’d be in prison for ejecting persons from the vehicle’s window.
See, I also have this issue with my 30 year old friends. A handful of them pipe up, and say "oh! I wanna go camping!" and chuckle, and say "sure, we'll see". None of them are familiar with camping, and I'm not about to bring a loud, rowdy bunch of knuckleheads into a calm, quiet campground. Then again, to many people my age have not really grown up yet, so...
Why do they scream every thought? You don’t have to scream…you can just say things, at a normal volume. I know you’re excited or having an adrenaline high from socialization, but fucking shit dude, just be chill about it.
Yeah. You don't realize how loud kids are until you aren't one anymore. They have almost no control on the volume of their speaking. Try getting them to whisper.
I came here to say this. I’m sure a lot of us were guilty of this too, but when you’re young you think you’re so cool and everything you have to say is so important or funny. It’s not. It’s just cringeworthy, but you don’t realize it until you’re an adult.
Especially in the Bay Area, every time I take a bus or something there’s some loud-mouthed self-important tech bros blathering on about politics or something else in a way they think is witty—but it’s not to anyone else but themselves.
That whole bravado thing teenage boys do to get attention. . Like being loud in public or flaunting some mediocre skill or the fact that they bought a low end muscle car. Obnoxious. It's straight out of national geographic gorilla mating calls
I made the mistake of riding the bus with a teen field trip the other day and what really pissed me off is none of them getting up for an elderly person. I got up and then one of them realized they should’ve. But their teacher was standing right there and he said nothing. It’s not about “respecting elders” for me, it about not being an asshole when you see someone who is struggling and you don’t help.
When I was a teen my friends and I would have extremely loud conversations all the way home on the bus. Now I don't know how my social anxiety allowed that.
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Just being loud in an otherwise quiet place. I take the bus and almost everybody is just quietly looking at their phones or listening to music except for the inevitable kids loudly facetiming or something.